Letting people seat themselves only works if you have substantially more seating than people. But if you’ve invited 60 people and you have 6 tables that each seat 10, it is not cool to make your friends and family play the most awkward game of musical chairs ever. It’s like consigning everyone to some kind of intergenerational middle school lunch room. (“Is this seat available?” “No, sorry, I’m saving it for my husband of fifty years.” “Oh, cool.” AWKWARD.)
People who know what they’re doing.
Trying to be clever and game the system by having a wedding in a nontraditional location will typically result in dealing with people who might accidentally book a band to play a bitchin’ show on the evening of your wedding, or who don’t understand that your wedding guests need clean bathrooms. Places that regularly have weddings have thought everything through: there’s a place the bride walks out of to walk down the aisle, and they will pester you weeks in advance regarding exactly how many of your guests will have the balsamic vinaigrette on their salads.
We do have wedding rings (they arrived in the mail, we tried them on, and just kept wearing them), and after this post — Crowdsourcing: Help Jen Dziura Pick Her Wedding Dress!, I did actually purchase and try on many of the suggestions listed. Gloss readers have excellent taste, even if much of the photography on the Neiman website is really misleading. (Also, everything on BHLDN looks amazing but is weird in real life). I ended up buying this, which is the same designer and color as something Zanbrody suggested, so I declare her the winner of the contest. TheGloss will mail her some swag.
In the end, it turns out that our relatives are pretty chill, and would be fine if we got married at City Hall, and then we all had dinner at a normal restaurant somewhere, and then maybe we had a party for our friends on some other night. I think what they would be somewhat confused about is the plan wherein we tell them there’s going to be a wedding and then we just postpone it repeatedly until we have two kids and people just mostly forget about it. We’ll see.