Poll: Would You Date Someone ‘Beneath’ You?

The last scene from Pretty in Pink where love conquers all!

First of all, you’d have to believe that people can be “beneath” other people–that some are actually better than others. If you don’t feel this way and/or never have, then watch Pretty in Pink and you can get in the mindset for this poll. If you don’t own Pretty in Pink, then watch Breakfast Club where Molly Ringwald plays a character who’s actually on the “right” side of the tracks. Actually, a lot of movies, books and songs have this as a theme, so whatever your choice!

After watching Pretty in Pink, then having a heated debate with a friend about whether or not a mutual friend of ours is marrying “up,” the whole idea of being with someone who is “out of your league” or “from the wrong side of the tracks,” has been on my brain. I realize for many the mere thought that someone might be better than anyone is repulsive and degrading, but for some people it’s still very much present in their consciousness. Families still cut kids out of the family will for impregnating the girl who works at the local bodega, and even I once called it quits with someone who had only read one book in his entire life. I’m not suggesting I was better than him per se, but I am saying that our goals and interests were never going to be on the same page. He couldn’t spell, like, at all. In fact, I’ll be covering him in a Dating Hijinks soon.

One would think the phrase “marrying up” would’ve have gone out the window in the 1970s with feminism, equality and all that stuff that should make a woman or man care less about their impending status in a marriage and more about love, but some people like to continue to live as though they’re in a Jane Austen novel, and that’s fine for them. Have I mentioned that I despise Jane Austen? Said the girl who dumped a guy who’d only read one book…


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    • Jennifer Wright

      You know that Wallis was incredibly unhappy and, also, incontinent towards the end of her life. I just wanted to weigh in on that.

      Still, Steff FTW.

      • Amanda Chatel

        Agreed… Steff ALWAYS.

    • D.

      I feel like Andie from Pretty in Pink all the time in college. I’m from the “wrong” side of the tracks back home, I don’t think that makes me beneath anybody, though. I can’t say that other people (including dating prospects) don’t think the same.

    • Sam

      I’ve had people tell me that I’m better looking than the people I date and I’ve had people tell the people I date that they’re way saner than I am…so if both (or either, I s’pose) of those things are true, then I guess it’s a trade-off! But f’real, I think my friends were just trying to find a nice way of saying, “You really shouldn’t be with that guy, he’s an asshole.”

    • kjon

      Yeah, I believe it does depend on what you’re into (like you said) whether it’s education, interests, goals, etc. I wouldn’t touch the marrying up for money/class thing with a 10-inch dick. Yikes.

    • Quin

      Sure, I like being on top.

      • Lisa


    • JJ

      Sorry, I couldn’t pay attention to anything after “someone who had only read one book in his entire life.” This happens? People like this, they exist? How? What?

      • Georgie

        All of my previous boyfriends have never read a book. Which is crazy because I have enough books for a small library. However my now boyfriend has suddenly picked up a sci-fi series and reads about two a month (they’re all 500+ pages and hes legitimately dyslexic!)

    • Aditi

      I think I would not date someone from a different socio/ economic background from me although I have never seen them as beneath me. It is only because of the reality that we rarely have anything in common- taste in books, movies, music; our view point on current affairs, politics, and then even more important stuff like the role of a woman etc.

      Perhaps this is because I am Indian- maybe it is different in the US; but all of the above things are very different for people from a different economic class, who therefore have very different taste in things (which is fine) and a different world view on things especially how a woman should behave, and how a woman should behave towards her man (which is not fine). People from a lower economic class typically have a lower level of education and therefore their views on these topics are very different from mine.

      I say this as someone who has had quite a few men from this different socio-economic class fall for her and some of them of course- we didn’t even converse in the same language (there are 15 languages in India, so we don’t all speak the same Indian language, and the economically backward may not speak English) and some of them I did speak to a little bit but we could never relate on anything.

      So i would never date someone from a different socio economic class no; but I don’t think this is a bad thing; and I was quite surprised with the very negative tone this was given in the article. ( I say this only because I usually always think you guys are very rational and level headed, and never jump for the easy jingo-istic stand on things- case on point your article on why journalists keep writing the same articles for women)