• Thu, May 12 2011

Real Talk: Do Women Like It In The Butt?

Earlier this week, we asked a bunch of random guys about anal sex* and shared their opinions in a Real Talk. Unsurprisingly, a lot of ladies commented, some agreeing, some calling bullshit. Which means, of course, it’s their turn to tackle the subject and explain why they love/hate/avoid/adore anal sex. Also, you’ll notice that every woman surveyed has been represented by a delicate butterfly even though EIC Jennifer Wright was gunning for me to use photos of chocolate bars.

*Which we still can’t say in a post headline and thus lends itself to deeply ridiculous post titles, like this one.**

**Still struggling not to call this one “Real Talk: DO GIRLS LIKE BUTT SECKS?!!” which would actually circumvent the censorship issue.

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  • Heidi

    I like the juxtapositon of Daisy and Orchid’s views, haha. And I’m a lesbian who loves anal, so I’m not sure how that works with Daisy’s hypothesis that women only pretend to like it to appeal to men.

    • BeccaTheCyborg

      Yeah, I’ve enjoyed it a lot more with women than with dudes. Apparently we’re lying and only like it to appeal to dudes. Who aren’t there.

  • matbo

    I’ve only ever done the finger-thing. Once, because I needed it rough that particular night and I like being dominated. It felt sorta like pooping, but it was hot because it was different at submissive. Don’t think I’ll ever do the real thing, not since I read on the other thread that it can cause hemorrhoids.

  • kjon

    Iris read my mind. I mean, what would you do if that happened?! The only friend I have that has done it more than once had that happened to her twice.
    I have heard of girls doing anal to save their “vaginal virginity” for marriage. Never met anyone though.

  • breezy

    I’ve never done it, but am not opposed to it. My husband has literally no interest in doing it though– I’ve offered. So I guess it is off the table for me, not that I know whether or not I am missing anything. I had a friend in college who was a real prude about everything except “da butt.” She said it was better if she took a muscle relaxer first, and then it was the best sex of her life.

    Also if you are interested in a wonderfully amusing booty-sex-gone-wrong story, check out TuckerMax.com (I know, I know, he’s deplorable) and read “Tucker tries butt sex, hilarity does not ensue.”

    • Gina

      Yes, Tucker Max is deplorable, but that story is absolutely disturbingly hilarious.

  • Nicole

    I enjoyed it once – on heroin. While sober, a finger will suffice; although I do totally have body hangups about the whole thing. How could you not?

  • Carolyn

    Nothing about poop is sexy to me. Wouldn’t thrusting a wiener in and out of there make the room smell like poop? Seems like it’d be even worse than a fart…if air moving through your butthole takes a smell with it, wouldn’t poop residue on ding dong smell just as bad if not worse? I do NOT want to smell poop while I’m getting in on.

    • Jinkies

      Air moving through your butthole doesn’t take a smell with it. Have you not ever experienced a fart with no smell? That’s air.

      The GAS is the smell.. That would be why it’s called gas..

  • me

    If my boyfriend wants to put it in a butt, then he can go ahead and put it in my gay best friend’s butt. I’ll even watch. 8)

  • Lizzie

    It seems that men want anal sex more because they’re persuading you to something you don’t really like and less because it gives them a different physical pleasure. I like to remind my husband that porn actresses are paying their rent doing it and I have other ways to make a living. After trying it with an open mind, I don’t think it feels good and I’ll show devotion and trust to my spouse some other way.

  • Lilith

    I personally think it’s a matter of preference. I was anally raped by a boyfriend while I was on the phone with my mother. I not only felt violated, but disgusted with the thought of anyone stooping so low as to do that! Thankfully I am now happily married to someone else who is very respectful of me and my body. There have been times when he suggested using a dildo in my butt as a part of foreplay and I told him how I was feeling at the time. Sometimes it doesn’t interest me, and there are other times that when used correctly, it feels awesome! If a person is open-minded enough, it can be quite enjoyable and the orgasms that follow are knee-buckling =) I know it’s not for everyone, but (no pun intended) just follow what you feel is within your comfort levels.

    • Amita

      Wait? What? While on the phone with your mother? One hates to ask for more details of someone’s rape story, but … what?

  • Lou

    Love it and honestly wish more men knew how to go about it because when they do it’s pretty unbelievably stimulating. It’s too bad anal sex gets such a bad rep and isn’t more simply understood.

  • 3000

    “Anyone who thinks it’s impossible for women to enjoy doin’ it up the butt should read “The Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex For Women” by Tristan Taormino.”

    …I wonder if she realizes the irony in that the book is written BY A DUDE.

    • Topf

      T.T. is a woman.

  • Iris is actually my name haha

    yeah, I used to get forced into it by my rather abusive ex-boyfriend, it was gross, horrible, just… ew. I would never ever do it again, not for anyone.

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  • Topf

    Tristan Taormino is a woman…

  • Kell

    god i love the gloss

  • lemonaid

    Hubby talked me into it, so it was tried a couple of times with no result (and the ewwww factor for me, but he’s not fussed) and then suddenly OMG! Stars, earth shattering orgasms … the very very best (why? we have no prostate? but it just does). And yes, hemorrhoids ensue along the way so it’s off the menu for us, mostly. Sadly.

  • julie

    My first time was soo nice, i didn’t expect but my teacher (real teacher) forced it saying i should learn how to have pleasure in many ways. I was curious and did let him do it with me. I’ve tried after with others but the guys are not experienced with anal sex AND they dont know the woman’s body, causing pain.
    I only have pleasure when i use desensitizing balms/lubes at the hurting entrance.

    But even using tips and ways to try a clean anal sex, or use lubes with flavours, don’t eat too much or heavy food in the day i decide to do it ..anyways….. i hate so much the poop smell , its really disgusting , as Carolyn posted before.

    Or i can eat flowers or just drink water since 3 days before the act…. (¬.¬)

    • Sam

      I can also be your teacher , and dont mind the poop smell cause it comes with the package , I masterbate just thinking of it ..

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  • Leah

    I think the more interesting part of this is how passionately people feel about this. It’s like Indian food, you love it or hate it. I don’t pretend to know why people do what they do, but I imagine this agression is because girls who don’t do it think that everyone else thinks they’re prudes, and girls who do it are admitting to a taboo and have to defend themselves. I thinks we should all just do what we’re comfortable with.

    That being said, I hate it. It really hurts, and I don’t like the idea of someone wanting to do something to me that hurts me so they can get off. And, you know, the poop factor.

  • merlin

    oh god. i just spent a few minutes googling and either there is “no conclusive evidence” that anal sex causes hemorrhoids OR “yes anal sex causes hemorrhoids.” the only place they seem to agree is that anal sex DEFINITELY aggravates existing hemorrhoids.

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  • mimi

    im a 25 year old woman and i love anal sex its like an amazing feeling the orgasim is just wow..

    • shane o

      dam girl well for me am a 26 year old guy and i always wanted to try anal but never get the change to am dying to experience it

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  • G

    LMAO Iris, my sentiments exactly.

  • Fel

    I personally like anal sex, but it took 9 months of a sexual relationship with the same partner for me to trust him enough to just relax and enjoy it (like any sex for the first time). He seemed to want it much earlier in the relationship, but was pretty good at reading the signals that I was not feeling it just yet. Every time we did have anal there was negligible feces, so the “Ew, poop will get everywhere” comments don’t hold much consideration with me. But I can understand why some ‘prep work’ in terms of diet/getting ready might concern a few individuals. I never got the courage to ask him if he ever wanted ME to mess around back there for him.

  • yuyfguiho

    I love to fuck arabian ladys ass coz they are sexy i guess

  • caroline

    I’m 24 and have been having — and enjoying — anal sex with my boyfriend several times a week for the past 6 years. For me, anal sex gives me several amazing orgasms in a single session. And my boyfriend is able to ejaculate at least 3 or 4 times during that same session. The key is just to relax and use a bit of saliva or other lubricant. I feel some pain during the initial penetration each time, but it’s only temporary and after a couple of minutes, my multiple orgasms have already begun. Also, in my experience, anal sex is not messy, contrary to those myths. And in 6 years of having anal sex regularly, I have never had any infections or health problems whatsoever. I realize that anal sex — just like chocolate — is not for everybody. But it is my favorite sexual activity, and I think most of the girls I knew in college either enjoyed anal sex or were at least open to having it from time to time.

  • Karen

    Its not something that appealed to me at all, and my body language made that clear any time there was interest to even touch me there by hubby. However in my late 40′s and after more than 25 years of marriage my vagina doesn’t lubricate quite as well as it used to, so we have started using a lubricant as a matter of course.
    Often in foreplay I’ll be on my tum with a pillow under my hips. With so much lubricant hubby would from time to time massage his thumb against my bum hole, and the tip would just press in. The first couple of times I’d wiggle to indicate ‘no’, and he’d back off but then one day he waited until I was close to coming (his forefinger strumming my clit) and then he pressed his thumb in half an inch or so, still working my clit, and wow, I saw stars! Without even realising it I was impulsively bucking my bum back against his thumb needing it deeper in me. I had the most screaming loss of all control orgasm of my life, I could feel my (empty) vagina and my anus pulsing as I came. Afterwards he mounted me and slid into my vagina and I had another nice but much more gentle orgasm.
    This went on a few times, not every time we made love, but maybe one in three times. Then one time, I was in the same position, but this time he teased me for what seemed hours (and was more than one hour) with finger and thumb (adding KY from time to time) but wouldn’t let me come. He would take me right to the brink then back off, to the point I was whimpering in protest. Then instead of finishing me with his finger, he shifted his body and I realised he was going to mount me (which wasn’t our routine, normally make me come before we have penetrative sex). The next thing he was pressing his penis into my anus, I was just trying to scramble my mind to protest when he pushed it through the entrance, which felt very tight but didn’t really hurt, and a massive orgasm swept through me, and I could feel myself gripping him , and him cumming in me.
    So, we don’t do it every time, and we usually follow foreplay (including his thumb there) with vaginal sex, and he seems to somehow know if and when to slide out of my pussy and into me there. When he does it, well I feel totally ‘possessed’, I can’t properly explain it, I come like crazy and its like I have given him absolutely everything.