• Tue, Jan 25 2011

Poll: Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

There’s been a lot of brouhaha over the fact that Jesse James is engaged now to Kat Von D (I never realized how stupid her name is until typing it just now. Von D? Really?). Among the couple’s most vocal detractors is one Michelle “Bombshell” McGee, who was James’ mistress when he was with Sandra Bullock. McGee had this to say on the Wendy Williams show:

‘Kat, run for you life. He is a cheater…You cannot change a man, you cannot change a leopard’s spots. Once a cheater always a cheater.”

Soooo…sounds like a poll to me. What do you think? Can you change a man, or a woman, who’s cheated in the past?

Sorry! This poll is now closed.

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  • Leah

    I think it’s important to note that it’s different for each relationships. Not proud – but I’ve cheated. And I know that once you do it once, you’re more apt to do it again, because once someone finds out that you’ve cheated, it doesn’t matter if you’ve done it once or 100 times. But each relationship is new, and you can whip the slate clean. Just because you cheated on one person doesn’t mean you’ll cheat on another.

  • Eileen

    I also think it matters why a person cheated – and how serious the relationship was. (For a really extreme example: Man dating woman cheats on her with another man, realizes he’s gay. He’s not necessarily a serial cheater.)

  • Sara

    I started dating my ex who told me he had cheated on 3 of his 4 serious exes, but that he would never cheat on me and flattered me with reasons why not. Spoiler alert: he cheated on me with two of my sorority sisters and one of my really close guy friend’s girlfriend at the time. I do agree w. Leah that just because you have cheated you won’t always, but there are definitely people who will never be faithful.

  • Mary

    I think it can change, depending on the person. I mean, if you have someone who’s a serial cheater and just doesn’t value relationships generally; then, no, he/she will probably not change. But someone who just made a mistake, or was in in a really shitty relationship, or whatever – doesn’t mean you’ll do it again and again.
    Disclaimer: I’ve also cheated.

  • emerald3358

    Once one has completely ripped one’s life and the life of others to shreds, one is not anxious to repeat the process. Especially this one.

  • Charley

    I agree with Leah. I too have cheated and while I found it impossible to wipe the slate clean with my husband then, after a two years hiatus and a lot of talking, we worked things out and our second marriage is much, much stronger (it’s like I married another person and am able to start over).

  • Ms. Thang

    Once a cheat always a cheater…A habit is hard to break, just like being a crack head.