• Wed, Jun 22 2011

Real Talk: Do Real Women Spit Or Swallow?

Oh, goodness, men seem to care, don’t they? I polled some total strangers on the street for this. Just went up to them and said “lady, spit or swallow?” This is what they said.

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  • Papa Geek

    It’s definitely hotter if the girl swallows, but I don’t think guys shouldn’t complain too much about getting a bj regardless of what the girl does at the end! :)

  • Eileen

    I have never understood the reasoning behind spitting. If he comes in your mouth, it’s already in your mouth, which means you’ve already tasted it and will probably accidentally swallow at least some of it. If you don’t want to swallow, have him come somewhere else (on your body or otherwise) – but if you’re okay with letting him come in your mouth, you might as well swallow.

  • Papa Geek

    @Eileen – Yeah I guess if it’s already in your mouth you’re probably going to taste it longer going to spit it out than you would by just swallowing?

    Imagine if boys ran to the sink to spit after going down on girls!

    • Eileen

      Yeah, I totally understand not wanting to taste it – despite what porn would have us believe, I really doubt semen is anyone’s favorite flavor. But once it’s in there, you’re stuck with the taste, and you’re really not going to get out of swallowing a little bit (that being the general nature of liquids). So you might as well swallow it all, thereby making less of a mess and getting extra cool points. But licking your lips when you’re done is absolutely beyond the pale (take note, porn).

  • Jamie Peck

    Do these people find gagging and maybe puking a little bit sexy? Because that is what my body does when I try to swallow. Once again: fuck the patriarchy (not literally) and do what feels right to you. Ugh.

  • Steph

    I don’t see why men should care what you do, since they’ve already gotten what they wanted. It’s kind of awkward either way.

  • pinktrickle

    Guys, just sit back and enjoy it either way! I do both depends on my mood. Only a rare few guys will kiss me right after I do either, jeez selfish or what =)

  • matbo

    I can’t swallow…I just can’t…it’s just to much weird ooey luquid in my mouth. It just doesn’t work. Now though I just use it as part of foreplay, I lead him to the edge and then we have intercourse. Means I don’t have to make a decision, spit it out or gag and then spit it out.
    Besides. Has the man tasted his own semen? I won’t swallow if he hasn’t tasted. Fair is fair.

    • Papa Geek

      I think fairness would be more like if he has tasted your orgasmic fluids, and does he spit or swallow after going down on you. :)

    • matbo

      But there really isn’t anything to swallow when he goes down on me…Do I not emit enough fluid…I mean seriously, I’m getting really confused. Am I supposed to be a waterfall when I come?

    • Papa Geek

      LOL No I didn’t mean that you’re supposed to be a waterfall, just that fairness would involve him tasting your fluids versus calling them weird and ooey. :)

      I think typically by the time a girl comes there is plenty of orgasmic liquid in and on the guys mouth, just not typically a separate spunk that puts it to a “spit or swallow” choice for the boy.

      That said, I think there’s probably a big difference between a guy just wiping his face off after oral, versus spitting any fluids out. And I’ve never had a girl that would kiss me after I went down on her either which is a serious bummer when you like to kiss during sex.

    • MM

      Seriously, Papa Geek? I always kiss boys after they go down on me. I never even think about it. Kissing rocks.

    • Papa Geek

      @MM – Yes seriously. I’ve kissed girls after they went down on me (after spitting or swallowing of course) but usually I have to go wash my face off with soap and use mouthwash before I’ll get a kiss. :P

    • Hanna

      Really? I don’t have a problem with that. Then again, I have hardly ever encountered a guy who wouldn’t kiss me after I went down on him. I think you should be okay with your bodily fluids and stuff, it gets anywhere and everywhere anyway, sooner or later.

  • porkchop

    So, the woman on the street says you should swallow because:

    “it won’t kill you”

    and clean-up is a snap.

    SEXY.

  • http://bigapplepants.com sarahnoid

    Diane and I are on par. When I first started doing sexy things with my boyfriend, I asked a gal pal if she spit or swallowed. She said she swallowed because it meant less laundry for her. It seemed logical to me. I still find it logical.

    I just tend to make sure there’s a carbonated beverage nearby. There’s nothing sexy about getting that weird skittles-phlegm voice because you’ve got some jizz coating your vocal chords. The carbonation takes care of this.

    • woo

      Yep, when I saw Diane’s I was like “BINGO!” I really don’t give a fuck, just gulp it down and have a swig of fizzy drink/water (and I am otherwise vegan!!)

    • lexrex

      Hey, thanks for the carbonated beverage tip! I’ll have to keep some pepsi on my night stand next time.

  • emma

    I never understood spitting. The fastest way to get it out of your mouth (and if its already there you’re tasting it anyway) to to swallow. I also think its disrespectful to spit, and doing so is not very sex positive at all, since it signals that it’s something dirty. It would be like if your partner went down on you and then wiped out their mouth with a tissue, way to not make me feel sexy at all. In the end though its really what you are comfortable with of course.

    • theunderstudy

      emma, what if it is a one nighter and you hardly knew the guy? is giving head to guys almost considered way casual nowadays? i just can’t imagine some random cumming down a woman’s throat to be not kinda gross? your thoughts please.

    • theunderstudy

      what about just letting him finish outside the mouth?

  • Dawn

    Spit or swallow aren’t the only options. While I am generally a swallower (easiest way not to taste it), if I don’t feel like it, letting it dribble out of my mouth is less messy than a facial and cleaner than letting him just come anywhere. And apparently looks sexy.

  • Carolyn

    For me, blowjobs are ALWAYS an apetizer, never the main course. I haven’t had to worry about spitting or swallowing since high school…

    • jo

      good job! :)

    • Dude

      Better than no head, but still lame.

  • Nikita

    Besides the taste, I just don’t like the smell of semen, especially when it’s in my mouth. It reminds me of accidentally swallowing pool water. And drowning.

  • alison

    I’ve done both. My guy normally takes over with his hand a few secs before he comes to prevent me getting dirty. I don’t care either way…although I do like to finish what I start.

    He will not kiss me after I’ve gone down on him though but kisses me when it’s the other way around LOL

  • jo

    i’ve tried swallowing, but, seriously, semen never tasted good for me. if i like the guy enough, i’m going to swallow, but most of the time i just tell my partner not to come inside my mouth.

    • Jo

      darn, my claim to the “Jo” identity on the gloss is moot.

  • Teri Jensen

    I swallow, well most of it anyway. I find guys kind of like the sloppy factor of dribbling but most of it I swallow. I do know a woman who won’t even let her bf come in her mouth and she is almost thirty. And for the record, I have never not kissed a guy after he has gone down on me. If anything it makes me feel closer to him and want to kiss him more.

  • BJ Girl

    I love giving head and especially enjoy a few good full insertions. I can feel (and hear) how exited it makes my man when I let him slide all the way in. If I hold it there for a few seconds and swallow, it makes him ready almost instantaneously. I never take his load down my throat though. I prefer him to pull it out to the edge of my lips and shoot it all over inside my mouth. Then I slurp it down after I roll it around with my tongue for a bit. Never waste a drop girls! It really turns him on to see his juice painted all over your tonsils!…

    • Manuel

      You email me sometime (: I’m only 18 and young for you (;

  • Hanna

    I have to say I am completely okay with going down on men. With some I tremendously enjoy it, it’s mostly about the specific penis. A pretty penis is a nice thing. If a guy spends two hours on giving me orgasms without getting anything out of it, I will damn well give him the pleasure of coming in my mouth. I will probably be too exhausted and sensitive to have sex anyway. It’s not foreplay, it’s giving back.
    Mostly I take care to have almost the whole thing in when he comes so I don’t even really taste it, I just swallow it, keep him in my mouth until he’s relaxed and not so hyper-sensitive anymore and then I lie down next to him while he’s being all overwhelmed and grateful. I have to admit I am proud of my skills. It’s wonderful to be able to give someone so much joy. It’s sensual.
    Doesn’t mean semen tastes good, though. It doesn’t. That’s why I don’t like to keep it in my mouth, I just swallow it away, take a sip of water and smile benevolently.

  • Maris

    I prided myself on having not swallowed for all of my life. In fact, when me would ask me about it, I’d joke that I wanted it on my tombstone “never parallel parked and never swallowed.” Actually, I’d never even given a full blow job before- I guess it made me feel powerful or that I had integrity or something.

    Anyway, with my current boyfriend, I ended up doing it. I didn’t even realize he was finishing until after it happened. I sat there, wide-eyed, frantically deciding what to do with the contents of my mouth. He KNEW I had never done that before, and my feelings on the matter, etc. I swallowed. I figured it was better than running to the bathroom in my underwear. It actually wasn’t that bad.

    I’m glad I got over it. I still wonder why he didn’t tell me he was going to finish, though. I hope he enjoyed it- because it isn’t happening again for a long time.

  • Liz

    I prefer to swallow (especially with my current lover, whom I adore). Once in awhile I will let it dip from my lips, because he requested it.
    That is what the porn stars do ;-).

  • Liz

    I prefer to swallow, especially with my current lover (who I adore). I do let it dip from my lips at times upon his request ;-)

  • Miranda

    Swallow!! I think it’s easier, you don’t have to find something to spit in. Plus what guy doesn’t want you too. Giving head is one of my favorite things, especially because my boyfriend returns the favor, amazingly. ;)

  • Paula

    Well – as I always tell the men in my life – if you’ll let me blow my nose in your mouth (& swallow), I’ll let you blow in my mouth (& swallow).
    the end. Bodily fluids are bodily fluids are bodily fluids. Women don’t need to prove they can tolerate & swallow mucus-like gloppy sperm to prove their sexual being or to puff up their peacock feathers (so to speak).

  • Victoria

    Swallow, always. I want every part of him. Why would anyone spit? It’s such a turn off for the guy and in turn, a turn off for me.

  • Idy

    Not only does it taste bad, it smells awful too. I dunno how it works for others, but for me, the key to not tasting it is by keeping it away from my throat, not the other way round.
    Men get aroused by the smell of vagina, women don’t. Men would happily lick/sniff away at everything that has come in contact with vagina fluid. They love it so much, a scent was produced. No such thing has been done for semen. So I owe no one an apology for hopping (running) to the bathroom to rinse my mouth.

    • Papa Geek

      You’re joking, right? Men don’t love the smell of vagina because they’re genetically programmed to like it, or because it smells like roses or chocolate chip cookies. They love the smell because it’s part of sex and intimacy. ;)

    • Papa Geek
    • JOE

      WRONG, not all men like the smell of Vagina, Not all, but some are pretty ripe (they smell like rotten fish. I hate fish) and some don’t smell at all, but I still “GO DOWN” because it’s enjoyable for them and the last thing I would do is run to the bathroom or reach for a napkin to swipe my mouth out
      .
      On the other hand I don’t expect my women to spit either. ( really can’t remember one that I’ve been that does spit, they all swallow).

      To those women that say “how would I like it if they blew thier nose in my mouth and asked me to swallow”?
      I wouldn’t really like it, But I would let them do it and I would smile thru the whole thing if it makes them happy.

      Oh, my relations last a long time, because women I make women happy and they make me happy. I have no problem even calling previous women I’ve been with just for a flig because they know they will enjoy thier time with me and my current women that I’m with are open to it , because they know it will again be thier turn.

      It’s a “give and take”, Your just jelous of the women that go all the way and swallow, because they are happer to give more than you and don’t need to control everything in a relationship.

  • Tweaky

    I always kiss a woman if she wants after she has blown me. It is very wrong to give the message that your dick or semen is dirty or in some way undesirable. Sometimes, a woman has just finished her period or just started and still encourages you to lick her, I think that is worse than what normally comes out of a man.

  • libra

    the more fluids mixed up and all over the place, the better.

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  • Yo Mama

    buttsex is fum

  • Fatty McButtsex

    hey paula can i sneeze down your throat?

  • Skinny McAsswipe

    MMMMMMM Fatty Mcbuttsex, you made me cum in my dads ear

  • Willie Jordan

    I don’t know but I’ve been told “A Green Grass Hooper Has A Red Ass Hole”. Let me just tell you what I do know about this subject. Over in Asheville, NC. Somewhere near the Biltmore House, An Extremely Alluring, Enchantingly Irresistible, Tantalizing, Breathtaking, Drop Dead Gorgeous, Former Miss Florida USA, America’s Heart Throb….”Mrs. Anita Pelaez”. Well “Mrs. Anita Pelaez” truly does possess all those fine attributes and that’s not an exaggeration. Her and her handsome husband “Kutchie” are what we call “A Husband and Wife Married Partner Working Team”. Together, they work diligently and lovingly Side by Side, In they’re very own “Key Lime Pie Factory and Grill”. The Married Working Team Work Hand in Hand producing “America’s Favorite Key Lime Pies”. I’ll tell you they are extremely delicious, the Best of The Best.

    Well as I was to talking with “Anita” a few years back at her bar, I learned she was so much more than a Beauty Queen with an Awesome Captivating Body And Those Intriguingly Arousing, Well I get Captivated And Lost Looking Into Her Luminous Inviting Turquoise-Blue Feline Eyes that Look into your very Soul and Her Charming Warm Smile and Cozy Personality That Could Melt A Heart Of Stone.

    Looking beyond Anita’s Inherent Beauty, one soon realizes that Anita has quite an in-depth intellectual side that even surpasses her charm and beauty. She even told me that her husband “Kutchie” calls her “His Prime Rib”, saying that she was made when “GOD” Reached-In and took his rib-bones out to make her. She even told me that her husband sometimes tells her that she is a pain in his side, LOL. A great sense of humor as well as great Wisdom.

    Anita said that studies have shown that in a.. “True Monogamous Marriage”..That The Wife Should Not Spit But Swallow Her Husband’s Ejaculation. She mentioned that is the way in the Bible’s Instructions, And That In Fact “It is one of God’s Commandments To The Married Couple”. To Eat And Drink Freely Of Each Others Bodies And Very Frequently. So As Not To Cause A Spouse To Commit To Adultery As In GOD’S Eyes Is A Very Bad Sin, Not Just To One’s Spouse But To God Himself. The Wife Is To Provide To All Her Husband’s Sexual Needs And The Husband To His Wife Likewise. Anita supports her opinion with studies that have showed that the husbands ejaculate contains a chemical called TGF-BETA which prevents cancer in women. Again Science Proving The Bible To Be Right. She also said it contains chemicals that prevent depression, anxiety, improves sleep, boosts the immune system, reduces wrinkles, improved the skin by making it look younger, increases energy, memory, alertness, concentration, needed hormones, relieves pain, lowers blood pressure, cardio health, healing wounds, prevent prostate cancer in men, fights aging, happy attitude, greater sense of closeness between spouses, inhanced intimacy, longer life, help diabetes, prevents hair lose, lipids for fat burning, overcomes constipation, a mess of minerals, and God knows what other benefits you get from swallowing. I think that we just touched the surface here.

    Who could argue with that? Anita is such a storehouse of Biblical Information. She is extremely intelligent and chocked full of information on many other fields as well. She could certainly be a Professor in Some Large University. I enjoy anticipating the thought of another thought provoking conversation with “Mrs. Anita Pelaez”, I hope she will have the time to work me into her busy schedule sometime in the near future. Hopefully I could have a conversation sometime with her husband Kutchie also. Anita is a very inspiring person to sat the least. So much to learn form her. She is simply a mind baffling lady.

    I tell you the lady has more class in her little finger than most people have in their entire lives. I am Pleased As Punch To Write This Article About “America’s Sweetheart Anita Pelaez”

    I guess that’s why people say,

    “AH”, The Magic Of Anita Pelaez.

  • sammy

    I only swallow if we are in a serious relationship.
    If it’s a one night stand, then I spit

    • the understudy

      what about not letting the orgasm happen in the mouth? when you know he is cumming, just pull out and stroke him off to avoid the subject?

  • Sad Hubby

    Years ago my fiancé/wife would give great head. When she knew I was cuming she would take all of my cock in her mouth and when I came she swallowed right away. When I was done she would come up to me with a big smile, we would hug and kiss (no big deal since she swallowed) and we would cuddle for a while. It was like being in heaven.

    Now she says she doesn’t like the taste. When I am cuming she pulls up which usually ruins my orgasm. Then she runs to the bathroom to spit. (Seems really stupid to me.)
    It went from a 10 to a 5. I don’t even want her to do it anymore.

  • The Happy One

    If am lucky enough to be with a woman who is willing to blow me, I’m not going to trip over whether she spits or swallows. I’m happy she cares enough about me to take pleasing me to that level.