• Fri, Jul 13 2012

I Turned Down The Chance To Give A Footjob. Would You Have Gone For It?

I don’t have to try very hard to be open-minded when it comes to sex. Even stuff that isn’t up my alley, I accept as a mere difference of opinion and sexual desires. While there are things I will say no to, there are things that I’ve yet to try, am suspicious about but give it a whirl anyway. You can never truly know for sure how you feel about something until you’ve actually tried it out. I also like to be pushed to the brink of something that makes me uncomfortable; not scared, but almost awkward. There’s something tantalizing about it, and the inability to see what the next second or minute will offer is exciting. But despite this enjoyment for the unknown and something new, a footjob is something I just can’t get behind for some reason.

I have been asked by two different men in my life for me to give them a footjob. In case you’re new to this word, it’s a handjob with your feet and seems to be something that men with foot fetishes crave. The last thing most men I know want is anyone’s feet on their cock, but these two particular fellas requested it.

The first time I was asked was several years ago — it was actually the same person who kept trying to lick my armpit. Since I wouldn’t hand over my armpit to his tongue, I figured I’d try this whole footjob thing because it seemed so absurd, we could laugh about it. However, as I learned, people with foot fetishes do not laugh at such things because it’s really fucking sexual for them. As I watched him pour the lube on his dick in preparation for what I agreed to do, I burst into laughter as he leaned toward me to direct his manly bit between my feet. I couldn’t help thinking how I must have appeared rather monkey-like with my feet turned inward like that and I wondered if this could be the first step in being able to do other things with my feet like write a poem or cook a proper dinner. I couldn’t do it.

It was just a couple weeks ago when I was asked yet again for a footjob by the Tattoo Guy. I stared blankly at him without saying a word. My mind immediately went back to how I envisioned myself years before as I was laying on that fella’s bed just picturing myself as a monkey who was about to feed herself a banana with her feet. Again, I just couldn’t it. It’s too entertaining for me, that I would feel bad laughing at something that my partner thought was really sexy. It would be a bit like mocking, which I wouldn’t be doing, but I think that’s still how it may have come out.

But now I’m wondering that maybe it was wrong of me not to do it. Maybe I should have tried it for the sake of experience or at least a good story. I usually do most things for the sake of story, so I’m not sure why I passed up that opportunity. Maybe it was because I was in need of a pedicure.

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  • L.A.

    I really did think a foot job was a foot massage of some sort. I mean, I have super sensitive feet and I can totally see being a little turned on by some intense kneading…

    But, like, huh, where…are you sitting during this procedure?…I have a terrible imagination when it comes to these things…

    • Amanda Chatel

      I was sitting, but I think I was going to be laying down at some point had I continued. I really don’t know.

      When I googled it last night for an image, there were many different ways people seemed to be doing it… it was not the best image to see right before bed.

  • Maria

    I never considered this unusual. My boyfriend has a bit of a nylon fetish, which is convenient because I love wearing nylons. And how else could you use them for sex (except for looking)? But it’s more like foreplay.

  • Via

    I’ve done it. It wasn’t a big deal, I guess. It was just kind of a weird balance because the guy was like, SO into it, and I’m there with my foot out like “okay, how long is this gonna take? But I’m glad you’re having fun- but hurry it up!”. It’s not something I’d care to offer but I’d do it again.

  • Scott

    Oh give it a try! For a story, for something different, for a laugh! It will start out a bit silly and awkward, sure, but after a little bit of time, especially when you see how turned on he is- and there’s no reason why HE can’t be pleasuring YOU at the same time (requires some acrobatics, but it’s possible!) you don’t have to “finish the job” that way, but it’s a very uninhibited, strange, different way of being sexually expressive. If you have nice feet, why not take advantage of another reason to use a body part to make someone feel good, and to feel good yourself? Whoo hoo! :)

  • Cate

    Footjobs are HILARIOUS. I’ve given several, and I laughed every time.

    However, in a situation where it would be inappropriate to laugh, I’d say you are right to turn it down. Laughing at the silliness of the whole thing is the only fun part, especially after your feet cramp up.

    • Amanda Chatel

      I didn’t even think of the feet cramping bit! That shit is not easy to shake out! Based on that alone, I’m feeling pretty good about saying no. Thanks, Cate!

    • Mmmsome

      Or you could just change position…

  • Cori

    I have, but he didn’t ask me to, it just happened. We were laying on the bed facing opposite directions, my feet found their way to his lap and he didn’t stop me.

  • woo

    +1 re: the cramping! My hip flexors nearly died!

  • dman

    the writer of the article sounds too vanilla to be any good in bed.

    • Deal with it

      It does. Writer here needs some lessons on things other people like besides herself.

  • Richard

    I wouldn’t mind if she laughs while doing it, even I think it can look funny. We don’t have to agree in everything with our partners, but we could try to do harmless things they enjoy even if we don’t (unless you completely hate it or something worse), like going to modern art exhibitions or performing footjobs.

  • Dave

    My wife loves giving me footjobs. She says that she likes the way it feels between her feet, kind of like a sole massage. At the end of the day, unless someone is asking for a sexual request that is WAY out there, I see no reason for a partner to not oblige. Rubbing your feet on a guy does not seem like something that one would be opposed to if she were really into the him in the first place. I do not consider myself ‘lucky’ because my wife does the things that I like, it was a calculated and very important factor when I was ‘looking’. I would have never married, or even seriously dated, a woman who was prudish about sex.

    • Adam

      I deny having any foot fetish. But I am interested in footjobs. 2 years ago a sign language student was having a one-nighter with me. I did not even bring up my interest in footjobs but she was so scared to let me touch her feet at all. But I agree that our partners should fulfill ALL our desires regarding sex play and intimacy.

  • waffles mcfootington

    Wow, this chick sounds like a complete dud. There’s nothing hotter than a girl LAUGHING at you in the bedroom. I mean it doesn’t take a genius to work out that that is kind of insulting to the guy you were with; if you’re not into the same things then break up and let him find one of the many millions of girls out there who go gaga for having their feet touched or played with.

    I’m in the exact other boat, I don’t understand the whole foot thing but I have dated dozens of women who can literally get off from having their toes sucked. I do it because they love it, I don’t laugh, judge, or mock them. But I think men generally are more accepting in the bedroom and women are more likely to be all EW THATS WEIRD or laugh. I think it’s a maturity thing. Guys realize that sexuality is serious stuff and laughing at someone is a bad idea.

    Maybe it’s because they’re brought up with porn educating them in sexuality (and whilst sure some of it is insanely weird and abnormal a lot of contemporary porn is realistic sexual acts depicted in a natural setting and / or amateur materials) whereas girls just read silly magazines and gossip to each other about nonsense and thus lack the maturity to really satisfy a partner (or themselves) until their mid forties then they turn into crazy harlots like in Sex and the City.

  • Tim

    “I’m really open-minded about sex except for some of the most basic innocent fetishes that you could think of, like a footjob or an armpit fetish.”

    Seriously, you are not open-minded about sex at all if that already scares you off.
    Those are some of the most innocent things that I could think off.
    You sound pretty boring in bed.

  • Mmmsome

    You just sound very immature and self-centered, nothing more to it. Fulfilling sexual fantasies and exploring new ideas is something healthy for two sexual partners, and refusing to do something as simple as this out of basic immaturity and self-consciousness shows a) a lack of respect and sensitivity towards your partner (s) and b) a lack of imagination and creativity… essentially, to those two guys, you were a dead duck.