It was about a year ago when someone I went to high school with had a Facebook status that read that her mother had just “died a few minutes ago,” and how she wanted people to pray for her. I couldn’t believe it. Her mother had just died and she was on her phone making sure everyone knew? Was she still sitting next to her mother when she posted the morbid status, or did she at least step outside to do it?
A week can’t go by where someone isn’t posting something about someone dying on my Facebook news feed. Whether it’s a family member, a friend or a beloved pet, there is someone with whom I’m “friends” who’s either posting a very recent loss (as in, it happened only 10 minutes ago) or the anniversary of a loss.
Grieving is not an easy task, and everyone handles it in their own way, but it seems both crass and disrespectful to whip out your phone and immediately let everyone on Facebook know that you’re in mourning or still doing your best to cope with a loss even a decade after the fact.
Are you one of these people who does this? Is it for attention? Sympathy? Of just utter devastation that you just don’t know what else to do in the moment? If you are guilty of this practice, can you tell the rest of us why, please? Because I don’t get it; and between that and photos of “Johnny’s first poop in the toilet” statuses, I feel like the world is spinning out of control.
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