• Fri, Dec 2 2011

The Editors Discuss: Should Your Boyfriend Treat You Like A Baby?

Today, we learned about how 17-year-old Courtney Stodden‘s “crazy” days are filled with waking up at noon, putting on sexy outfits, and making a mocha for herself while 51-year-old husband Doug Hutchinson cleans up after her. Stodden is delighted with the situation, of course, because she is a teenager. Anyway, editors Jennifer Wright and Ashley Cardiff decided to discuss the merits of infantilizing your significant other. Ashley will be the voice of reason and Jennifer will be saddled with the opposition. She is putting her hair in pigtails as we speak.

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  • Kelly

    ” A 25 year old girl who loves hugs and kittens is adorable, a 25 year old man who loved toy planes and catching tadpoles would be mentally stunted.”

    I can’t believe I’m saying this but….that logic has literally never occurred to me. And now I feel stupid that it hasn’t. Because it’s so obvious. It’s like when you *know* something but you didn’t know you knew it until someone actually put words to it and you recognized the idea immediately.

    Sorry, I have to go find a kitten to hug now.

    • Jamie Peck

      That is one of the really creepy things about how our culture infantilizes women. In actuality, a stunted adult woman should be just as unnerving as a stunted adult man (and it is, to me). Reminds me of the post I did a while back about a fashion photog who photographed male models doing stuff they did when they were kids.

  • kinaz

    If a guy asked me if I wanted to go catch tadpoles my response would be something along the lines of, “HOLY SHIT! YES! Do you have a bowl to put them in? You do!? Can I bring my dog? I can?Are you bringing your dog? you are? Can we stop off afterwards and get married? The tadpoles and dogs can be our witnesses.”
    Sadly I no longer know where to catch tadpoles, they used to be in irrigation ditches. Now, not so much.

  • Rachael

    ” A 25 year old girl who loves hugs and kittens is adorable, a 25 year old man who loved toy planes and catching tadpoles would be mentally stunted.”

    I can’t help but feel this comparison isn’t fair, though. Like we would find it weird if a grown ass woman was all about her barbies and playing dress up, which I think is more analogous to the whole “tadpole and toy planes” thing.

    I don’t disagree that our culture overall is totally happy to infantilize women, but you could (and many people have) made the same argument about men. For every time it’s considered cute to talk in a baby voice, you have countless movies making it seem cool for dudes to do nothing but play videogames and live in a state of perpetual-boy-man-hood. In fact, while gross “sexy” images may be more into infantalizing women (and that is rightfully seen as icky), our more respectable pop culture is happy to infantilize men. They may not put the same “sexy” label on it, but they still make it seem like it’s totally okay and occasionally cool. Think of all the sitcoms with idiot husbands who can barely function outside of their wife’s interference. It’s ultimately a disservice to both genders.