Poll: Do You Have A ‘Hate Crush’ on One of Your Female Friends?

via Dr. X

In the interest of full disclosure, I will admit that I do not entirely know what a “hate crush” is.  But I saw this article on The Frisky, in which women discussed the “hate crushes” they have on their female friends.  From what I could gather from the comments, a hate crush seems to be an addictive love/hate relationship that a woman has with another female friend, similar to a “frenemy.”  Here are some comments from the article:

  • “I have a major hate crush with my best friend. I cannot help but want to destroy her while helping her with things at the same time. It is like this unavoidable compulsion.”
  • “I really do not know why I have a hate crush with my best friend, but it is there burning strong. I just like to see her fail, but I hate being the one to make it better. I love seeing her fail, but I love being her friend, too. I do not want to be her shoulder to cry on. I know this sounds odd.”
  • My friend and I are constantly sabotaging each other. She tried to get my wedding canceled by acting like my wedding planner and calling the hotel and telling them my now husband and I had split up. I tried to break up her and her boyfriend by sending flowers and candy to his house for her under some guy’s name. We have done dozens of other things to each other, but are still friends.”

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    • nolalola27

      That is insane. I’m sure the comments were selected for their absurdity, but those are bananas.

      I thought a hate crush would be like, you’re kind of jealous of how perfect & put-together one of your friends is, so you alternate between trying to absorb her Goddess-like powers through osmosis and wishing she would just have some broccoli in her teeth for once. Like a fine line between emulation and wishing for a crack in the facade.

      But those bitches in the comments are completely nuts – the girls who blatantly tried to ruin each other’s lives???? That’s not a hate crush, that’s seriously deranged.

    • Emme S.

      As a female that has trouble being friends with other females because they are mainly all selfish, backstabbing, incredibly shallow biatches, I can relate to the “hate crush”, and wanting to just punch a girl in the face because you cannot believe that you could have ever been friends with such a slimeball of a human being. But, c’mon ladies, where’s you sanity? If you’re friend tried to cancel your wedding, WHY are you still friends with that slut? Dump her immediately. Life is too short to surround yourself with dumb chicks and put up with that kind of BS.

    • Meg

      I have a “friend” who I loathe so much you could easily call it a crush, since I am pretty much obsessed with how much I hate her. But I have to remain her “friend” at a distance in order to avoid any major ugliness.

    • Harriet

      I have/had a friend who I had a massive hate crush on. I still kind of do, but it’s mostly been negated by the fact that, since she left for university, I don’t really have much to do with her anymore.

      Mine was more like nolalola27 describes. I loved her, thought she was perfect and and wanted to be like her, but I also wanted so badly to see her fail at SOMETHING. I still remember the time she slipped and fell on her ass in front of everyone in school, and I both revelled in her embarassment, and also felt bad for her and helped her up.

      I guess I’m just a naturally jealous person. Oh well.