• Mon, Jun 20 2011

Real Talk: Men Explain What Makes A Woman A Slut

We’ve been talking about the phrase “slut” a lot lately. For instance, when is it okay to call a woman a slut? And tween sex scandals – women being slutty all the time in their two-pieces! We haven’t really believed women are sluts since we were in 7th grade. But we tried to see what some reasonably well educated, seemingly progressive men thought of as “slutty behavior.” I’ve chosen to use pictures of J Crew models to help illustrate their comments, because that is obviously a brand for harlots. I’d say hold onto your hat, but you probably just left it at some strangers house last night, you hat leaving tramp.

*Disclaimer: no, seriously, we do not think of women as sluts. But we think it’s interesting to see what other (male) people  think. On one hand, this is hilarious, on the other, kind of horrifying in this day and age, right?

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  • Eileen

    I would agree with the professor, but I’m kind of morally opposed to the unnecessary use of Latin in a blog post (not as bad as misspelled unnecessary Latin, but still). Unless he’s a professor of classics. Then I understand that he can’t help himself.

    • Jennifer Wright

      (He might be a classics professor but I am not at liberty to say).

    • Diana

      No offence, but a priori is also used in Maths. And he might just be used to that way of speaking because of the environment he’s in. To be honest it’s refreshing to read something else other than ‘OMG! This is like so cool!’ (general internet talk, not referring to the Gloss website, you’re always a pleasure to read)

  • A

    Private Equity Guy’s rule is interesting, if completely arbitrary and imagined. “Basically, if you want to avoid being called a slut, don’t have sex with more than two or three people a year and you’ll be fine.”
    Aww man, I slept with five guys in ’04, what a slutty year…I guess.
    Men who say they would never marry someone who slept with them on the first date confuse me. Maybe I’m horny and we just met, so yeah, I’m going home with you. But maybe I also had a great time on our date and dig your personality. Apparently I no longer have a future with you if I put out…hmm.

    • Somnilee

      This confused me also: “So, I’ve had two failed relationships this year….guess I should avoid men until we hit ’12, wouldn’t want anyone thinking I was a slut…”

    • TRCIII

      We actually heard these words (not the “s” word, but the same judgmental behavior) from a surprise source…our 25 y/o SON! He told us he was dating women who put ads on Craig’s List!! Shock #1. Apparently, you CAN find anything on Craig’s List! We asked how that was workin’ out for him. He said, “Fine. I’ve finally found someone who passed ‘the test’!” Huh? Shock #2. He had standards. Who knew? But as it a turns out, he was discriminating in a completely heinous way. He continued. “Yes. If they sleep with me on the first date, I don’t call them back. I mean, I still have sex with them and all–I’m not an idiot–but I won’t see them again.” My wife and I were momentarily too stunned to reply. Next question, “Umm…how many women ‘failed’ before you found this one?” “Six.” More silence. Finally, we asked about the girl who had “passed”…and the conversation turned back to a near-normal path. We understand (sort of) how he got this way–he was damaged pretty badly by two different wives who cheated on him and left him, taking infant sons, both times he went to sea–but we still can’t help but feel partly responsible. Where did we go wrong? Now he’s safely in Alice Springs, Australia, and there is no Craig’s List to date from. American women… you can sleep safe tonight. Australians? You’re on your own, ladies.

  • CNM

    So… she’s a slut for sleeping with you on the first date. What does that make you?

    • Amanda

      Right? That always confuses me.

    • Hanna

      THANK YOU!
      God, those guys creep me out. If I really like someone and I am horny why should I play coy or deny myself what I want? Nothing wrong with taking it slow but not to have sex just because it’s the first date, that’s stupid. If it feels right, go for it, for christ’s sake.

    • http://twitter.com/rarerichz Rich G

      dont say christ you slut god doesnt care for your lust , just because something feels right doesn’t make it okay. you gotta work hard and build trust before you just give away the goods. thats the problem with you whores these days you just think with your hormones and not your brain.

    • Battle Mage

      Anyone male or female who does that is a slut. You have LOW STANDARDS, and excuse me for not wanting to be involved with a woman with low standards. If you sleep with such a person, what does that say about your personal worth in their eyes? You are of low value if you are just one of a multitude, so I WONT do it. Not to mention, such SLUTS, female or male, is EXACTLY where you’ll find a nice case of herpies.

      You may not, but I have too much SELF RESPECT to screw a woman on the first.date, and.I have too much SELF RESPECT to just be the next guy in the line for such a woman.

      I simply will not sleep with someone such as yourself who has.such LOW STANDARDS.

    • Anon

      Anyone, male or female, has the right to have sex with whomever they want, whenever they want. As long as it is completely consensual. Who are you to judge someone based off of their personal choices that have absolutely nothing to do with you? What’s to say that a person who has a one night stand or sex on the first date doesn’t have self respect? You have your idea of self-respect and how to go about respecting yourself and that’s fantastic. But your same beliefs and opinions don’t resonate with everyone in the world. Self respect means to have a proper sense of one’s OWN dignity and integrity. You can certainly have your own idea of someone else’s dignity or integrity but that absolutely doesn’t reflect their own self worth. Anyone can still respect themselves whilst also banging someone on the first date.
      I rather like not being judged based on any decision I make in regard to MY OWN LIFE so I tend not to do that to others.

  • August S.

    You know how some people will, within the first 10 minutes of meeting them, tell you their whole life story, most horrifying traumas and deepest personal feelings? And you’re left thinking not “what an open and honest person!” but “Wow, they’ll tell that to anybody; I bet they want an audience more than real friendship.”

    I think sex is the same way; to go home with someone on the first night implies they’ve meet all your sexy-time criteria, which kind of implies you don’t have loads of criteria beyond “Hot! Reasonably Clever!” Which is fine, and I wouldn’t call a person a slut for it; in fact I admire my friends who can do that, since my crippling trust issues make sure I can only sleep with people after they’ve gone through multiple and byzantine trials to prove their integrity (I make them fight bears!).

    But I will say if the rules for entering your club are “fun, attractive and up for it” you shouldn’t be mad that people don’t consider it an exceptionally exclusive club*, because, well, it isn’t. But it’s probably way more fun and sexy, and you can’t keep all the adjectives for yourself.

    *yes, club is being used as an euphemism for vagina. Sorry.

  • http://bigapplepants.com sarahnoid

    Please tell me the photographer’s excerpt is directly from an email he sent you. The spelling hurts my soul.

  • Jessica Pauline Ogilvie

    THANK YOU, The Professor. It’s really sad that he’s the only one who actually didn’t answer the question but instead came up with a thoughtful rebuttal. I think that the rest of these men are publicity sluts, and just wanted to see their answer posted on the site. They should have waited till the third time you asked.

  • Natalie

    The professor’s answer kind of turned me on. But then again, I’m an academic slut.

    • Amy

      Ditto.

  • Jamie Peck

    Where do you find these awful fucking men?! Did you time-travel back to the fifties?! I don’t know a single guy who thinks like this. This is, however, a helpful reminder to everyone re: why we still need feminism. So uh, thanks, I guess?

    • Jamie Peck

      Also, I don’t think it’s hilarious. I think it’s a huge bummer. :(

    • Eileen

      I think a lot of men (and, honestly, a lot of women) think like this, but they know that they’re not “supposed” to. Kind of as The (possibly Classics) Professor notes – a lot of people make judgments about people who have a lot of sex partners. They’re also often not willing to ‘fess up to it, at least partly because they know that it’s sexist…but they still think that way, and if you can force them to be honest, they’ll admit to judging promiscuous women more than they do promiscuous men.

    • Steph

      Thank you!

    • Jamie Peck

      …and I’m not friends with any of those people. Seriously, I have cut people out of my life for getting drunk and revealing their nasty slut-shaming tendencies. I don’t tolerate this kind of fucked up ideology.

    • tina

      Clearly, it’s guys that dont get laid a lot that have always called women sluts. They’re insecure as crap.

    • Battle Mage

      For me it is about how valuable you are to your partner. If it is someone who sleeps with someone on the first date, or has had a high number of partners, then clearly you are NOT all that important. That person has low standards, which says a lot about what they think of you. Due.to this reasoning, I will neither be a slut nor will I sleep with one. You can call sexist all you want, but this has to do with SELF ESTEEM, not gender, because it is.exactly the.same.for either women or men in my eyes.

    • bitchslayerjones

      why we still need feminism??? Are you fucking serious? With all the womens rights going around men are being oppressed

  • epilonious

    “Slut” is a thing kids call each other in high school as The Highest Insult they can think of. It’s in the ‘super-mean words’ lexicon alongside “fat”, “fag” and “retard”.

    Thus, if someone over the age of say, 17, starts using it in a super-serious manner… to me, it’s simply a sign of emotional immaturity or regression.

    • Micah

      oh my god, thank you. completely agree.

  • Elizabeth

    “A classy dress that shows side boob or lots of clevage can be beautiful not slutty at all.”

    Ah side boob. Classy, classy side boob.

    • J

      CRacking up ! Yeah I agree a side boob is so Not classy ! What a stupid comment

      It’s not Beautifull is revealing
      A beautifull woman’s dress shows more figure and less flesh

  • Mikaela

    Why use models to support the argument?
    Does it really prove anything? …

  • Meghan Keane

    Jennifer, is The Investment Banker just a pseudonym for the author of The Rules, trying to scare ladies out of giving it up on the first date?

  • Creinauer

    “Slut” is not a phrase. Just sayin…

    • harlot

      You’re right. It’s a term, not a phrase.

  • Slut

    Can I be 54 years old and still a slut? I’ve been monogamous for 25 years, but prior to that, I had been known to have one night stands, to pick up an occasional guy in a bar, and to wear revealing clothes (um, if going nude on a beach could be described as revealing…)

    Mah gawd, these guys MUST be from an alternate reality, or from the 1950s. I came of age in the 1970s and I don’t think any of the guys I knew were as backward as most of these dudes!

    P.S., I slept with my husband on our second date 25 years ago.

    • ess

      Slut, I wish I came of age in the 1970s. It does appear the double standards are here, no?

    • Slut

      Ess, I have always considered myself a radical feminist and was very much an activist back in the day. I am honestly appalled to read those quotes from those backassward guys. Have we really backslid that much?? Damn.

  • Ann

    The first black model is Sports Illustrated model Ariel Meredith and the second black model is Victoria’s Secrets model Emanuel de Paula. And that’s all I have to say about this article.

  • An honest man

    Personally, I’m just grateful to get laid. I don’t hold it against the girl. If I like her I’ll still date her (unless she wasn’t good in bed because that’s a real turn-off)…

    • ess

      Thank you, An honest man! Kudos for your honesty and attitude. I’d like to also add: I slept with a man on the first date. And he is now my husband.

  • grammalori

    i’m confused as to what the term “slut” means for the person labeling another as such. Is a slut someone I won’t talk to? Does she have no value as a person? Is she okay as long as she’s not talking to my boyfriend? Or is it just someone who is really promiscuous but otherwise a good person?

    What I mean is that there is no one who I know on more than a superficial level that I would call a slut. It seems like a blanket term for a woman you don’t know who is somehow threatening. Like an easy way to dismiss another human being.

    I’ve just never really thought about what it truly means when I call someone a slut.

  • Goo

    I can’t help but suspect that men who “would never marry a ‘girl’* who puts out on the first date” are also the kinds of men who would also justify cheating on their wives because they don’t have sex with them as often as they want to (usually because they’re raising kids and a job).

    *are we not women? girls go to school, women work.

    • Battle Mage

      The culture is guys and girls, men and women. If you are upset about girl, why aren’t yih upset about women, being a derivative of men?

  • Luis De Siqueira

    This is insanity. Sleeping with someone on a first date does not make you a slut. Sleeping with whomever you want whenever you want so long as you aren’t breaking someones trust does not make you a slut.

    Sluts date guys for money, purposefully make themselves look like whores, go to the gym/tan on daddies dime and aim to be as sexually appealing as possible so they never have to work.

    That is a slut. Sluts weaponize sex, real women enjoy sex.

    • Hmmmm

      It sounds like you’re just trying to play the role of “nice and understanding” guy so that you can score yourself some sluts. Well played!

    • J

      No sleeping with someone on the first date makes you a slut and the second part you spoke about makes you a whore

      Your so wrong..wake up

  • Ian

    Let me tell you what makes a woman a slut by offering an example – my girlfriend. A slut, is someone who enters into a relationship with you as if you are the only one. Leads you to believe you’are’ they only one. Lets you waste your time money, effort and life believing so, whilst at the same time is registred on sex sites and ‘social’ websites and having sex with a multitude of men and woman, threesomes you name it, behind your back. Now that, is undeniably a slut. and if i could find a stronger word, believe me, id have no hesitation in using it.

    • meh

      how about a nymphomaniac? she might have been clinically ill. anyways sorry for your disappointment

  • Jim

    I read these coments…. esp. by woman and can see why this world we live in is so screwed up. Lets face it the amount of abortions that we do just here in america is staggering and you can lay that at the feet of slutty behavior. Yes slutty behavior is a woman that has sex with a man or men before there married. How many broken hearts and unwed mothers and children with out daddy do we have running around because of slutty behavior. I find that woman that are sluts produce little girls that turn into sluts.
    That being said I think that there are also men sluts. Men that think that sex is something that should be done as often and with as many woman as possible. They produce children they do not support and they produce little boys that grow up to be sluts.
    The labling of slut is something used to cause someone to examine there behavior and hopefully with some moral tweeking change there slutty ways.
    So boys and girls don’t be a slut, don’t produce sluts, find someone to love you for ever, Marry them and live happly ever after.

    • tina

      Are you waving a flag right now too?

    • Justin

      Jim Anderson

    • Andromeda Hadouken

      :/ I’m not married to my my partner, but we’ve been having sex for a long time. I do not think I am a slut.
      I have never had a one night stand, I have never given fellatio to anyone other then my current long-term partner, I have never cheated on anybody nor have I ever been sexually involved with somebody who was in a relationship, nor have I been sexually involved with anyone whom my sister/friends had feelings for.

      So just because I am not married to my boyfriend, I am a slut?

      I just don’t believe that.

      I would say a slut is somebody (male or female) who HAS done all, or most of the above things that I have NOT done.

      Cheating, using, taking advantage of, allowing oneself to be taken advantage of, having sex with complete strangers, screwing around with people who have boyfriends/girlfriends/husbands/wives… THAT is slutty behavior.

      I don’t think it has anything to do with marriage, not the number of people someone has slept with, only how a person goes about it. If someone is prepared to hurt other people or engage in self-destructive behavior in the pursuit of sex, that would be slutty.
      A woman may have slept with 20 plus men and not be a slut,
      while another woman may have slept with only 3 would be.
      It is about how someone goes about it, really.

    • http://twitter.com/rarerichz Rich G

      actually a women that has slept with 20 plus men is a slut because why did it take her having to sleep with 20 plus men to have a serious relationship.

    • GS

      Because men change after the relationship. Twenty partners isn’t
      really high for someone in their 30s, or 40s+.

  • meh

    hahhaa private equity guy is hilarious!

  • Jeremy

    Girls everywhere and all you emasculated “men” who are trying so hard to be politically correct at the expense of your masculinity, listen up.

    Men and women are equals. This does not mean that they are equal in every single thing they do. For example, men are, on average, physically stronger than women. It is much easier for a semi attractive (even a 6/10) woman to go out and get laid. The same cannot be said about men. Men have to work at it, have some skill (game) and thereby get a woman to sleep with them. It is a LOT harder for an equally attractive man to get women than it is the other way around. This is one of reasons behind why we, as a society, naturally celebrate men who are successful in bedding multiple women; while at the same time shame women who bed multiple men.

    Let us briefly visit the topic of virginity from both perspectives. Virginity in a man is not a desirable state or label when it comes to an attribute that the opposite sex wants. This is because he has obviously not been preselected by other women. However, female virginity is not looked at negatively in the least by men. If she looks decent, no man cares if the girl is a virgin or not. In fact, a female virgin is often wanted more.

    Now don’t get me wrong, men LOVE sluts. We will never turn down an opportunity to sleep with a good looking slut. Partly because she’s good in bed, partly because it’s sex. But any decently intelligent, self-respecting man will know that it is a terrible idea to emotionally involve himself (i.e. date) a slutty girl. That would be a very dumb move. Why would any man want to get emotionally involved with a girl who’s had 15+ sexual partners? We would just be setting ourselves up for failure. There are many nice worthy girls out there who don’t have daddy issues and haven’t slept with an entire fraternity house. But, by all means, fvck the brains out of sluts in the meanwhile.

    Most guys can detect when a girl is a slut by the first few dates and by what he hears about the girl from other people and from the girl herlself. We put this information together and figure out if she is dating material or not. If not, I like most guys, will still go in for the prize but have no intention of following through with dating the dirty little tart.

    To put it simply, a lock that can be opened by many keys is a useless lock and of little worth. But a key that can open many locks is a master key and is valuable.

    • tina

      I’ve slept with men like you Jeremy. They were horrible in bed, it was all about them and getting it done fast and furiously. It’s good to know from the beginning if a guy is a selfish lover. Every long term relationship I’ve had started with sex on the first date.

    • Jeremy2

      Slept with men like him? So I believe you’d be one of the sluts…. You sound like one complaining about being horrible in bed…. Bitch please. Ever stop to contemplate that due to your sluttyness you were not worth the normal effort given to a deacent and respectful girlfriend who the fuck do ya think wants to lick your dirty pussy.? It’s … Put on a jimmy … Fuck you then remind you to fuck offf because you believed as a sliutt that you could be easy and use us… When instead we’ve used you.

    • GS

      If you think a girl is dirty, then why would you sleep with
      her? Doesn’t that make you dirty too?

    • GS

      Except that people are not objects like locks and keys. You have
      a very warped and sexist attitude. If you are sleeping around, then you are
      slutty too. Promiscuity puts yourself and your partners at risk.

    • funky

      I completely agree with Jeremy. You see, the problem with modern feminism is that it has disrupted a gender equilibrium that has existed for millenia. And yes, that equilibrium had men exerting their control and superiority over women, but it was an equilibrium nonetheless that has helped the human species perpetuate and colonize the Earth. Feminism’s successful foray on mainstream culture has destroyed that balance and made it increasingly hopeless for today’s man to land a decent woman who cherishes him, let alone one who can be a suitable mother to his children.

      I will concede that some aspects of feminism are just and proper. Women should have some say of how many children they want, if they want to work, and if they want to get married (and with whom). They should not be held as sex slaves against their will. They should be rewarded based on their skills and accomplishments just like a man should, and equal pay for equal work is reasonable. However, today we have women overreaching and demanding more than their fair share. They want high positions not based on their skills but simply because they are female, continually shoving false “glass-ceiling” and unequal pay myths down our throats. They want courts to subjugate men they divorce for the most trivial of reasons, and they want to put-down and play any man who attempts to form a connection with them using a provider (beta) game that has worked for his most recent ancestors.

      Unfortunately there will be no setting back of the clock. As long as women retain suffrage, our politicians will continue to appease them for votes by refusing to scale back anti-man laws. Unfit mothers will continue to keep custody rights while fathers pay support for a child who is brainwashed against him. Single motherhoodwill increasingly be glorified. And as long as American-style capitalism provides decreasing job opportunities for men, women will continue to excel in mundane office jobs that better suit their social, emotional brains instead of the factory and engineering jobs of the past that provided men with a fair income for his entire family.

      I believe that today’s man can still restore his dominion in a world that is skewing against his favor by doing one thing: becoming a sexist. He must possess sexist beliefs for three reasons:

      1. To have sexual relationships with women who are at least as pretty as he is handsome.

      2. To assert his superiority over his female competitors in the workplace by playing the office game as well as they do (e.g. constantly bringing up accomplishments to managers, being outspoken, being two-faced, ass-kissing, and backstabbing).

      3. To get laid at all.

      In the past you didn’t have to believe that you were superior to women. The system was set up so that all you had to do was go to school, get a good-paying local job, and ask your mom to put in a good word with the neighbor’s cute daughter. The first girl you fucked would probably be your wife, you’d have your two kids, and you’d live the so-called American dream. Today this is not possible. Your father’s father would be unsuccessful at mating in today’s climate of feminism which has allowed a tiny percentage of alpha men to monopolize the best women. As American women become more obese and gross, there are fewer desirable women left outside of the alpha males’ harems. The nice guy is left with nothing but scraps—and those scraps have attitude.

      While it doesn’t look good for you in terms of marriage, at the minimum any educated, employed man in a first-world nation should be able to sleep with a handful of decent women a year. But without having sexist beliefs, he will wholeheartedly struggle in that front. Here’s what it means to be a sexist:

      Having a low level of respect for women.

      Having the belief that the genders are not equal (you should nod or smile at the following quote: “A woman can do anything a man can do, as long as a man first shows her how”).

      Not listening to them about anything.

      Studying flavors of game based on the alpha-male model, an effective countermeasure to feminism.

      Preferring the company of compliant, feminine women of different nationalities where feminism has not made strong inroads (Eastern Europe, Southeast Asia, South America).

      You don’t have to hate women and you don’t have to abuse them. You don’t have to commit any crimes against them. But you must believe that you are superior and deserve more than them. With the addition of game practice, you will then be sexually rewarded for those beliefs.

      It’s a sad fact that the modern feminist withholds sex from the nice guy, disgusted with his subservience, while servicing the sexist alpha man, increasing his power and rewarding him with more sexual delights than he could have experienced since the days of Itzcoatl. The nice guy is weak and starved, left sexless and alone, a pathetic specimen resigned to the brunt of jokes in beer commercials and crappy sitcoms. If he wants to be procreate, he has no choice but to rise from the ashes a sexist. The more of those beliefs he accepts, the more he’ll get what he wants in the fucked-up world we currently live in.

  • roxy

    Women and men are all sluts.. Its just that women are more undercover. Look Im a girl, and I’ve cheated on many guys, but I still dont consider myself a slut because I know what I want in my life, and I have a degree which most women nowadays want to depend on a guy for money and etc… Do I dress provocative sometimes?? yes! but does that make me a slut? no. A slut is really perception anyways, because for example a conservative outfit can be interpreted as being too revealing and a revealing outfit can be interpreted as being too conservative. To summarize my answer women and men can be sluts and definition of the word is always changing that by 2013 a slut is interpreted as being a good thing…. Sometimes we get horny and we need that release! but who I really think are sluts are girls who get pregnant at 16! thats disgusting.. But who cares because its happening anyways and we cant stop people from having sex!

    • dave

      get off the illusion that you are not a slut because you are the worst kind of slut. you cheated m0re than once..

    • Sunny

      Never mind that she may have been raped! There are plenty of people who slept with someone at sixteen, one may have just been unlucky enough to get pregnant and had the guts to stick by their kid, those people have married and had kids. I think that people would have more respect for the girls that slept with someone at sixteen and only had a few partners, and were faithful than with someone who started the behaviour you do at twenty. You shouldn’t be so quick to put down teen mothers.

    • http://twitter.com/rarerichz Rich G

      you sound like a slut , cause only sluts cheat , and just because you have a degree doesn’t mean your any less of a pig.

  • corey

    The problems with being a slut are:1. having sex with you is just not special anymore(what man wants that in his future wife). 2. having numerous sexual partners makes a woman dirty(harder to clean your genitalia) and therefore unfit to eat out. No man wants to think about his woman’s vagina as a cesspool.

    • Kane

      Smartest comment I heard

    • Anna

      Its not about HOW many guys a women fucks that results to a loose vagina or unclean genitalia, its about how many TIMES she fucked. A women who sticked with 1 man for 3 years and had sex with him 300 times VS a women who had 8 partners, perhaps one night stands? so getting fucked 8 times within 3 year time vs getting fucked 300 times…………………… A DICK IS A DICK. Which one will result to a looser pussy ?

    • Anon

      Clearly,you have no idea how a vagina works. Do your research. The idea that every time a woman has sex, her vagina becomes more and more loose is a myth. And a ridiculous one at that.
      The vagina, when at rest, remains tightly closed – anxiety or anxiousness can make the musculature clench tighter. When becoming aroused – the muscle tissues relax which allows easier insertion. If she’s ‘too tight’ it’s not actually a good thing. That either means she’s not interested in the sex or she hasn’t had enough warm up time meaning less comfortable insertion.
      After relaxing during sex, the vaginal muscle naturally contracts or tightens again. Intercourse, no matter how many times a woman has had sex, does not permanently stretch the vagina.
      After childbirth, the vagina has stretched dramatically, BUT it does usually re-tighten completely within 6 months after delivery. However, there are two exceptions – Aging and having multiple pregnancies can loosen the vagina. But kegels (you can look that up yourself) can help tighten the vagina back up. It’s just a simple, small exercise to help the muscles contract and strengthen. Well, anyways – that’s the actual physiology of it.

  • Loreal Madonna

    Tina You are a slut!

    • Brody

      hell yeah! And we love our sluts. They make the world go round.

  • by Scarrlet

    The funny thing is that you see all these men saying I d never date some one I slept with on the first date and all this shit by from my personal exprince most men will and are confident enought in themselves to not be thretened by my sexuality. This isn’t the dark ages we don’t have to choice between Madonas and whores we can accept people as people. I also men need to stop asuming that every woman wants to get married have fifty babies and live “happly ever after,” because not all of us want that. Also I don’t have any daddy issues and get very offened when people ask if thats why I like sex. I like sex because I like sex! Nothing more to say there except that I m very happy with my life as a “slut”

  • Vanessa

    I disagree, Tina. Most people who call women sluts are, in fact, other women. And they are followed by players. Players might not call women sluts to their faces but since they’ve slept with copious amounts of women, they know a lot of sluts and thus think that most women are like that. And who can blame them?

    • Steph

      Judging from some of the men’s posts it seems like they’d prefer a woman who plays games and uses sex as a bartering tool to secure a relationship. I am certainly no slut and am choosy whom I sleep with. However, I recently, against my better judgement, slept with someone on a first date because I was horny, I fancied the pants of him and felt alot of chemistry. Afterwards he asked me how many other men I had slept with on the first date and went onto say we could be F buddies and that’s all. Perhaps it would have been better if I had held out for a set number of dates in order to ensure I snared him into a relationship? Then I could have been a devious slut instead of just a slut!

    • GS

      Yes and women hate that stupid game. Some of
      these men are delusional to think women would want a relationship with them. After reading some of their comments, why would they?

  • Eva

    Calling a woman a “slut” has very little bearing on the subject and rather more on the person who says it. It is of course intended to be derogatory and shaming but really it shows a fear of competition and of rejection. It is very easy for a male to dismiss a female in front of a general public because generally males are seen as superior in debate and thus certain subjects like sex and sexuality are considered off-limits to “respectable women”. Even in this day we are experiencing a Victorian age hangover of moral issues.

  • hornyesthusband

    personally I love sluts-i’m teaching my wife to enjoy being one right now-we almost broke up because she thought I wouldn’t want THAT KIND OF GIRL when actually I had no intention of spending the rest of my life with a woman who don’t love to be dirty and drive men crazy and hey you know FUCK. in fact we’re talking about a mmf threesome soon and it’s made our sex life even hotter-some men may not want to marry a slut-but they’ll still cheat on her with one-me I’m loving life and my wife-no shame in my game

  • never wrong says

    the problem today there are certainly much more filthy whore women than ever before, especially when they go with the black men nowadays.

    • Kane

      Ur mother loves black men

    • never wrong says

      drop dead faggot, and go eat your mother.

  • I NEVER LIE SAYS

    well since they have a different boyfriend for each day of the week, that certainly makes them a FILTHY SLUT.

  • I Speak The Truth Says

    well gee wiz that is a very easy question to answer, so many women today are FILTHY WHORES since most of them today have a need to date so many men at one time. lets see now, the average woman today needs a least seven different boyfriends. that is one for each day of the week. THAT IS IT, and GOD forbid should they only have ONE to be with.

  • The Truth Says

    most of the women out there now are certainly FILTHY WHORES anyway, and they are joined by the VERY FILTHY, DISEASED INFESTED, LESBIAN PIG WOMEN TOO. then again, GOD certainly created SHIT these days.

  • Emmy

    Oh my goodness. So much hate and judgement that is being tossed around here and some of you people still have the nerves to attach God’s name next to it? Judging and hatred is just a big of sin as fornication. I think people need to remember that God is forgiving anyhow. So much so, that hopefully he can forgive all the ignorance that’s stenching up this page. One love.

  • http://www.facebook.com/erisriley Eris Riley

    Men are nothing but worthless whores. And most of you have small useless dicks

    • anon

      women are nothing but cheating two faced gold diggers

    • michap77

      Perhaps you just have a huge vagina? noimsayin

  • Joe

    SHIT is everywhere now.

  • ishita

    Read almost all comments. Its such a negative world we live in.. Full of hatred and prejudice and name-calling each other like immature teens. Honestly, who am I to judge on what is slut behaviour and who is one. Its none of my business what others do in bed.
    And who are others to tell me how I should live. Life is too short to live according to others’ dictat.

  • jan

    I busted up laughing when I read the first sentence of The Lawyer’s opinion. How ugly does a guy have to be if he assumes it’s obvious that any woman who sleeps with him has no standards and has rejected all of society’s conventions and norms? What is he the Elephant Man?

    On a more serious note, I have realized that there are people (both men and women) who truly believe the double standard is acceptable and feel justified in their opinion. I can’t personally force other people to change their opinions but I can decide whether or not to associate with that type of person. Therefore instead of arguing and trying to change the opinion of someone I disagree with, I simply associate myself with people who share the same or similar viewpoints as me on this issue.

    Also, people need to stop placing all the blame on this double standard on men. Yes, it is men who started it (centuries ago) but it’s women (more than men) who continue to perpetrate and justify it to this day.

  • michap77

    sluts are fun tho. just gotta abuse them a little tho cause they are trash

  • Speaking The Very Truth

    well the average woman today has at least seven different boyfriend’s, and that is one for each day of the week. now that is what i call a very filthy SLUT.

  • Lee Gellatly

    Well, thankfully this article actually depicts a very narrow viewpoint. Not all men think this way about women, thank God. Once women stop worrying about what men think and just do as they want and desire, old fashioned viewpoints will disappear along with that. I don’t know what society these guys grew up in , but in my circle of male friends, they don’t have time for such silly views. Love them!

  • funky

    I completely agree with Jeremy. You see, the problem with modern feminism is that it has disrupted a gender equilibrium that has existed for millenia. And yes, that equilibrium had men exerting their control and superiority over women, but it was an equilibrium nonetheless that has helped the human species perpetuate and colonize the Earth. Feminism’s successful foray on mainstream culture has destroyed that balance and made it increasingly hopeless for today’s man to land a decent woman who cherishes him, let alone one who can be a suitable mother to his children.

    I will concede that some aspects of feminism are just and proper. Women should have some say of how many children they want, if they want to work, and if they want to get married (and with whom). They should not be held as sex slaves against their will. They should be rewarded based on their skills and accomplishments just like a man should, and equal pay for equal work is reasonable. However, today we have women overreaching and demanding more than their fair share. They want high positions not based on their skills but simply because they are female, continually shoving false “glass-ceiling” and unequal pay myths down our throats. They want courts to subjugate men they divorce for the most trivial of reasons, and they want to put-down and play any man who attempts to form a connection with them using a provider (beta) game that has worked for his most recent ancestors.

    Unfortunately there will be no setting back of the clock. As long as women retain suffrage, our politicians will continue to appease them for votes by refusing to scale back anti-man laws. Unfit mothers will continue to keep custody rights while fathers pay support for a child who is brainwashed against him. Single motherhoodwill increasingly be glorified. And as long as American-style capitalism provides decreasing job opportunities for men, women will continue to excel in mundane office jobs that better suit their social, emotional brains instead of the factory and engineering jobs of the past that provided men with a fair income for his entire family.

    I believe that today’s man can still restore his dominion in a world that is skewing against his favor by doing one thing: becoming a sexist. He must possess sexist beliefs for three reasons:

    1. To have sexual relationships with women who are at least as pretty as he is handsome.

    2. To assert his superiority over his female competitors in the workplace by playing the office game as well as they do (e.g. constantly bringing up accomplishments to managers, being outspoken, being two-faced, ass-kissing, and backstabbing).

    3. To get laid at all.

    In the past you didn’t have to believe that you were superior to women. The system was set up so that all you had to do was go to school, get a good-paying local job, and ask your mom to put in a good word with the neighbor’s cute daughter. The first girl you fucked would probably be your wife, you’d have your two kids, and you’d live the so-called American dream. Today this is not possible. Your father’s father would be unsuccessful at mating in today’s climate of feminism which has allowed a tiny percentage of alpha men to monopolize the best women. As American women become more obese and gross, there are fewer desirable women left outside of the alpha males’ harems. The nice guy is left with nothing but scraps—and those scraps have attitude.

    While it doesn’t look good for you in terms of marriage, at the minimum any educated, employed man in a first-world nation should be able to sleep with a handful of decent women a year. But without having sexist beliefs, he will wholeheartedly struggle in that front. Here’s what it means to be a sexist:

    Having a low level of respect for women.

    Having the belief that the genders are not equal (you should nod or smile at the following quote: “A woman can do anything a man can do, as long as a man first shows her how”).

    Not listening to them about anything.

    Studying flavors of game based on the alpha-male model, an effective countermeasure to feminism.

    Preferring the company of compliant, feminine women of different nationalities where feminism has not made strong inroads (Eastern Europe, Southeast Asia, South America).

    You don’t have to hate women and you don’t have to abuse them. You don’t have to commit any crimes against them. But you must believe that you are superior and deserve more than them. With the addition of game practice, you will then be sexually rewarded for those beliefs.

    It’s a sad fact that the modern feminist withholds sex from the nice guy, disgusted with his subservience, while servicing the sexist alpha man, increasing his power and rewarding him with more sexual delights than he could have experienced since the days of Itzcoatl. The nice guy is weak and starved, left sexless and alone, a pathetic specimen resigned to the brunt of jokes in beer commercials and crappy sitcoms. If he wants to be procreate, he has no choice but to rise from the ashes a sexist. The more of those beliefs he accepts, the more he’ll get what he wants in the fucked-up world we currently live in.

  • Chris

    Women, here’s how you can tell if you are a slut: Do you truly qualify to wear white on your wedding? If not, you are a slut.