• Wed, Mar 24 2010

Sing It Loud, I’m Flat-Chested and I’m Proud


Our friend and colleague Erin Carlson, posted this over at our sibling blog Crushable, and we’re curious to hear what you think about her flat-chested pride.

When I was in college at the University of Illinois, girls would wear lingerie-inspired tops, flaunt their va-va-voom cleavage and get all kinds of attention from the opposite sex. Meanwhile, I could not compete: My chest is flatter than flat, and as Debra Messing once quipped on Will And Grace, “As I hard as I push them together, there is no crease” or something to that effect. (I feel you, Debra!). My lack of boobage was a liability on my campus. One time as I walked down Green Street, a stupid frat boy yelled out, “You need bigger boobs!”; I retorted, “You need a bigger dick!” Not that I knew, of course, but that was the only response I could muster at the time. His words stung, and I began to cry.

Why is being flat-chested considered unsexy and a flaw? And while we’re judging here, why do girls think that busting out in tacky going-out-gear is sexier than covering up in a striped boatneck top?

My idea of sexy was different, obviously. While ample breasts generally ruled on campus, I began to embrace my perceived flaw as a positive: I would never have back problems, like my DDD-cup classmate who was forced to get a breast reduction or face serious health issues down the road; guys would ALWAYS stare at my face instead of my rack (seriously, this must be annoying for you well-endowed ladies); and, if I wanted to, I could wear low-cut things without looking like JWOWW from Jersey Shore.

Although thousands of A-cups get plastic surgery to transform into C-and-D cups, that was never an option for me. I can’t really afford them but also, believe it or not, I’m happy with what Mother Nature gave me. And it has been infuriating for me to watch young women succumb to societal pressure to “go bigger” and thus sexier; Heidi Montag, half of Hollywood and possibly Ali Lohan are leading this charge, and more women are jumping on the plastic-surgery bandwagon/epidemic.

So upon learning that the fourth installment of Pirates Of the Caribbean requested that actresses submit to a “jiggle test” to prove their breasts are real, I felt immediately validated! Finally, movie producers and image makers were laying down the law: No fake boobs allowed. This is a step in the right direction since American marketers digitally enhanced Pirates star Keira Knightley’s breasts for promotional material. And it’s another positive step toward building women’s confidence to embrace what they have — even if they got nothin.’

Do you have a flat chest, and are you tired of the national preference for bigger boobs? Want to grow self-esteem without surgically growing your cup size? Look no further than such mosquito-bitten stars as Keira, Debra, Kate Hudson, Selma Blair and Cameron Diaz.

That should shut up the haters. Got a story to share on this topic? Please leave your comments below!

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  • Ttilby

    I am medium-breasted myself, nothing to write home about, but I always imagine that little breasts are exquisitely sensitive and that big ol’ hanging mammos are not. Anyway, I would gladly not have any breasts at if I could be as lovely as Keira.

  • smallbreastlover

    Love em love em love em

  • Catherine

    I myself have A cup breasts. I believe that there is a reason for small breasts! That we can say we a proud with what we have, why would we want more!

  • orchid

    Hi… I am flat chested and I looooooove it.
    Why?
    1-My mom says that in the old days people used to prefer flat chested women maybe they thought bigger ones were gross : )
    Thank you mom, for making me beautiful in another era hhhhhh.
    No seriously I think what my mom wanted to say is that beauty is only a society thing that changes with time. And we all are beautiful.
    2- I never wear bra…and I hope I never will.
    3- Seeing stars as Keira, Debra, Kate Hudson, Selma Blair and Cameron Diaz help a lot.

    and sorry if my English was bad ..

  • twix

    I have seriously considered implants in the past, especially when a coworker got hers and was incredibly happy about it. But then, she was always obsessed with her flat chestedness and if it makes her happy, so be it. I think diversity is a good thing and looking like everyone else would make me a little less special, and probably a little less respected for caving to what others consider the norm. Not to mention the health risks/issues!

    Nobody has ever complained about my lack of cleavage other than children when i was 13. I firmly believe its our own insecurities that drive us to endanger our health for the sake of vanity and fitting in, and I hope more celebrities avoid the knife and wear clothes to flatter and celebrate their uniqueness. I will be very sad indeed if Keira goes under the knife, there have been too many new implants in the media lately. And btw, Kate hudson who is mentioned in this article… implants :( sigh.

  • George

    There’s always someone smaller. I knew a woman who was completely flat– no breast at all, just nipples. But, damn! did she enjoy herself in bed. And I enjoyed being with her. Some of us men– and many more than women believe– just don’t care about the size of your breasts, ladies. We’re far more interested in you. Just be yourself. And don’t, whatever you do, don’t ever, ever get implants.

  • ilovelittletits34aa

    I love flat chested women. There is no need for surgery to make them larger. There are way to many of us who love them little.

  • flatchest

    i am a flat chest. I’m not kidding. i literally have nothing. It gets to me sometimes but after reading a few articles. it helps :)
    now i’m happy i can wear a lot of cloths that DD can’t wear :p
    thanks for the article.

  • Me

    Flat chested women are so hot. Never, never ,never get implants.

  • Gigi

    Keira is small-chested. I’m flat chested (like really flat, nothing ). what is bothering me is getting clothes that are figure flattering. Otherwise i’m happy with what mother nature gave me.

    • cezzana

      i go through the same thing..

    • Lacie

      I go through the same thing…. I can’t really find clothes that look good on my body,,… sometimes it;s just hard to take when seeing girls around you are look so nice ,,,,

    • Lacie

      dam … even one close frd of mine suggested me get implants T_T, obviously she got some nice ones…. so i guess we are no longer that close

  • IRONMAN118

    TO ALL YOU “LOW SELF ESTEEM” FLAT CHESTED LADIES, HEAR THIS !!!!! THERE ARE MILLIONS OF MEN (LIKE MYSELF) , WHO FIND NOTHING SEXIER , THAN A FLAT CHESTED WOMAN…MY BETTER HALF IS AN ‘A- CUP’ , AND HAS BEEN SELF CONSCIENCE ABOUT HER BOOB SIZE EVER SINCE PUBERTY , WHEN THE OTHER GIRLS WHO WERE BEGINNING TO DEVELOPE WOULD TEASE HER (GO FIGURE , EVEN WHEN THEY’RE LITTLE…BITCHES..ARE BITCHES) ANYWAY , AFTER 12 1/2 YEARS TOGETHER , AND ME PAYING 1000′S OF HOURS OF SPECIAL ATTENTION TO HER TINY BREAST (WHICH I ABSOLUTELY ENJOYED ,AND LOOKING FORWARD TO 1000′S MORE) AND TELLING HER HOW SEXY (MY NICKNAME FOR HER BY THE WAY) I THINK SHE AND HER BODY ARE TO ME . GUESS WHAT ?????? YEP , SHE’S STILL TOTALY SELF CONSCIENCE ABOUT HER BOOB SIZE (DAMN THOSE LITTLE BITCHES), BUT SHE ALSO KNOWS THAT SHE IS A VERY DESIRABLE AND EXTREMELY SEXY WOMAN ,FLAT CHESTED AND ALL, TO ME. SO ALL YOU FLAT CHESTED LADIES OUT THERE, DONT LET SOCIETY , PEER PRESSURE , ANYBODY OR ANYTHING , MAKE YOU FEEL INADAQUETE OR BAD ABOUT YOURSELF , ESPECIALLY TO THE PIONT OF HAVING YOUR BODIES SURGICALLY ALTERED TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT “YOU” , BECAUSE ITS THE “YOU” , THAT SOME GUY (OR GAL, FOR SOME OF YA’S ) ITS THE “YOU” , JUST AS YOU ARE , THAT THEY’RE GOING TO FALL IN LOVE WITH , NOT TO MENTION , YOU’LL ALL BE THE SEXIEST THING THAT ANY OF THIER EYES WILL HAVE EVER SEEN…..TRUST ME

  • Paigey

    I’m young, I like to tell myself that I’m going somewhere with my chest size, but in truth, I know I’m not. When you’re young like I am, it’s hard not to give into peer pressure. A lotof what the big-boobed conformists say is really hurtful. And to Ironman118 up on the first comment, I love ehat you say, but you only say it because you cat-whipped. If you were single, boobs would most likely matter more to you. Not trying to start a fight, just trying to make a point. We’re all looking for love, doesn’t mean we’ll ever find it.

  • a lover

    So sad to hear all that self-esteem issues. Small breasts are great! To me (a man) small breasts are highly erotic, especially, if you are kind enough to go braless :-) Tiny is fine, flat is fine, big is not. And no, I am totally not into the lolita thing, I prefer a strong character at my side. I just don’t like swollen boobs. And those silicone stuffed abominations look just mutilated and absolutely not erotic, they are creepy to behold and saddening.
    So please, don’t deliver your body to the butchers. For virtually anything, people believe in “to each his own”. Why just not when it comes to breasts size? Whenever I say that I prefer small breasts, people find reasons to not believe me, even though I’m not even alone in this (see posting by Paigey for a sample). Well, I am not crazy, I’ve got a taste, too. And it’s a fine one!

  • dreamofmex

    I’m only 14 years old and i know that my chest is probably going to get bigger but i’m the only one in the only one i’m my class that’s completely f.l.a.t. i only wear a sports bra and all of the girls wear normal bra’s. My mom has medium size boobs, even big. i think i’ll never have boobs because i’m tall and skinny and boobs need fat to develope. Guys are making fun of me for my small boobs and they even gave me a nickname. :( sometimes i cry, but nobody knows. my friends are supportive and all but i have a huge lack of confidence because of it..

    • Kristy

      dreamofmex,

      Trust me, it will not matter in the future :)
      Confidence should be something you get from your abilities, and what you can do… not on your cup size! You’re 14 and have a whole future ahead of you. Don’t waste it on something as useless as your breast size.

      Many successful people have small breasts. Heck, I don’t think it even matters past high school :) So chin up. The nickname and the bad jokes should last only for the next 4-5 years tops. It’s not worth the time and energy to be worrying about such thing.

      Trust me, I’ve been there :)

  • 34B

    I recently got into a B cup, and I’m devastated.
    After years of hating my A cups, I want them back.
    In fact, I’m on a diet right now to lose the 10 lbs of Christmas weight I gained.
    Maybe then they’ll go away?

    I hate wearing a bra!

    Sincerely, 34B (and hating it!)

  • woodsman

    I read this and wanted to comment even though it may be well out of date for this but I am a huge fan of small or flat chested woman. I was married to a woman for 9 years that had C’s and she wanted them to be bigger and fuller. I married her because I loved her, not because of her body. I have always loved small chested woman. I wish I could find one now that I am single again. If I was in a room full of woman with busty chests and had one girl come in flat as flat could be I would only be paying attention to her. So ladies there are guys that want you exactly as you are.

  • the husband

    For what it is worth……..

    My wife and I married at 18. We both just turned 40.

    She did not have large breasts and it bothered her since the teen years. I Love her as much as I ever have. Her Breast size has never ever mattered.
    She is who she is, thats who I love

    she complained about clothing, bathing suits etc. its a woman thing

    Me telling her that it does not bother me at all just does not boost her self esteem. This is something she has to deal with not me.

    Well, as we hit our mid life crisis, I got a new Harley because I wanted one
    My wife got the natural stem cell liposuction breast augmentation because she wanted it.

    Neither of us needed these. We just wanted them.

    I love the Harley and she enjoys it too

    She loves her new breast size, and well, I guess I enjoy it too.

    the point.
    If you do the research and you want to do it. do it.
    BUT DO IT FOR THE RIGHT REASON

    I did not buy the harley to impress anyone.
    She did not do augmentation to impress anyone.

    Live, Love, Laugh

    and above all
    Trust Jesus Christ as your saviour.
    He came to give us life, and that more abundantly

  • Lena

    i can also relate being a flat chested female myself. ive somewhat learned to accept the way i am and love me for me, but to be honest sometimes its hard. especially me being in high school and seeing all the girls showing their big bust while i walk by totally unnoticed by the crowd of swarming boys flocking to the other girls like bees on honey. sometimes its hard to convince myself that in beautiful not only on the inside but on the outside to. i can put it this way to you. i had a best friend that i really grew to cherish and love over time. to think i had actually grown serious feelings for my best friend seemed surreal to me but so believable. but then i found out he slept with one of my closest friends. all because her rack was bigger than mine. and other things to. and the taunting in school seems to never cease. it hurts sometimes it really does. and believe me the saying sticks and stones doesnt seem to work all the time. its a terrible experience to be called out your name because of your chest size. but all in all at the end of the day i have to keep my head up and look at the celebreties who dont have a big chest size. and that i can wear alot more clothes than them without feeling like a slut. sooo yea talk that talk say whatever you feel but what i know i can say is god made me this way for a reason to help me get through the trials and tribulations im going to go through in life. so really what im trying to say is yea im “flat chested” and i enjoy it to :-)

    • Kemi

      I know it’s late to reply, I just found this articl. I am flat chested too. I have being called names, insulted and ignored because am flat chested. I see some people give encouraging news, but it’s hard in high school, we’re anything could get you named. I have and still bad experience. The first time I was called flat chested was in during my 10th grade gym class, all because I suggested the girls should mind doing the pacers in front of the boys becos they were going after the girls, and some girls wanted them out of the area, a friend of mine shouted it’s because you don’t have this pointing to her boobs, I cringed inside, I wanted to cry but kept a smiling face. Several times after that including my 11th grade, friends and strangers told me somtimes I looked like a dude or more of my twin brother. It hurts inside crying to bed and feeling judged everywhere I go. I can’t even wear some clothes I bought because they would look awkward on me, they have being in closet not going anywhere. I have being branded in my school, the mean boy looking girl because I started feeling I need to be defensive even thou I try to make new friends, I feel unwanted when some of my friends are being checked out by guys and I awkwardly listen to music and pretend I don’t care. The guys I had liked showed no interest in me but prefer the girls with racks, I had being made mockery of sometime when some people just wanted to know whom I liked, so they could shove it in my face and I fell for it.
      Thou i am being known as one of the guys in schools, it bothers me,yet am the funny, friendly person in school but am broken inside.
      Every day I pray to God, to give me strength in enduring more pain that would break me. I know it’s seems like am ranting, pls don’t mind I have being bottling this up for a long time. Now senior year is September hoping things would change:)

    • 34a

      Be strong. Don’t succumb to joining the crowd and being fake with fake boobs. Be yourself. Love yourself for who you are. You have a lot to offer and a lot ahead of yourself.

  • Ana

    im 13 and i have no boobs! lol :D
    but thats allright, because no one is perfect! and im proud being a flat chested girl

  • Maggie

    I wear padding in order to relax around people, but no one knows the truth. I’m focusing on eating and healthy and being my best self, because if guys really liked me, they’d like me for that anyway. I may get a boob-job in the future, but it’d be nice to fall in love with a guy who would appreciate me for who I am.

  • Leslie

    Thank you for your post!! I used to be quite tempted to get a boob job (after all, if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em!) but I’ve learned to be at peace with who I am :) After all, look at people like Audrey Hepburn! Being flat gives you a certain kind of class!

  • Erin

    I am a 32a and I love my size. Granted I’m also quite tall and have been told I have supermodel looks, so maybe I have less reason to care? Fashion-wise, small breasts are definitely preferable, and I’ve always been grateful that I can rock literally any outfit I come across, and any look. But seriously I don’t get the obsession with body parts. I think beauty comes in a lot of different looks. Most women who get boob jobs are just deluding themselves that it’s going to somehow make their life better. The kind of attention you get from having large breasts is the kind of attention no woman wants. And I mean, when’s the last time you saw Kate Hudson in a big movie? Obviously it makes very little difference. Boob jobs are only the way to go if you want a career in porn. Otherwise it’s your self-esteem that needs work.