Do You Share Your Passwords With Your Significant Others?

Recently, I refused to get out of bed. I was hungry, needed food, but what I was craving was a cash only delivery place. When it’s rainy and not so great outside, getting out of bed is a real struggle. I rolled over to face Tattoo Guy and asked him if he’d take my debit card, go to the closest ATM and take out some cash for me. He rolled his eyes; he, too, wasn’t about to get out of bed.

“But I’ll give you a hundred dollars, if you do it!” I pleaded. Again, he said no. “What about a thousand? I’ll give you a thousand!” To which he reminded me that not only do I not have a thousand dollars to hand over for such things, but I didn’t have a hundred dollars to do it either.

“Besides, I don’t want to know your password. That just leads to trouble, and I don’t want that.”

I figured the chances, had he did get himself out of bed and down to the ATM machine, of he memorizing my password, then eventually stealing my very minimal cash in there was pretty non-existent, so I pleaded again. He kindly asked me to stop talking and go back to sleep, because no one should be craving a turkey sandwich at 9am — except me, obviously.

In the past I haven’t had any qualms about sharing my passwords with friends or lovers (again, I use that word because Jennifer hates it and for some reason this will never get old for me in my sick head.) Even those with whom I’ve stopped seeing, but then eventually pop back into my life can sit down at my computer, type in the password and laugh at me for never changing it. Passwords to my email, voicemail (because sometimes I don’t have the heart to delete certain messages on my own), Netflix, Twitter — whatever, I just hand that shit over without a care in the world. Especially since my email is pretty boring and anything I’m going to say behind someone’s back in a ranting email, I’ll eventually say to their face anyway. The only password I keep secret is for my savings account and that’s just because it’s embarrassing low and no one needs to know that my champagne lifestyle is actually being funded on a beer budget. Besides, sometimes secrets are fun!

How do you feel on this subject?

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    • lucygoosey74

      I’m a memory impaired kind of person, so I basically have the same password for everything,which yes, my husband knows, because I also lead one of those mundane “I have nothing to hide” kind of lives.

    • len132

      I’ve told my boyfriend my pin number for my debit so that he can deposit checks for me. I mean, he was driving, and to deposit them I would have had to get out of the car! My life is terribly hard.

      I don’t know if he remembers it, but I trust him so it doesn’t matter. (Although, remember what happened to Kathy Griffin).

    • Tania

      I had a unique password for my World of Warcraft account (I know, lame, but it gets lamer) and I shared it with my best friend so he could do some things during an in-game event for me while I was out of town.

      And I have his passwords for most things. Lucky for him, I’m not an asshole, because we were the opposite of friends for a bit after we slept together and things got messy. I can’t deny it was tempting for about five seconds to log onto his Facebook and change his status to “I AM A HUGE ASSHOLE,” but I didn’t because then I would have had to change my own to the same thing.

    • Erica

      I know his and he has no clue what mine are – as it should be :D

    • Amy

      Neither of us have eachother’s passwords for email or Facebook, I just don’t see the need. We do know eachother’s debit/credit pins though.

      He also knows my phone code, but he only uses it for evil. Dirty dirty evil. I never use the video feature so it took me over a month to discover the porn he intentionally downloaded.

    • Elizabeth

      Yeah, mundane “nothing to hide” life here, too. Husband has all my passwords and my PIN. It’s much easier to get him to run errands for me that way. “Will you go into my email and find the address for the cat place and take the cat to get his shots? I left my debit card on the counter for you. And will you pick up a bottle of Campari on the way home?”

    • Lo

      I don’t have a ‘nothing to hide’ life; I have a ‘nothing to investigate’ life. I’ve occasionally shared passwords when we both use whatever it is, but I could never have a relationship (platonic or otherwise) with anyone who claims that you have to trade privacy for trust. (I’m looking at you, government).

      • Maggie

        Same here! Boyfriend and I know each others’ passwords, but we have a rule that we don’t check each others’ Facebook or e-mail accounts unless the other asks us to. We feel that checking up on one another like that shows a lack of trust, and it is an invasion of privacy, even if it is just Facebook. Trusting each other in real-life should go hand-in-hand with trusting each others’ online activities, so no need to pry.

    • meteor_echo

      Yep, my boyfriend knows the password for my deviantArt account and my e-mail. I have nothing to hide on there :)

    • Amy

      Only one other person knows my password, and I don’t think she realises it. We both use the work email account which requires a stupidly complicated letters, numbers, capitals mix. So I set my password to the name of a place we went to together and we laughed about it at the time. I don’t think she knows I use it as my password for everything.

      Aside from that, I wouldn’t tell anyone my passwords and details. I might tell someone my PIN to get cash out as a one off, but no one who has easy access to my card without my knowledge (housemates, boyfriends, parents).

      I just don’t see the need to share. It’s not a lack of trust, but no one has the inherent right to go through my private things (or access my bank account) without my knowledge.