Recently, a letter written by an investment banker to a woman who turned him down for a second date circulated the internet. It was long-winded, utterly un-self-aware, condescending, delusional, and completely misguided, not to mention a waste of everyone’s time.
This got the internet world talking about the pitfalls of dating finance guys, and apparently, there are many. To bolster this conversation, Gawker has compiled stories from its readers on the topic, and so at the risk of compromising some of our pool of Real Talk participants, here’s our favorite story from the group.
This guy apparently sent his ex a quiz, with the intention of…well, it’s impossible to say. Patronizingly teaching her a lesson? Patronizingly attempting to garner real information about their break-up? Patronizingly encouraging her to be a better person? Or perhaps patronizingly suggesting that she take a look at herself and her life goals?
Why you were unhappy with us:
Are there things you do not like about me?
Are there things you do not like about us?
Are there things you don’t like about yourself when it comes to us?
Name as many things as you can you would change about. Again, you must list everything that bothers you.
suggestions: I interrupt you, I need to enunciate when I speak
Where do you want to be in?
50 years / retirement age
In Exercise A, you must cover any topics you bring up for previous periods
- List the reasons you were unhappy November 2007 – present
suggestions: Financial reasons, Emotional reasons, Our relationship related stuff, professional stuff
- List any things that made you happy November 2007 – present
List the reasons you are unhappy now:
List the reasons you are happy now:
For the Exercise B it might make sense to break it into three tiers(OST):
An example for me:
Objective I want to be in better shape
- why should I bother? I want to have better health, I want to have better sex, I want to be more sexually attractive to women, I want to look and feel better about myself, I will be better at everything else if my health is in order, I will meet people by doing outdoorsy stuff
Strategies: I want to improve my 1. cardiovascular capabilities 2. flexibility 3. muscles 4. I want to do outdoorsy stuff this summer
1. a. ride a bike for fun & to work
b. go on hikes
c. do yoga everyday, do a yoga class once a week
d. join a gym?????
2. a. do yoga everyday, do a yoga class once a week
3. a. join a gym??????
b. do yoga everyday, do a yoga class once a week
4. a. Do outdoorsy stuff with friends
b. ride a bike
c. go to the beach
d. fear getting sunburned less
e. book vacations and 3-day weekends
List all of the specific things you will do to improve:
1. Your physical health
2. Your emotional health
There are about six other stories, and they are worth a read (hint: at least one involves group sex).