• Tue, Jun 14 2011

“Mommyrexia” Sounds A Lot Like Regular Anorexia

Today, in Rich People Problems It’s Hard To Summon Any Pity Over: moms the city Upper East Side over are struggling hard to lose their baby weight…sometimes before they’ve even had their babies. According to The New York Post, this is a growing problem among well-to-do trophy wives who forget that weight gain is a necessary part of having a growing fetus inside of you. (That is, of course, unless you outsource the incubation of your children to the help. Why do those silly trophy wives never think of that?)

“All of my relatives gush about how good I look — but here on the Upper East Side, I feel like every-one around me looks much better,” laments “Karen,” whose ab muscles were almost too strong for a C-section and who deems her young son’s vegan apple walnut puree “too decadent” for her. (I guess the baby food diet is out of style now?)

The Post quotes a number of business owners talking about the uptick in demand for pregnant lady workout programs and extra small maternity clothes, and then a number of doctors saying how unhealthy this has the potential to be. But wait:

Karen’s paranoia isn’t so crazy when you consider celebrities like reality TV star Bethenny Frankel, who lost 30 pounds within a month of delivering a baby girl [something something Victoria Beckham].

See? This crazy thing people do is not, in fact, crazy, because celebrities do it too, and no celebrity has ever done anything unhealthy, ever.

This all seems pretty absurd to me, because the one thing that appeals to me about pregnancy is the license to stuff face like there’s no tomorrow. Also: having the capacity to stuff face like there’s no tomorrow. I’d never have to choose just one thing from the dessert menu! Why can’t they just enjoy the one time in life when it’s socially acceptable for a woman to gain weight?

Answer: because they have a problem. Disordered eating and over-exercising is an issue no matter how much money you have, and I’d hate to see anyone harm her baby because she couldn’t bring herself to eat enough during pregnancy. If you find yourself too grossed out by the idea of gaining weight to listen to your doctors, perhaps you should do yourself and your child a favor and get some therapy before bringing a child into the world? Motherhood is hard enough already without bringing an un-treated neurosis and/or eating disorder into the mix.

 

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  • MNiM

    Wow.

    Seriously?

    It sounds like these women are genuinely ill — and genuinely ill while already undergoing the changes and strain of pregnancy — and you think they’re an appropriate target for mocking, because they also happen to be rich?

    “perhaps you should do yourself and your child a favor and get some therapy before bringing a child into the world? Motherhood is hard enough already without bringing an un-treated neurosis and/or eating disorder into the mix”

    Yes, because all women women with a leaning toward disordered eating are going to know that, before it even strikes!

    Oh, and never mind the fact that this is appears to be an emerging problem among an entire class of women, and highly suggestive of enormous, unrealistic pressures that they are under. The personal is only the political if your husband isn’t rich, right?

    • LT

      I think they are a completely appropriate party to ‘mock.’ I have a hard time sympathizing with anyone like they are. That is one ‘illness’ you do to yourself. And don’t try pulling the “it’s all in how you are raised” or “it’s because of society” crap either. I was raised to think that being stick thin is appropriate. Even now, while looking at wedding dresses and being a size 8 or 10, I am being told I’m too damn fat. But I eat right, I work out, and I don’t starve myself. Why? Because I know what is healthy and I don’t give a damn what anyone else says to me. I built up my confidence from nothing, anyone can do it. I’m tired of these 85-pound bitches running around crying ‘poor, poor me, I am so unappreciated, just leave me alone.’ HELLO, you’re calling for the attention. Gain some damn weight and stop crying over everything. It’s not my job to feel bad for you.

    • Raven

      Just FYI, anorexia is a mental illness. I don’t know if the women in this article are truly anorexic or if they just feel pressure to conform to a certain look within their social circle. But I greatly struggled with anorexia throughout my teens/early twenties due to depression and childhood abuse, and I don’t believe my struggle with depression/anorexia makes me a “bitch.” Please don’t stereotype all people who struggle with an eating disorder as vain, attention-seeking “bitches.” It’s within your right not to sympathise, but it’s not okay to mock people who have a mental illness that you clearly don’t understand.

  • Jamie Peck

    Not all of these women have eating disorders. Some are just shallow!
    I sympathize with people who are “genuinely ill,” of course. But you have to admit that this article is kind of ridiculous.

    • MNiM

      “Motherhood is hard enough already without bringing an un-treated neurosis and/or eating disorder into the mix”

  • Diana

    “the one thing that appeals to me about pregnancy is the license to stuff face like there’s no tomorrow” I thought I was the only one… And there’s also the licence to act almost as spoiled as you want to.

  • Whitney

    Amen…. & I am coming from a family where we dealt with my mother’s eating disorder for the past 24+ years (she didn’t eat enough/was malnourished while she was pregnant with me too).

    Eating Disorders never effect just one, although it is a completely selfish disease.

    Basically, like this article said, (and this goes for everyone, not just people with E.D.), try to deal with your own shit before you bring a child into this world. Parenting is most important job any one person will have in their life.

  • Amber

    I had severe anarexia growing up, i currently have one child and another on the way! I have not once starved myself during my pregnancies! I am aware of the effect it can have on my children. I feel fat, yes, but to me its worth feeling fat for a couple of months and having healthy babies, then feeling skinny with unhealthy ones! And the sad thing is it could effect them the rest of their life!

  • stacy

    “This all seems pretty absurd to me, because the one thing that appeals to me about pregnancy is the license to stuff face like there’s no tomorrow.”
    what a dumb comment! I am sure I will piss off my fair share of people by saying this but eating whatever you want and gaining massive amounts of weight is just as unhealthy (if not more unhealthy!!!) than undereating! you expose yourself to gestesional diabtes, obesity, high cholesterol, hypertension, just to name a few and I haven’t even started what it will do to the unborn child. There is nothing wrong with gaining a healthy amount of weight and eating whole grains, fruits, vegetables, etc.. but it is not an excuse to eat junk food because no one should I don’t care who you are!

  • Patricia

    I love how the minute a tiny thing starts growing in your uterus everyone believes they’re entitled to issuing an opinion on how you are doing things. I love how the final argument always is “well if you don’t ________________ then you shouldn’t have babies!”. It’s so self-righteous and it annoys me. Very very very much.

    Also, I wasn’t aware that if you were rich you weren’t allowed to have problems/illnesses. Must have missed that memo.

    That being said, the author makes a valid point: yes being pregnant is a moment where you should do everything taking into account the well-being of another person. I feel bad for these women most of the time. I don’t think it’s ok to ridicule them just because they are rich, that’s quite petty.