7 Simple Relationship Rules From My Jewish Grandma That Every Woman Should Know

My grandma is full of good recipes, good jokes, and good relationship advice. She should be! This December, she and my grandfather will celebrate their 65th wedding anniversary.

They grew up in the same Jewish neighborhood in the Bronx during the Great Depression. My grandmother was 12 when she first laid eyes on her best friend’s older brother. She tells me it was love at first sight. They wrote letters throughout the war and were married promptly upon his return. Decades later, they’re still in love and living in a condo about half an hour from where they first met. She volunteers at a thrift store and keeps a few cans of PBR in the fridge. He likes to watch sports on his easy chair and drink an occasional PBR. They’re a pretty adorable couple, but she admits they’re not perfect.

I love chatting with my grandma—she’s hip, hilarious and insightful without coming off as too pedantic or out-of-touch. I promised if she shared some of her best relationship advice with me, I would spend a day playing canasta with her. (I totally won that negotiation: I love playing canasta with her.) I boiled down her advice into seven simple relationship rules—they’re not as nourishing as her matzoball soup, but I think they’re just as satisfying.

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    • Megan

      Is that them in the picture? (I assume so; it’d be weird to just have a random old couple up there.) They’re adorable…she’s still looking at him like, “Damn, I want a piece of that!” :)

      Annnnd would she share her matzo ball soup recipe? Pretty please?

      • Lindsay Kaplan

        Yes, those are my grandparents! They’re a pretty handsome couple, if you ask me. I’ve been sworn to secrecy about the matzoball soup, but maybe she’ll share if I play another round of canasta…

    • Carrie

      Wow – that’s fantastic. Thanks for sharing. Lots to think on…

    • Ellie

      I love your grandmom. Does she want to adopt me?

    • Rachel

      The slideshow click isn’t working for me, :(, is there another link to the full piece?

    • Helennoel

      The slide shoe doesn’t work for me either.

    • jenny

      Lindsay, this is ADORABLE. Can you post some video of your grandma? Would love to hear some of this from her own mouth!

    • Sunshine

      Beautiful post :)

    • Steph

      That’s so cute! Good words to live by.

    • Lauren Stewart

      Emily passed this on to me!! So glad that she did…..
      Not only words of wisdom, but proven by your grandparents, that when put into action, a long & happy marriage results!


      Wow! What a gift of wisdom.
      To think our world is so different from her generation is mind blowing….but its so true. Clearly her voice is one of realistic views with a spicy touch of humor…we love her!
      Keep your own world spinning, your own dreams alive by living them every day and most importantly your own “dough ray mi” in an separate account-
      that way you’re in a secured position no matter what tumbleweed should blow your way. We raise our glass to your grandma and wish her another 65 years of laughter and love to share with the world! We need more light like hers!