• Tue, Aug 10 2010

Can You Date Someone Who Types “U” Instead Of “You”?

We were checking out TheFrisky’s list of relationship dealbreakers and we came across one very special one. U vs. You. Our grandparents didn’t have to worry about that sort of thing.

Now, there seems like something odd and schoolmarmish about actually not dating someone because they always write “u” instead of you, but at the same time, doesn’t that show that they’re sort of lazy? It takes what, maybe two more seconds to type a “y” and an “o”? If they’re capitalizing the “u” I’d really imagine it actually takes the same amount of time.

I wouldn’t say that it would make us rule out the possibility of being with someone just based on that one flaw, but hey, there’s a much greater probability that we’ll respond to a text that says “what are you doing right now?” than one that reads “wut U doin?’ It’s just a courtesy thing – I like that someone takes the time to formulate a proper sentence.

Are abbreviations a dealbreaker for you? Or do you just see them as a handy time-saving device?

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  • Peter Feld

    I’d say be a little flexible. Sometimes a text is typed when you only have a few seconds and don’t want to be rude to the people you’re with. If it’s a long text they might be trying to save characters so it doesn’t split into two. Myself, I normally type out “you” but this seems a silly dealbreaker when there are so many real things to disqualify people for. A little flexibility goes a long way.

  • OneSweetWorld

    “LOL” is a dealbreaker. If I see “LOL” or the lazier verson “lol” in a text, on facebook or anywhere at all, I cringe.

    • James

      i cringe when i see someone who cringes over nonsense like ‘lol’

  • Beth

    I just think it’s a bit immature. I used to “write lyk this wen i wus lyk 12″ but now that I’m an adult, I prefer proper grammar. But the occasional u instead of you is not so bad. I use T9 on my phone (my phone is super old school and does not have a full keyboard) so it’s actually easier for me to write things properly than trying to change the spelling of everything.

  • Eileen

    If it’s a text or a tweet where there are limited characters, I don’t mind – hell, I’m a bit of a grammar snob, but sometimes you need to shorten your words. And if you’re going to screen people based on typing, there are “crimes” far worse than “u.”

  • CurlySarah29

    I agree that while it’s (just) OK for someone to type “u” instead of “you”… that’s the extent of it. I hate LOL, and almost lose my mind when I see how younger kids are texting/tying… shortening “and” to “an”. Wha!?!?! I’d be more alright with “n” than “an” for and.

  • Leah

    The English language has only been static since the first major dictionary was written, 150 years ago. English has been evolving for centuries, and while I know people don’t like change, I couldn’t care less if you lol and btw and rofl and “u” until your heart’s content. Probably not a great idea if you want to be taken seriously in a paper or job application, but that’s society’s problem! The language has changed and will keep changing long after we’re gone.

    • Kate

      I agree with Leah. While I can relate to these feelings about “u,” it totally depends upon the context. I think it’s totally fine for texts, chats, social networking, etc. Sure, it doesn’t belong on your resume, but it’s not lazy, it’s just really COMMON, and becoming more and more accepted. So if you really want to draw a line here, you’re just going to be majorly narrowing your selection of potential love interests, not to mention coming off as stuffy, dated, and (dare I say) pretentious.

  • Emma

    I will secretly judge you if you use ‘u’ instead of ‘you’. As for only having a few seconds to type a message out, what actual difference would it make time-wise? I’ve texted in busy situations and never sacrificed the ‘y’ and ‘o’. Maybe I’m being a snob but it bothers me. My boyfriend types full words, maybe that’s why I’m with him.

  • Joe

    lol i h8 u n ur grammerz

    • D Shrtnr

      n y u h8 ppl wit sch grmmr? Tel moi plz. Bt i rly lkd d artikl

  • Steve

    Never, ever, ever. It just makes them seem uneducated, lazy and/or like their trying to be down with the kids.

    • Eileen

      Please tell me your comment is meant to be ironic.

  • Allison

    I have nothing against an occasional letter-for-word abbreviation via text–if you text on a cell phone, you have to press 8 buttons to type “you” (wxy, mno, tu), plus if you make a typo pressing those itty bitty buttons, you have to start over. Anywhere else, though, is an absolute no-no. It takes less than a second to type the word “you;” is it really that important to save a microsecond by using just the letter ‘u?’ I would invest that microsecond in the extra two letters so that you won’t look like an idiot.
    In online dating, one’s writing style can definitely be a good tool to weed out the riffraff. It may seem like a little thing, but I definitely tend to believe that no truly intelligent person would express himself in such a sloppy and childish manner, or insult the intelligence of any potential dates out there. If you can’t spell a simple three-letter word that I’d doubt that you’re capable of any higher-level discourse. Of course I’d want someone who looks good and I’m physically attracted to, but that’s not enough. I like people who are more on my wavelength intellectually. Also, lazy grammar definitely shows a major lack of taste.

  • Peter Piper

    Actually the formal word for ‘You’ in Dutch is …. (drum roll here) is ‘U’ ( that’s ‘U” with a capital letter).

    So all these people who look like ignoramuses writing ‘u’, can actually claim that they are language geniuses and simply substituting the Dutch word for you. (Remember the Simpsons episode where Sideshow Bob, the serial killer claimed that his T-shirt with ‘Die, Bart, Die’ was actually written in German.

    Of course using ‘U’ in Dutch is formal. It’s the equivalent of saying Mr. Brown, Mrs. Smith, rather than using their first name.