Same Sex Marriage Is A Victory For All Of Us

Here at The Gloss, we dig equality. We dig our LGBT friends. And, despite certain feelings of ambivalence some of us have, we generally dig weddings. Which is why we’re so very pleased that gay marriage finally passed in New York a good 42 years after the Stonewall Riots got the U.S. gay rights movement going in earnest. It’s about fucking time!

I know I just wrote about how tired I am of OMG WEDDING stories, but the less privileged and discriminatory marriage gets, the more positive and evolved the institution will be. It’s also true that I don’t believe the state should be involved with marriage at all. It just seems a little too…church and state-y for me. If two adults (or heck, more than two; let’s not leave out our poly friends) want to enter into a civil union together for practical purposes like jointly owned property and merged finances, they should be able to do that. “Marriage” in the lovey dovey spiritual sense should be left up to people’s churches. (And/or atheist clubhouses? If I ever get married, it will be at an atheist clubhouse, or maybe a church of Satan, because they appeal to my Gothic sensibilities. Also, I hear the food’s good.) That said, if the state is going to involve itself in OMG Marriage, I’m not sure how it can justify denying it to some people and granting it to others. Anyone with a two-year-old’s grasp of the concept of “fairness” can see that that’s wrong.

How is this a victory for all of us? I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to live in a place that claims all citizens are equal in the eyes of the law, but then turns around and discriminates against a whole bunch of them. It seems absurd to me that just because I happen to be heterosexual and monogamous, I should have more rights or be told I’m better than someone else. Certain sociopaths might like lording that privilege over others, but I don’t want it! It makes me feel sick! Not to mention, there are certain gay people I subjectively care about very much, and when they’re sad, I’m sad.

We still have a long way to go. New York is only the sixth state to legalize gay marriage, and it’s still legal in many states to discriminate against LGBT people in all sorts of ways. Teens are still being bullied and beaten up and made to feel like they don’t matter. Polyamorous people are still invisible in the eyes of the law. And of course, there are still a ton of people, gay and straight, who are disenfranchised and fucked over by our current political and economic system in many, many ways. But once in a while, it’s nice to take a break from all the bummers and celebrate something good that happened. Otherwise, we’d probably go insane.

UPDATE: The New York Daily News made a video of people’s reactions to the bill’s passage. I dare you to watch it and not cry!

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    • Rae

      It’s about time that New York alows same sex marriage! Now all the other states can hopefully join in…

      Being a Canadian where same-sex marriage has been legal for ages it’s nice to see that people are becoming more accepting, but it’s horrible to think that it took this long!

    • B

      I agree that each time a state legalizes same-sex marriage, it is a victory for all of us. My view of “traditional marriage” is that two people who love each other agree to spend the rest of their lives together. Same-sex couples making such a commitment both expands and strengthens the concept of traditional marriage.

    • Jessica Pauline Ogilvie

      Yay New York! Hopefully CA is not too far behind.

    • Stephanie

      I couldn’t be happier with the news! It really is about fucking time! I went to the Pride Parade today and it was incredible. I’m a heterosexual monogamous person, like you, and also have many gay friends and family close to me. It really does make me sick to see any kind of hate and discrimination towards these human beings, who are EXACTLY the same as us. Why shouldn’t they be able to marry the love of their life like us! Thanks for the article! It was great :)

    • Sarah

      New York’s legalization of gay marriage is a victory for justice and equality and I rejoice in this great accomplishment. It took a lot of work to get this legislation passed! Congrats to New Yorkers and everyone who worked hard to make this happen.

    • Audrey

      This is wonderful and truly a victory for everyone! Everyone should be treated equally and have the civil rights that we enjoy and even take for granted.