Harlotry: On The Time I Had A Client Who Couldn’t Get It Up

As we put our clothes back on, I wondered how exactly I was going to leave. I was buttoning my skirt when Jeff turned to me and asked if I could stay, at least for the remaining half hour of the appointment. I asked what he wanted to do, and was surprised when he told me he just wanted to talk.

Jeff and I sat on his balcony and talked for almost another hour. He asked me why someone so seemingly well-adjusted would choose to be an escort and I explained how the “damaged whore” is just a terrible stereotype. We talked about whether we thought Obama would really win, and if he did, whether he’d really keep all his shining promises of hope and change. I was suddenly able to see this man as a human being rather than a penis-controlled ATM and it came as a shock. Jeff may have come to me seeking sex, but when that didn’t work out he didn’t just settle for conversation, he chose it.

Until that night I had looked at my job as a fairly frivolous way to make money. Sure, I knew I helped lonely people, and yes, part of helping those people was talking or even just listening to them, but I had no idea how important it really was.

Jeff never hired me again. I don’t know if he decided whoremongering wasn’t his cup of tea or if he simply found it too humiliating. Still, even though I never saw him again, Jeff made me a better sex worker: while I taught him that we aren’t all stupid, cruel, or damaged, he unwittingly taught me that the men who hired me weren’t either.

Cathryn Berarovich is a bit of a renaissance sex worker; she’s currently employed as a stripper (and writer) but has held numerous interesting jobs in the industry. Each week, she shares her stories in Harlotry.
(Still from Pretty Women by Touchstone Pictures)

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    • Gennaro Monaco

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    • Gennaro

      Yet another test, this time as a non-logged in user.

      • G

        This post is so funny!

    • Mish

      I am scared that you threw your disease concerns out the window so quickly.

      • Cate

        The thing is, it’s relatively difficult to contract any of the more insidious diseases without any actual bodily fluid transfer. If there aren’t any obvious indicators (lesions, warts, whatever you call herpes thingies) you’d have to basically be the most unlucky person in the world to catch something while giving the very beginnings of a blowjob.

        That being said, it still was probably not the smartest thing to do but I was fortunate enough to never contract a single disease when I was a prostitute.

    • Tiffany

      I look forward to every one of your posts :) so funny and interesting

    • Mia

      Is this the rehashing of an episode of BBC’s Diary of a Call Girl? How stereotypical and completely unbelievable.

      • Mandy

        Except for the whole part where her stories took place years before that show was on air… But sure, keep up the cynicism.

    • Shannon

      Just to clarify: HPV, one of the most common sexually transmitted diseases, if not THE most common, is contractable by skin to skin contact. Genital warts are just one of the strains of HPV. (You don’t have to see genital warts on the skin to catch that strain, either.) Same for herpes simplex virus, the other most common sexually transmitted disease.

      Anyway, just wanted to clarify that you can DEFINITELY contract an STI without bodily fluid exchange. I’m glad you’ve been fortunate, though.

      Source: worker at a sexual health clinic