Say Yes To The Mess: Engagement Photos. Friend Or Foe?

Choose your props wisely.

We get it. You like cheese. Or you’re from Wisconsin. Awesome!

But when you’re in the midst of getting photographed and feel awkward standing around waiting, please don’t grab the nearest object and hold it over your head. This is what regret is made of.


Your fiance is not a prop.

Guys. Twilight is awesome. But posing for a photo that makes it look like you’re sucking the life out of your fiance isn’t exactly the message you want to send out. Same goes for photos of the groom pretending like buying you an engagement ring ruined his life, or other terrible gender stereotypes.


Be nice to your fiance

Chances are he doesn’t want to stand around all day getting his photo taken. So make sure you take him out for a nice lunch or something if he’s not into this photo thing. Otherwise, he might get annoyed and post terrible photos on his blog, mocking the entire engagement photo process.

If you’re going to go with a theme, go hard.

There are a lot of photos of movie themes out there. If you’re going to spend the money and effort on getting your photo taken and maybe hair/makeup and costumes. Why NOT be a little more obvious about it?

Because I’d be hard pressed to find someone who does not enjoy this Sith Star Wars shoot. The bride has covered herself in red and black face paint. Who among us cannot admire that dedication?

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    • victoria

      as a former wedding planner, i always encouraged my clients to have engagement photos taken to prepare themselves for the horror of having their picture taken all day long at the actual wedding. it helps them to get comfortable in front of the camera!

    • Colleenc

      My fiancee and I are getting our engagement photos done this weekend. Our first actual date (where we weren’t just hooking up at his place after sexting for hours) was at our favorite bookstore, where we had coffee and wandered the shelves and learned about each other’s taste in literature. So, for the photos we’ve arranged with the manager (I used to work there and still know all the staff) to have our photographer do our shoot in the same store. We’re going with vintage nerd type outfits – he’ll be in slacks with a shirt and tie and suspenders – trying to get him a fedora as well, and I’ll be in a pencil skirt with a blouse and cardigan and pearls.

      Our photographer made our engagement photos part of the package deal for our wedding photography, and we’re going to use them for our invitiations. Plus, my mom wants pictures of us together to frame and to show off to my grandmother.

      • Lisa

        Oh. Good. Lord. Did you not read the article?

    • Fabel

      I always thought engagement photos were a way for those terribly cutesy Facebook couples to legitimate their hobby of posting albums with 32901415 pictures of themselves in loving poses. But I can see Victoria’s argument being valid.

    • Missh

      All of these engagement photos are turrrible. People, stop inflicting your cheesiness on the general population.

    • Avodah

      How is it a “wedding mitzvah”? Engagement photos have nothing to do with a halachically valid wedding. I don’t get the joke. Maybe it was just a crappy joke.

    • Odbery

      If you go about it the right way (ie Zombie Apocalypse, Up etc) I can see engagement photos as something fun to do. Plus, when you start decorating your house with pictures of you and your spouse (as many do before they have kids to take up the space) they’ll break up the monotony of wedding photos.

      …Most of these are pretty gross though, and definitely did not require a professional photographer.

    • Dee

      I don’t know.. I’ve been on the fence about engagement photos. My fiance and I have a lot of photos together, but no professional shots. I mean, I’d like to have them just so we can build an album and hang a few nice non-wedding shots around the house, but as stated.. they’re expensive. And it’s not like we really *need* them. I guess I’d just like to have a few really nice photos of us– nothing creepy or costume-y (personally I think Hathaway’s photo with her dog and fiance by the tree is adorable.)

    • Hanna Brooks Olsen

      I won’t lie–I think that engagement photos are much more for the couple than for anyone else…unless they’re really awful, in which case they’re a gift to all of us.

    • Kelly

      Why is everyone hating on engagement photos? People take photos to commemorate all kinds of life events – graduations, birthdays, weddings, anniversaries, or even just because they want a picture of their family. Hell, there was a time when pictures were taken after someone died. Why are engagement photos any different than any other kind of celebratory picture?