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How To Tell Your Friend It’s Time She Updates Her Look

We all have those friends who are stuck in the past. No matter your age bracket, you have at least one. This is just a fact of life, humanity and an obsessive style from the past that has dug its fingertips firmly into a particular person. It won’t let go, it’s hanging on for dear life, and dammit, this style is similar to a plague that can’t be run out of town!

It’s a style that wants to be remembered, refuses to be forgotten and if it means infiltrating the life of someone who would have otherwise escaped it, then so be it. Stale style is worse than a mold; you cannot buy a spray for it to put it out of its misery. No. Unfortunately, you have to face it head on with words. People need words; mold isn’t as complicated.

Although there are those who rock a style from another era and do so perfectly, there are others who just haven’t kept up with the times. Whether it’s a lack of awareness or simply not caring, it’s those people who need the most help.

So how do you tell your friend that 1999 is long gone? Gently, of course, and with some other techniques that will drive home the point. If she understands what you’re trying to say, but is content in her passé look, then at least you tried, at least she’s happy and you can move on to something more important – like maybe saving the world of judgmental people like you and I.

 

Photo: Warner Bros.

You can reach this post's author, Amanda Chatel, on twitter.
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  • Kit

    Or you could just not be a dick to your friends?

  • Cait

    Yah, this post is kind of mean. Or actually, really mean. And not funny. Just mean.

  • http://www.facebook.com/magda.nunez2 Magda Nunez

    Ironically (or not?) I saw a girl on campus today, just minutes ago, actually, wearing an outfit quite similar to the one the girl has on in the picture you used and I thought, hmmm… It seems that 90′s look/trend is finally coming back around. Now my love of combat boots is going to seem trendy and unoriginal.

  • Mandy

    Or people could be allowed to wear the things they like, instead of being expected to follow the fashion clones. Totally radical idea, I know.

  • RM

    I dated a guy once who told me my boots were stuck in the 90′s. He was right, I was annoyed, but I needed to hear it. Turns out all my clothes were stuck in the 90s. Thankful, now.

  • C

    I was gonna say. The girl in the main picture could be right off the streets in any major metropolitan area. Fashion is cyclical. And I love that people can just kind of wear whatever they want now. At least that’s how it is in LA.

  • MR

    I haven’t seen it in a long time, but I’m pretty sure some of the members of Pearl Jam were in the movie you posted in that photo above. It’s really funny, but also a deep movie. I’ve had life experiences that parallel two of the male characters in it, but I was a hippie during both of them.

  • http://twitter.com/DiscordantFlesh Silent Agony

    Like fashionable clothes are so cheap and available for all sizes amirite?

  • http://twitter.com/DiscordantFlesh Silent Agony

    This article is offensive, judgmental and rude.

  • http://twitter.com/DiscordantFlesh Silent Agony

    yes get her some magazines so she feels terrible about herself and develops an eating disorder what a good friend not you can hate your bodies together