I have an absolutely wonderful and amazing ladyfriend who is getting back into the dating game after ending a relationship that lasted for more than a decade. Well, she’s not calling it “dating” just yet. She’s agreeing to speak to members of the opposite sex in a flirtatious nature. She’s warming to the idea of getting drinks or catching a movie or maybe even making out in the back of a bar.
I’m really excited to see my friend, let’s just call her Ann*, start to consider relationships and men and the possibility of someday finding another person that she can be happy with. Right now she just refers to it as “hanging out,” but I think that’s understandable.
So, yay for Ann, right! We should definitely sign her up for The Gloss Dating.
There’s just one little problem. As we sat over lunch talking about her big step forward, Ann whipped out her phone to show me the picture of the first guy she’s considered “hanging out” with. She pulled up his Facebook profile to show me his picture. That’s when I did a quick double-take.
“Why doesn’t he have his shirt on? Why would a grown man have a picture of himself shirtless as his profile picture?” I was amazed that anyone out of college would consider this appropriate.
“I wondered that,” my friend admitted. “I guess he really likes to work out,” she explained.
In that minute, I started thinking back to any man I knew who would do such a thing. I started to get a little worried about my dear friend’s new flirting partner, the guy who was texting her nonstop into the wee hours of the night. There’s something juvenile is posting a half-naked picture of yourself to show off on Facebook, and keeping the thing as your profile. It’s like when my friends and I came back from spring break in high school and posted bikini pictures. We knew we were doing it for attention, we just didn’t care. How many grown men need that immature kind of attention?
At my surprise about the profile picture, my friend started relaying some other troubling information. “He really wants pit bulls,” she said nervously. Ann fosters dogs that have been rescued until they can find suitable homes. It’s a great program run by a local kennel so that animals aren’t euthanized at the pound. “Like, not rescue pit bulls. He wants to get pit bull puppies. That made me a little nervous,” she admitted.