Real Talk: Do Men Want To Put It In Your Butt?

It was odd assembling responses for this Real Talk about whether or not men want to have anal sex* with women. I didn’t really know what to expect  but I did feel kind of uncomfortable asking a bunch of random guys (some friends, some not) whether or not they were into it. I’m not going to provide any more commentary other than this: I was surprised by how varied the responses were. So, here’s 10 guys offering up their opinions on “anal play” as it is sometimes called. When you’re finished, read the responses from women.

A note: each slide depicts a scene from the Spanish Inquisition.

Another note: each contributor is named after a prominent French intellectual.

*Apologies for the ridiculous title of this Real Talk, but we can’t say “anal sex” in the headline of a post. Alternatively, we considered calling it “Real Talk: Do Men Want To Bugger You?’ but that seemed obtuse.

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    • matbo

      After the last rounds of real talk I’m not sure I dare read this..

    • macalny

      “Denis’s” answer is so nonsensical and his English so poor that I can’t help thinking he misunderstood the question. The other answers, however, are basically exactly what I’d expect. Thanks, as always, Gloss for asking the tough questions! :)

      • Aj

        I could be wrong, but I took his response as 1.)Sarcasm and 2.)making the point that he believed anal sex as something only people making porn expect. Kind of the same viewpoint that some men expect women to be completely bare/shaved/waxed down there because of what they see in porn.

      • lizards first rule

        I think it’s pretty obvious he’s joking…

    • butthoes?

      i would be more interested in girls getting asked this question. I find this idea that girls only want to do it if they are really messed up and trying to hard to fulfill what they believe to be universal porn fantasies annoying. I would like to see whether the claim of your final respondent is true, whether all ladies like a finger in the butt.

      • BeccaTheCyborg

        Not all women like a finger in the butt. Some do, some don’t.

        But then, most of the dudes polled seem to have really fucked-up ideas about female pleasure and desire, as well as hygiene, so.

        I’m a dominant femme-type person, and I like anal play because it feels awesome and makes me have many lovely orgasms. This may make their heads explode.

    • Dave

      I do think the whole “no possible way she can enjoy this” thing is a little fucked up.

      Actually: http://www.slate.com/id/2270622/ boom

      • MNiM

        I was going to post that exact same link!

        Plenty of women enjoy, lack of prostate notwithstanding. Is it for everyone? No. But then, is anything?

    • JLee

      Just wondering about the views of non French males? You know, the ones that aren’t short, stinky with bad teeth?

      • Alyssa

        LOL. Did you actually think these guys were French?

    • Goldie

      omg, Ambrois: “My thoughts on anal sex can be pretty succinctly conveyed in one word: No.”

      Then he dives straight into the longest, wordiest, most exhaustive response of them all, revealing the most misguided and overly-analytical philosophy of sex I’ve ever heard. I love it. Hysterical.

      Ambrois, you poor boy, after you’ve aced that women’s studies elective please read some SavageLove.

    • Jessica

      I know some comments have already pointed this out, but I just wanted to also confirm the fact that: I am a female who loves anal sex. It’s not something my husband is necessarily into, but rather me. I want it, I like it and I orgasm exceptionally well from it.

      • BeccaTheCyborg

        Neither of my partners are all that into it, either. :(

      • Ellie

        Exactly the same here. The fact that my boyfriend is not keen on it, and that I have to specifically ask him to, is probably the single biggest downer in our relationship for me. Ironically, Antoine sums up just how I feel (“you lose the arousal of knowing the other person is enjoying it as much as you”), except of course that in my case I genuinely know my bf hates it, whereas Antoine seems to be operating under the same misguided assumption as most of these guys – that it’s impossible for girls to love it because we ‘don’t have prostates’. WTF?!?!? Seriously, who teaches them this?

      • Luke

        Yes my wife like it as well, so much so that we often go there then vaginal. I took will admit I like it there as well with fingers or a sex toy. It’s very stimulating, and the deep exhilarating orgasm you can have is unbelievable. I guess it’s hard for people to believe that married straight couples can go there in the bedroom. I say to the haters, if done properly, you don’t know what your missing.

    • Chef

      I have a couple female friends who love it. Found it dumb, or maybe just ignorant, that a couple of the respondants couldn’t fathom someone liking it if they didn’t have a prostate. Love to see Rebuttal: Female Perspective on this.

      • eebs

        haha! rebuttal!

    • applejuice

      I don’t have anal sex very often, but when I do, I generally enjoy it tremendously. It’s something about the pressure coming from the other side.

      • Glamorous Glennis

        …said the “Most Interesting Man In the World.”

    • B

      Can you please show these men the comments? Their misguided beliefs about the possibility of enjoying anal for females is quite irritating.

      We have so many wonderful nerves all across our bodies and just because anal is so prevalent in porno doesn’t mean that it can’t also be something that two people can share. Although in saying that, part of the appeal for me is that it’s kind of porno/kinky.

      Ugh. Where do you find these guys? If you’re are so worried about poo on you weener then wear a condom (which you should be wearing anyway you sicko!).

      • B

        Eesh! *belief, *your.

      • L

        “You’re” was right

      • Tella

        “where do you find these guys”?? just because YOU like it doesn’t mean that everyone who’s grossed out by putting their genitals in a hole shit comes out of doesn’t mean they’re repressed and misguided.

      • B

        No, but they are misguided in thinking that it is not possible for a woman to enjoy it. I don’t think anyone who doesn’t enjoy it/ is grossed out by it is repressed, and never said that so please don’t make me out to be making judgments that I never made. (If you actually read my comment before jumping on your high horse and galloping off down No Anal Lane you would have seen that I myself was grossed out with the unprotected anal mentioned in his comment)

    • hall

      All the comments I have read are about the lack of knowledge these men posess or women who love it so here’s my pov: I HATE IT! My bf & I have tried it a few times over the years & the best way I can describe the feeling of anal penetration is like taking a painful dump. I cannot stand it. He likes it a lot (Being the giver, not receiver. We haven’t ventured that far) & I have told him to get a hooker & pay for it or find some random girl & come back to me when he’s had his share. I would rather put bamboo shoots under my nails. That’s just me though.

    • Albert Camus

      Where did you find this bunch of bloodless, dullards? The answer is yes. Everyone has to come to terms with their own asshole. Some folks are just on better terms with it. This sample poll here skews young and inexperienced as well as immature. I enjoy just about anything consensual with the woman I am into and i hope she is open minded and comfortable enough to let me know what she prefers.
      For some historical perspective read the ORIGINAL version of the Kama Sutra. There has been considerable thought regarding sodomy.
      FYI: Picture number six does not depict the Spanish Inquisition but shows the work of Spanish or French authorities as they mutilate native Americans in the New World.

      • lizards first rule

        After reading your comment, I’d have sex with ANY of those surveyed before having sex with you.

        PS: The Stranger sucks.

      • Kell

        @Albert: you sound like a complete tool.

      • Goldie

        For some reason I keep imagining that Neal, from Freaks and Geeks, wrote this and it’s cracking me up.

      • Albert Camus

        What? Really? You’re right. That was a careless answer. Withdrawn.

      • Therealquestion

        Ohkay, so your saying basically . If a women is comfortable enough to do anything you would. Resonable. Understand . Idk why everyone has to get there panties in a bunch over a comment.
        Ur right, they are wrong.
        My question to you is. Why are guys so obsessed with the “butthole”? Is the only reason because is tighter? Or is it really a dominate thing that some guys crave?

    • gloria

      one those men who are very little and to feel tight on the other end!!!

    • gloria

      I meant: Only those men whose weenies are too little that they need to feel tightness on the other side!!! REMEMBER YOU’D WANT THE OTHER END…ONLY IF YOU ARE TOO LITTLE!!!

      • Sam

        thats total bull , cause I have 8 inches and love to screw my women in the ass ..

    • Somnilee

      Quoth a male friend: “The only badge of honour you get from having anal sex is the acknowledgement amongst all other men that you have a tiny cock.”

      • Glamorous Glennis

        Where do you come up with such twaddle?

    • Gracie

      Am I the only one who finds Francois view totally offensive. He honestly doesn’t care if the girls are into it. I can get the rest of the comment everyone has different tastes but thats just total douchebag material

      • Jo

        Agreed. I’m sort of hoping that was a, “I’m okay with girls not wanting to have anal” but… yeah. That’s a stretch.

    • doedill7

      hey ladies , into anal sex? become familiar with how to treat hemorrhoids.

      • Erica

        Not true! It sound like you are a little naive or inexperience with anal. Proper lubrication and preperation is the key to countless orgasm and the best sex you will ever have. Hemorrhoids? I’ve never experience that as well as many of my girlfriends. What ever you are doing, is wrong. Practice makes perfect. ;)

    • Geek Porn Girl

      Where on Earth did you find these guys? Really? There’s not a truly sex-positive answer among them.

    • Jon

      anal sex ftw. idgaf.

    • AD

      Equal opportunist here. Anal sex must involve both anuses (pegging, yay!), both to avoid any fucked-up power issues and because otherwise it’s such a waste of nerve endings.

      • AD

        … also, you can’t put the words ‘anal sex’ in a headline but torture scenes are A-OK? Who the hell’s writing the censorship rules?

    • Haley

      Ambrois! Chill the fuck out.

    • jean

      jean wth, definitely not

    • V.

      Ambrois definitely needs to chill the fuck out. As a woman who’s done anal, I can definitely say that (if done correctly) anal can provide tons of pleasure for women. Or at least it did for me. I was not “offering [my]self up for such dominance,” I just wanted it in the butt. Besides, sometimes being dominated is hot. Pull the stick outta your ass– or not.

    • Venus in Furs

      Regarding AD’s comment: “… you can’t put the words ‘anal sex’ in a headline but torture scenes are A-OK? Who the hell’s writing the censorship rules?”

      Welcome to America where a split-second of a nipple during half-time is a national scandal, but water boarding prisoners is patriotic. It’s a sick place, AD, totally sick.

      • AD

        Damnit, I should have stuck with a British website, where views on torture are… let’s say, lukewarm, but buggery is a national institution.

    • sam

      Ambrois is a pussy!

    • sengis

      yikes. I’ve been looking for a replacement for Jezebel, but this site isn’t it. when I’m reading ~lady blogs~, the last thing I want to read as a feature is a bunch of misguided opinions from men about women’s sexualities.

      • merlin

        good, take your humorless ass somewhere else. as soon as the gloss gets taken over by orphan jezebel readers, i’m gonna have to stop reading it

    • Andy

      Anal sex is not my thing.I tried it once and i did not enjoy it.It all depend on people,Some find it fun and gives them alot of plessure.

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    • Fucking and Loving it

      Ladies, It is delicious in the ass. I would never let my husband do that – and we’ve been married for 36 years. We recently started getting kinky again….after all these years. We have a box of toys and objects that we like to experiment with. Last Sat night. We tried a pussy pump..and let me tell you…..it was unbelievable. My clit was huge and hyper sensitive to anything that touched it. It was lovely. My hubby fingered me afterward and worked on my g-spot. Dont think we found it, but it was a heavenly experience.He slid a well lubricated vibrator up my butt and a larger on in my pussy. He fingered and sucked my swollen clitb while I pumped the vibrator in and out. I had one massive orgasms after another. I didn’t want to stop it was so awesome. these testosterone shot I am taking make me want to fuck all day. My breast are so swollen and my nipple are erect at all times.

      I love sharing stories and would like to get stories and suggestions from other couple..