At least, you should according to the University of Iowa. A recent study shows that it doesn’t impede the potential for a long term relationship as much as people previously thought. Which is to say, it doesn’t impede your potential for a long term relationship at all. Yay, science! Sociologist Anthony Paik’s study of 642 adults found that:
“Couples who became sexually involved as friends or acquaintances and were open to a serious relationship ended up just as happy as those who dated and waited.”
We didn’t see much evidence that relationships were lower quality because they started off as hookups. The study suggests that rewarding relationships are possible for those who delay sex. But it’s also possible for true love to emerge if things start off with a more ‘Sex and the City’ approach, when people spot each other across the room, become sexually involved and then build a relationship.
Okay, this problem isn’t a major news bulletin for anyone who has ever had a hook-up turn into a relationship. But still, it’s nice to feel that a relationship isn’t doomed because you slept with someone too soon (or have only the fact that “it worked for Carrie and Big, and also, the fictional characters in Pretty Woman” as examples of first date sex leading to a long term relationship). So, yeah, just go out to your local bar and jump someone immediately. You’ll probably end up married to them. And the “how we met” story will be really heartwarming to tell your grandchildren.