To be fair, they weren’t always wrong: sometimes, I was an asshole. But these were comments that often came from people who had never heard me speak outside of class, if at all, and had simply though I “seemed like a bitch.” This oh-so-shockingly hurt my feelings quite a bit. I try really hard to be friendly to strangers: I always give cigarettes to those who ask, I try to compliment those who seem to be having a bad day, I say “good morning” to people I don’t know and “sorry” to those I accidentally bump against at bars.
Sadly, most of the “you seem like a bitch” comments that I’m aware of are directed at women. Why? Because being loud, strong-willed, confident and vehement about your opinions is, as we all know, “unladylike.” Because loud, strong-willed, confident and vehement about your opinions as a male, though, will ensure you get your own show (although as a woman, you can either be Oprah or get a show with other women with whom you’ll publicly argue and/or interview a lot of men).