Lately, stars like Hilary Duff and Jessica Simpson have had to deal with constant snarky articles about their post-baby weights. Sure, tabloids and magazines will feign admiration and compassion for new moms. But within four weeks, they’re tapping their watches, wondering when those previously beloved mothers will start fitting into those skinny jeans once more.
It almost seems like some stars who quickly lose the weight do it in part because they know what’s happening to Duff and Simpson in the media would happen to them, too. Beyonce, who reportedly lost 60 pounds, told an audience at her first concert after giving birth, “Y’all have no idea how hard I worked. I had to lose 60 pounds! They had me on that treadmill — I ate lettuce!” Jessica Alba told Lucky that she was “practically starving” in order to lose weight. Although that was likely hyperbole on her part, it nevertheless reveals how much pressure there is not just to be thin, but to be in top physical form even when it may be medically difficult for you to do so.
But this doesn’t just affect celebrities; it affects every woman who is, has been or will someday be pregnant during their lives.
As Cavallari said, it sends a terrible message — that looking good after giving birth is somehow an essential part of the overall experience when, of course, it isn’t. Yes, it’s great if you can naturally go back to your original size right after giving birth! But it’s simply not realistic for the average woman who does not have a nanny to watch the children while working with an expensive personal trainer, eating only perfectly portioned meals designed by nutritionists and prepared by personal chefs.
The average woman, in fact, may or may not receive maternity leave if they have a job, may or may not have a stay-at-home partner to care for the child, can perhaps afford the bare minimum necessary for childcare services like babysitters and is often exhausted when the day is done. There’s often no time, money or energy to go towards that bikini-ready-bod bullshit and it’s insulting, as well as sexist, to imply that women should. After all, when was the last time you read a headline saying, “Mike Comrie Still Looks Rough 6 Months After Baby’s Birth”?
In conclusion: shut up about post-pregnant folks, Us Weekly. When even the people you compliment are rejecting your flavor of stupidity, it’s time to give it up.