Speaking Of Slut Shaming, Let’s Talk About Anti-Sexting PSAs

Anti-Sexting (HUNGRY BEAST) from Elmo Keep on Vimeo.

Let’s take a second talk about those anti-sexting ads.

They’re dumb.

Wow, that literally took a second.

Which is why I think this one makes a great point – it would be really nice if they could stop focusing on how the girl’s life will be OMG DESTROYED.

Look, once upon a time when I was in school a girl sent her boyfriend some sexy-act pictures. Because, oh, because we were young and people do things like that. They broke up, he sent them on to everyone. Here are some sample comments I heard directed at her, mostly from women:

“Your ex-boyfriend is the biggest douchebag in the world.”

“You have nothing to be ashamed of.”

“Your ex-boyfriend is my nightmare.”

I think the way it worked out the ex-boyfriend got suspended for some length of time. Obviously, it would be horrendous and damaging for that girl to have her trust violated, but it wasn’t as though everyone sat there shooting her disapproving looks. And weird comments. “Wear black tomorrow?” What does that mean? Will she be a widow?

Most teenage girls came of age in a time when at least 50% of us sent something to a one-time boyfriend that we didn’t want the entire world to see. The instance in school was actually the one of the rares times I saw teenage girls from every clique agree to be nice to her, because everyone seemed to agree that yeah, her ex-boyfriend was a super-douche.

So really, shouldn’t at least one or two of these ads be about how sending your girlfriend’s naked pictures to your friends is a terrible thing to do? That it’s a violation of trust? That it will officially make you a super-douche?

Just a thought. Because these ads really are slut shaming and idiotic.

 

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    • Karen

      So true! I’m glad someone is paying attention to this issue. All the blame is directed towards sexually liberated girls. It’s time a few of the shameless teenage boys sending those pictures out are asked to take some responsibility.

    • B

      I think that part of the problem is that the adults who write these PSAs don’t “get it.” They don’t really understand teenage culture. Teenage sexuality just scares adults to the point that they try to shame sexually active teens, rather than address the teenagers as though they’re real people with real feelings.