Is Obligatory Holiday Sex a Thing?

When it comes to sex, I’ve always kind of gone by the rule that it’s a good thing to do when one or both partners are up for it (preferably both, I suppose, now that I really think about it). But according to an article at, there’s a whole world out there of unspoken pressure to have sex on random holiday nights like New Year’s Eve, and that pressure means that sometimes, that holiday sex is bad.

Am I the only one who didn’t quite realize this? I mean, the article talks about feeling obligated to have sex on Valentine’s Day, and on your anniversary. So, sure. I hear that. But 1) I didn’t know about sex on other big holidays, like New Year’s, and 2) do people really stick to these so-called obligations? It kind of reminds me of like I need to put out because someone bought me dinner or something — an awkward kind of feeling, not at all sexy, and difficult to initiate because you’re not really into it.

So my question is, what’s the point? I mean, shit — I know a number of couples who didn’t even bone on their wedding night because they were too tired. There are so many other nights you can have sex — why insist on doing it on specific days of the year rather than just doing it when the hormones strike?

What do you think? Is holiday sex a thing? Should it be?

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    • Rose

      It is a thing, and shouldn’t be. Because I refuse to feel guilty that I blacked out and fell asleep instead of having “New Years sex” with my boyfriend this year.

    • Lisa

      Nope, not a thing for me. I’d like to see a poll about this!