And I think that is where the work element comes in with women who are supported entirely by their husbands.
Try to think about all the times that you have lost your temper, or sulked, or generally behaved in a way that was not your best. Now begin to think about a world where every time you behave that way your job is simultaneously in jeopardy. The truly working aspect of this is that the person you would generally get to relax and be in a bad mood around is something that you can no longer do.
So: you have to be in a good mood.
ALL THE TIME.
I don’t know about you, but I am completely incapable of doing this. I cannot conceive of a relationship where I was on my best behavior at all times. Or I could, but it would have to be some kind of relationship where my husband was a spy, who was constantly away in Soviet Russia, and I had to be on my best behavior only during the occasional weekend that he was around. He could be around, like 4, weekends a year and spend the rest of the year trying to assassinate Trotsky. So, I could do this only if my husband was a time traveling spy.
Because perfectly behaved is not how people are. That’s how robots are.
I have bad moods. I yell. I don’t, say, jump into fountains with my clothes on, but it seems like the kind of thing I could do. I’m Zelda goddamn Fitzgerald.
If you are in this position, if you are married to someone who supports you entirely, you cannot have your Zelda moments.
Being a good wife – however your husband defines that – is now your job. You are an employee. Your job is now providing an enjoyable environment for this man who is giving you all the money to go to Jivamukti classes.
And it’s a 24/7 performance. You’ll no more get to lose your temper and behave badly than you would if you were in an office.
Or, of course, you could. In the same way you could start really flouting your boss’s preferences, rolling into the office drunk and swearing at him or her. Maybe your boss would love this and let it go. Seemed like that worked in Office Space. Or maybe they would not.
I am going to vote that the latter is more likely.