Jennifer Dziura writes life coaching advice weekly here on TheGloss, and career coaching advice Fridays on TheGrindstone.
I’m getting married, as I announced in Bullish Life: How I Met My Soon-To-Be Husband on OKCupid.
Our “wedding planning” has reached a bit of a standstill, because we both think that expressing feelings in front of a big room of people is sort of embarrassing and because weddings are expensive but when you try to do the cheap, clever solution, you are likely to end up working with unprofessional yahoos.
It all just seems a little unnecessary. But our mothers really don’t want us to elope. So you’d think we could have a small wedding, right? Or a really casual one? Now that I think about it, though, the people I know who’ve had small, awesome, tres-New York style weddings (In a bar, then sushi! Or, in a park with no permit, then pizza!) are people who are largely divorced from their families. Because you don’t really invite grandma to trudge up a hill with her walker if there’s any chance that the cops will bust you for an unlicensed gathering.
Wedding planning remains up in the air, but I have compiled a helpful list of things I think modern engaged people can safely skip if they want to.
(Nerd alert: I also managed to exorcise my troubles by writing an article about wedding planning math as pertains to the GRE.)