Psych 101: Dating & The Facebook Effect

Today, Facebook hit its 500 millionth user. And as Lilit said, it was probably her mom. I was with a friend this weekend who was complaining about how he never has the chance to meet people anymore. He’ll meet a girl at a bar, come home to tell his roommate and some friends, and chances are, someone in the group knows her and will start dishing the gossip. Within mere minutes he’s learned more about the girl than he did while spending two hours with her having drinks.

“How do you know all of this?” He exclaims when the gossip-fest is over.

“Facebook.” They all reply in unsion.

You can type a name into a tiny search box and all of a sudden you get a face to the name, school they went to and on top of that, Jimmy from that summer program you went on in high school is your mutual friend! If you’re lucky, you can even get a glimpse into their relationship status, interests and who their favorite band is. Is this a good thing or the end of civilization as we know it?

I have to admit, I’m guilty of this. After meeting a cute guy, I go home and check him out on Facebook. I check to see if he really went to the school he says he did, or if the name he gave me is his real name. Hopefully I can see that his favorite TV show is Fresh Prince of Bel-Air which I would casually slip into conversation and win a few extra points.

Not only am I guilty of this, I’m guilty of meeting someone, doing a quick search on the Facebook-for-Blackberry Application and, great!, I see what he went to Ohio State. A casual mention of the Buckeyes big win over the Michigan Wolverines will really make me worth remembering.

If I’m extra lucky I can see some pictures on his Facebook page, maybe scope out his recent family vacation, what he wore to the last school football game and hopefully (fingers crossed) get a look at an ex-girlfriend (and pray that I’m prettier than her).

This is what I like to call The Facebook Effect and has essentially made the game “6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon” more fun and accessible.

Back to my poor friend, scouring the bars looking for a nice girl to hang out with. Here’s my piece of advice for you: try Facebook.

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    • Kim

      Because while some guy might lie to you in person about what school he went to, that same guy certainly would not lie on FB?

      • Eileen

        It’s harder to keep it a secret, though. You can’t join the network, for example, without an email address linked to the school (or at least you couldn’t three years ago when I first joined my university’s network), so while anyone can put “Yale Law” on his profile, no one who didn’t go to Yale or work for Yale can join the Yale network. And if you went to Yale, you probably have a lot of friends from the Yale network. It’s a lot more effort to lie on FB because all your friends interact with you on the site.

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    • linda twelayo

      would you tell your lover that you are not interested in his or her tattoos actualy in front of people

    • PAWAN