• Wed, Jun 1 2011

Real Talk: Women Tell Us Their Thoughts On Threesomes


Yesterday, we published the thoughts of various men on the timeless topic of group sex. Many of the guys we talked to were all about it, while others were like, “hey now, get that second naked chick out of here, I’m afraid I might have too much fun.” Today, we’re giving the ladies a chance to chime in, and as with the men, their answers are varied and colorful. Feel free to add your own thoughts and experiences in the comments below.

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  • CW

    If all the parties involved in the threesome agree with the fantasy/actions involved then it is a great way to have some fun. I really enjoy MFM threesomes or more (straight orientation for all) if I can be the target of their desires.

    My Hubby and I are planing for our first threesome as a married couple in the next month or so. We met through a MFM and have been inseparable ever since. Sexually speaking he satisfies me beyond anything I find in a lover and I could walk away from this lifestyle in an instant. We have not had a FMF, and most likely won’t. I realize that it is hypocritical of me but I have jealousy issues when it comes to watching him with someone other than me. His fantasies involve watching me be pleased. He finds it erotic for me to flirt and be with other men and I cannot help but enjoy myself. Our only solid rule is that my Hubby is always around when I “play.’

    I realize that our lifestyle causes many people to feel as though I do not view my marriage as sacred but I do and both my Hubby and I feel that this is something that we are going to enjoy until we find that it is not for us any longer.

  • Christina

    I’d love to have a MMF threeway. I mean, just one naked dude with a hard cock is awesome, let alone two.

    • Christina

      I wonder, why does it seem I’m in the minority here? Why do so many straight-identifying women want to have FMF-threeways? You’d think that if one likes men, two men would clearly be the better option.

    • Hanna

      Oh I would love to be with two guys if they’re not to homophobic and don’t want to do some crazy double penetrations porn reenactment stuff. I do think I’d enjoy being with a woman but I’d rather do it just with her than having the distraction of a guy there. But since I don’t think I’d consider being in a relationship with a woman, I wouldn’t call myself bisexual.

    • Kelly

      My boyfriends fantasy was to bring another guy into the mix. He’s totally straight. I was up for it. It was a fantasy of mine also. They were busy on me and I had my hands, as well as other things full. It was better than I expected. It lasted over three hours. I still fantasize about it when I play with myself. We agreed to do it again when we go to Vegas. My thoughts, if it turns you on, go for it.

    • Eileen

      I think it’s because a lot of straight-identifying women are at least a little bi-curious, but not enough that they’re ready to have sex just with a woman…maybe having the FMF threesome gives them the opportunity to “sample” lesbian sex with less pressure?

      OR there are a lot of straight women who don’t actually want to have sex with a woman but want to be intimately close to her in a physical way. I don’t know. But honestly, the idea of a FMF threesome appeals to me more than MFM, mainly because I’m pretty sure MFM would completely tire me out or (if they gave me a break) make me worry that my boyfriend would rather have sex with a man than with me.

  • Emily

    Had one years ago, was an interesting experience. I would do it again if there was another woman involved. I am bisexual, but even two women involved seems a bit more fun than having a guy there at all.

  • sophia

    I’m a big believer of don’t ask for something you’re not willing to do yourself. Love the idea of being shared by two dudes. Don’t like the idea of sharing my guy with another girl.

    • fantasyguywithnogame

      last night I was at a club and my buddy invited a female friend to come meet us.
      we hit it off and ended up going up to the room and just talking and having a nice time. My buddy came up to the room at 4am and started trying to talk her into a threesome and I think she may have wanted to but was worried about the perception and what I’d think of her. I was not into it. I would have enjoyed just with her but it got weird and she left kind of freaked out because my friend was too aggressive.
      I’m more of a one on one kind of guy but I do have a fantasy to see my gf get it from another guy. Key word is FANTASY. Not sure I would really be happy after the fact.

  • Nicki

    Am married for 14 years now. My husband along with every other strait male fantacy would love to have a fmf. I am just now saying maybe after 14 years of him once in awhile telling me about the fantacy. I love sex with him it is soooo good. I do however think women are sexier then men. He just wants to see me be double pleasured. And its starting to sound good to me.

  • donna

    my husband said our sex life should to be open minded and mutually enriching. he asked me to tell him what i wanted most of all sexually. it did not matter what i desired; he said it was sufficient that i desired it and he would do his best to make it happen. i told him how, ever since i had been sexually aware, that i wanted to have sex with two men. i had never experienced it, because i never had a boyfriend willing to participate. it was fortunate that he desired to watch me have sex with another man and all i wished was that we had talked about this earlier. he arranged for a threesome to happen. i was nervous, but i was eager too. it went off beautifully. since then, i have had several threesomes and a couple of times it was with out my husband present. we have enlarged our sexual limits. i can date men and i do go on dates on friday nights. we swap with nice couples and visit swinger clubs. i found i have a greater capacity for sex than i ever imagined. i am very comfortable have sex with a variety of men. and as often as i can, i have sex with my men friends in front of my husband so he can watch. he loves to watch my face as i am pleasured by another man. he set up a gang bang (i really hate that term) and it was very exciting. i am thinking about having sex with one of the women we have swapped with. she express a desire to perform oral on me and i am very curious if i can return the favor. the only problem is that our children are soon to be of age that they will understand our activities. anyone have any ideas on how to handle that??

    • Francis

      I read some of the exciting sex life experiences. My gf and I want to experience a threesome with a girl sometime soon.

  • Sil

    I have had nothing but good experiences with threesomes. The reason is that my girlfriend and I discussed it completely before choosing the third. We chose our nieghbor because we knew him well, trusted his motives and was aware of his style as far as sex goes. Now, with that being said, my girlfriend had my permission to have sex with him if she wanted. People, SEX is not love.

    • weysally

      Hi Im new on here, I see this was posted a year ago, like you I have had only positive results from having MFMs, and again like you we chose a distant married friend that we new we could trust, I love my husband, but I dont care what people say, every man I have had sex with is different, but the main thing that I like about this is that I can flirt,(discreetly of course) and what a boost to my ego when I can achieve our goal and persuade another to jion us, love Sally

    • weysally

      Hi Im new on here, I see this was posted a year ago, like you I have had only positive results from having MFMs, and again like you we chose a distant married friend that we new we could trust, I love my husband, but I dont care what people say, every man I have had sex with is different, but the main thing that I like about this is that I can flirt,(discreetly of course) and what a boost to my ego when I can achieve our goal and persuade another to jion us, love Sally

  • Andrew

    Ladies I apoligize for the interruption. I have a lady in my life and we speak very openly about our past relationships. I have had a threesome, being invited by to ladies. It was an amazing experience and I agree, forget the porn. My Lady was very intrigued regarding my threesome, my question is do you prefer MMF or FFM, it seems that in both instances it is about the ego of the man or woman about who they share their partner with? Or am i missing a que?

    • weysally

      My husband and I are well into threesomes, Im very lucky my husbands a voyeur, but back to your Question which do I prefer a FMF or MFM, for me it will always be MFM, I love to be the centre of attraction, and I tried a FMF once, but sorry I got pangs of jealousy when my husband took her, my husband dont get jealous, in fact he loves that bit of control in being able to call anything off, love Sally

    • weysally

      My husband and I are well into threesomes, Im very lucky my husbands a voyeur, but back to your Question which do I prefer a FMF or MFM, for me it will always be MFM, I love to be the centre of attraction, and I tried a FMF once, but sorry I got pangs of jealousy when my husband took her, my husband dont get jealous, in fact he loves that bit of control in being able to call anything off, love Sally

  • Scrote

    I wonder if anyone has tried to bring an animal into the mix. My boyfriend and I have tried a threesome with gerbil but he had to go to hospital to have a gerbilectomy.
    I once took on 2 male gorilla and boy did they where me out.

  • don

    I’m a guy but I would prefer a threesome with mfm vs fmf. i think biologically women are so much better suited to entertaining 2 men than a guy is to keep up with 2 women.

  • amanda

    My boyfriend is pressureing me to have fmf threesome any advice on how to find someone? would it be better to find someone you know or a stranger? i just dont know where i would go to find someone interested?

  • brandi

    I believe the last study I read said 1.6 – 6% of marriages are open, which includes having a threesome or adding a person to your bedroom. 92% of those marriages end in divorce.

    In otherwords, a threesome almost certainly will end your marriage. Don’t do it

  • Jodi Kay

    I’m a 40 year old female my husband always wanted a threesome I finally agreed ,on one condition that it would be MFF for him and FMM for me.I did have our first threesome MFF it was and experience that I will never forget.I have to say it was fun and exhausting.When it finally came my turn my husband said he couldn’t stand to see a onther man making love to me.I now feel used and not very happy with him. JKM

  • john

    women and masturbating

  • james

    For us it started in tears. We’d been married 10 years, me 35 and Jane was 31. We have two children, at that time the youngest had just started school. I was away for some months when my wife had the chance of a short break away at a beach resort with three other women in their early and mid twenties that she worked with. Her mother came up to stay and look after the kids. Well, it turned out the other women were really party animals. On the second night my wife got rather drunk, and remembers them arriving back at the apartment with a bunch of others, and them putting some music on and her friends doing the best they could in the small two bed room to dance with these Spanish guys. she tells me she turned down the requests to dance at first, but after some more drinks agreed. She remembers seeing some of the others girls kissing the guys, and then realising that one of them was having sex. At the same time the guy she danced with had wandering hands, and, well, she admits she was quite turned on and ended up letting him have sex with her.
    Apparently she felt terribly guilty the next morning, but the other girls told her it was just a holiday thing, and not to worry, they wouldn’t say anything. That evening they bumped into the same guys (or maybe one of the girls arranged it, she isn’t sure), and she ended up having sex with ‘her’ guy under the moonlight on the beach. After that, the guys came back each night, and on the final night one of her friends got very drunk and just fell asleep and my wife had sex with ‘her’ guy, and her friends guy.
    They flew home the following day, having all sworn to secrecy, but Jane ended up calling me out in Dubai (in the middle of the night) in floods of tears telling me all. I was all mixed up, angry, but turned on and surprised that she could and would do such a thing. By the time I got back the following month I was obsessed by the idea of seeing her in bed with another guy, it was all that I could think about. She was dead against the idea at first, but in the end agreed in principle, but wanted more time to think about it. I looked on some internet sites etc, but she just didn’t seem keen, and I didn’t think it was going to happen. Then one night I had to go to Leek on an overnight business trip. They put us up in a mid range hotel, and after a meal we went to the hotel bar for a drink. it wasn’t very full and we sat up at the bar. We passed a few words with a young guy who was in his first week in a new job as a rep for something or other. After we had chatted for a while, and after another couple of drinks Jane lent over towards him and said to ‘Would you like to fuck me?’. He nearly fell off his bar stool, and so did I! It wasn’t just the meaning that was a bit of a shock, but also her language, she never ever uses ‘fuck’. well, once he realised she was serious, and that I wasn’t freaked out, we headed off (rather self-consciously on my part) up to our room.
    He was even more nervous than me, but after a few awkward/silly comments as we all tried to work out what next she started kissing me and whispered in my ear for me to tell him to undress her, which I did. I was staggered at how into it she was, and also how much I enjoyed just sitting back and watching, which I did for some of the time. I also joined in, though I did find it odd when she was on all fours sucking me, him behind her when he and I caught each others eye. He did her two or three times, and then left. She was grinning, like a Cheshire cat that had got at the cream. He eventually said ‘thank you’ and left, and we cuddled and talked a bit, but really she just wanted to sleep. I woke the next morning a bit confused, but when my head cleared I had a huge desire to make love again…but she was too sore.
    We have done it four times since, always spontaneous, twice was really great (once with a much older guy in his late 50′s which she really enjoyed, and once with a young soldier), the other two ok to good.