Speaking Of Feminism, Could You Date Someone More Feminist Than You?

Since we’re on the topic of Hugo Schwyzer, let’s talk about the F-word.

People define the word “feminism” in a thousand different ways. You can equate it to the 1960′s as you burn your bra in your tub in the hopes that you won’t burn down the entire building while you do so. You can look back at literature and find a model there, too, to which you can follow. Or you can disregard all of it, roll your eyes and stereotype it in ways that will free you from caring. You can do whatever you like, but as long as you’re aware that’s at least something.

In the simplest of terms, Merriam-Webster defines feminism as:

1. : the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes
2. : organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests

By that right there, I have to imagine that those, even those who do not regard themselves as such, have to take notice and declare themselves feminists after all.

But after you define yourself, could you date someone who’s more feminist than you? What if it was a man who was more feminist? What if your partner were less? Is this something on which we should all be equal or is there wiggle room for one to be more than another?

Sorry! This poll is now closed.

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    • Samantha_Escobar

      My ex-boyfriend had a feminist tattoo and got it just a few months before I got mine, which I thought was pretty wonderful. He was really, really opposed to gendered language, particularly when it came to anything that was typically used for women like “slutty” or “bitch.” Though I occasionally use the word “bitch,” often as a verb, I still liked that he was such a feminist.

      • Amanda Chatel

        I call myself a slut on a regular basis… and have never dated a fella who I would regard as a feminist. I wonder if I should be stripped of my badge or something…

    • JennyWren

      Dating someone more feminist than myself (I’m in grad school studying gender politics, so…) might be a bit exhausting. I can imagine it going down like this:
      Me: “I’m off to my history class…”
      Them: “Why not a HERSTORY CLASS?!”
      Seriously though, my current partner challenges me in enough ways intellectually- I kind of like that this is something I can bring to the table and make him think about.

    • Lo

      I’m not sure how you can get more feminist than, ‘Women and men are equal’. Radical feminism seems less feminist, to me, because it tilts the balance toward women.

      I don’t like gendered words much, I’ll admit. If I dress up, I’m being fancy, decorative (can we say classy any more?), but not girly. Likewise, if I put on my walrus-hide boots and go to punch rocks in the forest, I’m not being manly, I’m being tough and certifiably insane.

    • Lisa H.

      I don’t know if that would be possible, honestly. Introduce me to him, and I will marry him!