• Sun, Jun 24 2012

Gurl‘s ‘Sexy Times’: Open Relationships

Let’s be honest for a hot minute: can open relationships really work? While some say yes, other say no way. Being in an open relationship is basically just begging for drama and complication. It’s difficult to maintain a relationship of such intimacy all while engaging in sex with other people. The level of tolerance and trust must be of the utmost, or things just won’t work.

In this edition of “Sexy Times,” Sarah Hoots compares relationships to French fries and says how in her opinion open relationships don’t work in real life, but rather just in theory. I wonder exactly how many open relationships Ms. Hoots has been in? Anyone want to hazard a guess? However, I’m not here to second guess the “sexpert.”

I say you don’t know if something is going to work or not until you try it, but I’m not the expert; I’m a hedonist. Hedonists aren’t known for giving the most rational advice on most things related to pleasure.

 

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  • meteor_echo

    Perhaps they can work fine for some people. Not for me, though – both the boyfriend and I have the monogamous mindset (and hate cheating!)

  • Lisa H

    Was in an open relationship for 10 years. It worked as well or better than any other relationship I was ever in. That said I can’t imagine it would have worked with any other man I ever dated.

  • Lastango

    Open relationships are dead-end hedonism, and deeply destructive. Considering this form of cultural cocaine as a viable way of sharing our sexuality shows how unmoored and bone-stupid we have become.

    Let’s leave this one in the movie scripts and the trashy novels.

  • http://www.facebook.com/CydniiWithTwoEyes Cydnii Wilde Harris

    I was in a year long relationship before I moved for college, which forced our year long relationship to become a long distance relationship, which finally resulted in us mutually settling into a long distance, long term, open relationship. Had I stayed in state, this would have never been an option, but we’re both two young Millennials who work hard, and play too hard. I was in love, but realistic, and never wanted to be in a situation where he had to lie to me. We effectively had a don’t ask, don’t tell policy. When I was away, I was away, and, so no real dates, no harm, no foul. But when I was home, I was HOME. I was the girlfriend again, he was the boyfriend, no side pieces nor dates allowed.

    It worked at first, but around holiday break, I realized that I couldn’t do it much longer. We would go out, get drunk, and inevitably end up fighting about nothing: Nothing being our unrealized jealousy.

    Eventually, right around our two year anniversary, we closed our open door policy. Well, I closed it. He only said he did, but continued to pursue other girls while I was away.

    I don’t regret any part of our relationship, only because I learned so much about myself, what I was willing to deal with, and what I was unable to tolerate.

    I can understand how being open works for some people, but it’s just not for me. I don’t just arbitrarily enter into relationships, so if I pick you, it’s for a reason. I don’t need anybody else. But apparently, that’s just me.