It really has nothing to do with the gender of the people you spend time with. Hang out with boys, girls or people who are a little in between. Whoever makes you happy.
The problem with women who continue to claim that they’re “one of the guys,” is that they’re insulting everyone else who checks the ‘F’ box. Why do these women refer to themselves as guys? Because girls are uptight or emotional or “have drama.” They’re reinforcing that whole “crazy girl” part of our culture that says every woman with feelings is emotionally unstable and mentally unsound.
And you know what? That sucks. It’s a shitty thing to do to your fellow ladies. It doesn’t make you better than all of the drama, it makes you the cause of a lot of it.
Saying you’re “one of the guys” is an obnoxious line you use in high school because it worked for the protagonist in a romantic comedy. She took off her baseball cap, threw on a dress and make-up and suddenly her crush fell in love with her. If you’re still waiting for that script to play out, I’m really sorry. It still doesn’t excuse your insult to the rest of the women in the world who have their own rom-coms running through their heads.
So unless you’re actually packing a Y chromosome, how about you stop referring to yourself as “one of the guys.”