• Wed, Oct 17 2012

Is There Such A Thing As ‘The Marrying Type’?

In a recent interview with Playboy, Krysten Ritter — who plays the title character “Don’t Trust the B– In Apt. 23″ — describes herself as not the marrying type. Specifically:

I was never the little girl who dreamed about a wedding or a big white dress. It was never my thing, but I don’t think I’m sour on marriage. I just don’t know if I’m the type. Marriage seems scary to me. I’m in a serious relationship. We have a dog together. We live five minutes from each other. It’s heaven. I think that might be the key: separate houses, separate bank accounts. Why mess with that?

So. Ritter makes a good point — marriage is fucking scary. It is, theoretically, a lifelong commitment. Horrifying, really. But I wonder if there really is a marrying “type” or just a person who happens to meet another person with whom they are willing to make the kind of unfathomable leap of faith required to enter into holy matrimony.

I tend to think that the urge to get married could come along at any time, for no particular rhyme or reason. I also think it can go away. Speaking as a person who wanted to get married about six months ago and now has absolutely zero interest in the institution, I am tempted to say that it’s even arrogant to say that there are marrying types and not marrying types — not because Ritter or anyone else doesn’t know themselves or shouldn’t know themselves, but because we really don’t know what “type” anyone else is, and to try to categorize them based on what they want at any given moment seems unfair. Shit can change in a matter of days, people. DAYS.

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  • Lastango

    “I tend to think that the urge to get married could come along at any time, for no particular rhyme or reason.”
    ======
    Early on, it “comes along”. At age 35, it kicks the door in.

    • Lo

      So let’s say I were to get married right now, late twenties. At age 35, would I get the overwhelming urge to divorce, or would I just suddenly really enjoy marriage?

    • Lastango

      If you are much more successful than your husband, by age 35+ your values will have migrated into a conspicuous-consumption fantasy that exists only in TV shows set in Manhattan, and your hero will have become a disappointment — not to mention an embarassment you feel you have to make excuses for to your friends and colleagues. You will be thinking you can do better (you will be wrong about that, but you won’t know it – yet). Since you didn’t get a prenup, the sooner you divorce the smaller the alimony settlement will be. So you make it happen. Cheer up — your high-fiving, you-go-girlfriends will always tell you that you did the right thing, that in this era someone as powerful as you can make her own reality, regrets are for losers, and so on… through your forties… your fifties…

    • Lo

      Of course! But it’s a tough road. I have so much to learn about designer shoes.

    • Lo

      Of course! But it’s a tough road. I have so much to learn about designer shoes.

    • Lastango

      If you are much more successful than your husband, by age 35+ your values will have migrated into a conspicuous-consumption fantasy that exists only in TV shows set in Manhattan, and your hero will have become a disappointment — not to mention an embarassment you feel you have to make excuses for to your friends and colleagues. You will be thinking you can do better (you will be wrong about that, but you won’t know it – yet). Since you didn’t get a prenup, the sooner you divorce the smaller the alimony settlement will be. So you make it happen. Cheer up — your high-fiving, you-go-girlfriends will always tell you that you did the right thing, that in this era someone as powerful as you can make her own reality, regrets are for losers, and so on… through your forties… your fifties…

    • Lastango

      If you are much more successful than your husband, by age 35+ your values will have migrated into a conspicuous-consumption fantasy that exists only in TV shows set in Manhattan, and your hero will have become a disappointment — not to mention an embarassment you feel you have to make excuses for to your friends and colleagues. You will be thinking you can do better (you will be wrong about that, but you won’t know it – yet). Since you didn’t get a prenup, the sooner you divorce the smaller the alimony settlement will be. So you make it happen. Cheer up — your high-fiving, you-go-girlfriends will always tell you that you did the right thing, that in this era someone as powerful as you can make her own reality, regrets are for losers, and so on… through your forties… your fifties…

    • Lastango

      If you are much more successful than your husband, by age 35+ your values will have migrated into a conspicuous-consumption fantasy that exists only in TV shows set in Manhattan, and your hero will have become a disappointment — not to mention an embarassment you feel you have to make excuses for to your friends and colleagues. You will be thinking you can do better (you will be wrong about that, but you won’t know it – yet). Since you didn’t get a prenup, the sooner you divorce the smaller the alimony settlement will be. So you make it happen. Cheer up — your high-fiving, you-go-girlfriends will always tell you that you did the right thing, that in this era someone as powerful as you can make her own reality, regrets are for losers, and so on… through your forties… your fifties…

    • Lastango

      If you are much more successful than your husband, by age 35+ your values will have migrated into a conspicuous-consumption fantasy that exists only in TV shows set in Manhattan, and your hero will have become a disappointment — not to mention an embarassment you feel you have to make excuses for to your friends and colleagues. You will be thinking you can do better (you will be wrong about that, but you won’t know it – yet). Since you didn’t get a prenup, the sooner you divorce the smaller the alimony settlement will be. So you make it happen. Cheer up — your high-fiving, you-go-girlfriends will always tell you that you did the right thing, that in this era someone as powerful as you can make her own reality, regrets are for losers, and so on… through your forties… your fifties…

    • Lastango

      If you are much more successful than your husband, by age 35+ your values will have migrated into a conspicuous-consumption fantasy that exists only in TV shows set in Manhattan, and your hero will have become a disappointment — not to mention an embarassment you feel you have to make excuses for to your friends and colleagues. You will be thinking you can do better (you will be wrong about that, but you won’t know it – yet). Since you didn’t get a prenup, the sooner you divorce the smaller the alimony settlement will be. So you make it happen. Cheer up — your high-fiving, you-go-girlfriends will always tell you that you did the right thing, that in this era someone as powerful as you can make her own reality, regrets are for losers, and so on… through your forties… your fifties…

    • Lastango

      If you are much more successful than your husband, by age 35+ your values will have migrated into a conspicuous-consumption fantasy that exists only in TV shows set in Manhattan, and your hero will have become a disappointment — not to mention an embarassment you feel you have to make excuses for to your friends and colleagues. You will be thinking you can do better (you will be wrong about that, but you won’t know it – yet). Since you didn’t get a prenup, the sooner you divorce the smaller the alimony settlement will be. So you make it happen. Cheer up — your high-fiving, you-go-girlfriends will always tell you that you did the right thing, that in this era someone as powerful as you can make her own reality, regrets are for losers, and so on… through your forties… your fifties…

    • Lastango

      If you are much more successful than your husband, by age 35+ your values will have migrated into a conspicuous-consumption fantasy that exists only in TV shows set in Manhattan, and your hero will have become a disappointment — not to mention an embarassment you feel you have to make excuses for to your friends and colleagues. You will be thinking you can do better (you will be wrong about that, but you won’t know it – yet). Since you didn’t get a prenup, the sooner you divorce the smaller the alimony settlement will be. So you make it happen. Cheer up — your high-fiving, you-go-girlfriends will always tell you that you did the right thing, that in this era someone as powerful as you can make her own reality, regrets are for losers, and so on… through your forties… your fifties…

    • Lastango

      If you are much more successful than your husband, by age 35+ your values will have migrated into a conspicuous-consumption fantasy that exists only in TV shows set in Manhattan, and your hero will have become a disappointment — not to mention an embarassment you feel you have to make excuses for to your friends and colleagues. You will be thinking you can do better (you will be wrong about that, but you won’t know it – yet). Since you didn’t get a prenup, the sooner you divorce the smaller the alimony settlement will be. So you make it happen. Cheer up — your high-fiving, you-go-girlfriends will always tell you that you did the right thing, that in this era someone as powerful as you can make her own reality, regrets are for losers, and so on… through your forties… your fifties…

    • Lastango

      If you are much more successful than your husband, by age 35+ your values will have migrated into a conspicuous-consumption fantasy that exists only in TV shows set in Manhattan, and your hero will have become a disappointment — not to mention an embarassment you feel you have to make excuses for to your friends and colleagues. You will be thinking you can do better (you will be wrong about that, but you won’t know it – yet). Since you didn’t get a prenup, the sooner you divorce the smaller the alimony settlement will be. So you make it happen. Cheer up — your high-fiving, you-go-girlfriends will always tell you that you did the right thing, that in this era someone as powerful as you can make her own reality, regrets are for losers, and so on… through your forties… your fifties…

    • Lastango

      If you are much more successful than your husband, by age 35+ your values will have migrated into a conspicuous-consumption fantasy that exists only in TV shows set in Manhattan, and your hero will have become a disappointment — not to mention an embarassment you feel you have to make excuses for to your friends and colleagues. You will be thinking you can do better (you will be wrong about that, but you won’t know it – yet). Since you didn’t get a prenup, the sooner you divorce the smaller the alimony settlement will be. So you make it happen. Cheer up — your high-fiving, you-go-girlfriends will always tell you that you did the right thing, that in this era someone as powerful as you can make her own reality, regrets are for losers, and so on… through your forties… your fifties…

    • Lastango

      If you are much more successful than your husband, by age 35+ your values will have migrated into a conspicuous-consumption fantasy that exists only in TV shows set in Manhattan, and your hero will have become a disappointment — not to mention an embarassment you feel you have to make excuses for to your friends and colleagues. You will be thinking you can do better (you will be wrong about that, but you won’t know it – yet). Since you didn’t get a prenup, the sooner you divorce the smaller the alimony settlement will be. So you make it happen. Cheer up — your high-fiving, you-go-girlfriends will always tell you that you did the right thing, that in this era someone as powerful as you can make her own reality, regrets are for losers, and so on… through your forties… your fifties…

  • Lastango

    “I tend to think that the urge to get married could come along at any time, for no particular rhyme or reason.”
    ======
    Early on, it “comes along”. At age 35, it kicks the door in.

  • http://twitter.com/PortraitOfMmeX Madame X

    A woman tells Playboy that she isn’t a regular girl, she’s a “cool” girl who is just like the boys and marriage is essentially no fun? Shocking…*yawn*

    • Shizuppy

      good point, but it’s not like women’s mags are much more enlightening