• Wed, Nov 7 2012

How To Be A Cock Tease

Some guys called me a cock tease in college. Others just thought I was prude. I didn’t care.

I was a classy teenager. I had kept a list of boys I kissed in high school. If there was an asterisk next to a name, it meant he also felt my boobs. When I met my college boyfriend, I made him wait months until I decided to lose my virginity to him. I wanted everything to be perfect, and neurotically planned out everything — including the dinner, the music, and my fancy new lingerie.

Of course, when I finally had sex I was completely disappointed. It felt like everything leading up to it — especially the flirting and the foreplay — was better than the act itself.

So I learned to stop worrying and love the attention. In fact, I realized I didn’t want sex as much as I wanted to make out and satisfy my own needs. At my small liberal arts college, word quickly spread that I was a tease. I didn’t give a damn about my reputation then, and I certainly don’t now. I have my reasons — and I have sex! But I often shut the guy down before he can pass second base. Here are my true confessions.

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  • Renee

    Is this serious or a joke… it is hard to tell sometimes.

  • raza

    i love u soooooo much and wanna chat with u my email is a.arfath@mail.com

  • Cee

    Hmm so many thoughts…terrible post sums it up nicely.

  • http://www.facebook.com/CydniiWithTwoEyes Cydnii Wilde Harris

    I know the knee jerk reaction to this would be to hate it… but I don’t. As loathsome, atrocious, underhanded and nasty as the behavior described is, the one thing you can’t call this is dishonest. Shit’s real. There’s a small piece of me that almost admire’s her for her candor. Here, in her admissions, not in real life.

  • Ariel

    grow up. you think this is cute, but it isn’t. not even a little bit. i’m disappoined by the choice to publish this, as it seems to clash with a lot of the really awesome themes of this website

  • Cate

    I want to hate this, I do, because I recognize that a lot of these things are…kind of douchey. But I do most of them. I do them with a vengeance and I have a great time with it.

  • gotohell

    bitch gives all women a bad name. i speak as a fellow woman. fuck you.

  • Fuck this dumbass

    You are literally the stupidest cunt I have ACTUALLY encountered on the internet (if this is real, if not, 10 points for trolling). You are THE REASON women are pictured as vindictive conniving pieces of shit. And that’s what you are. I hope one of these men rape you and leave you alone in your sad little fucking world.
    -Signed, Woman Kind.

    • http://www.facebook.com/sameurysm Samantha Escobar

      Yeah, please don’t include all of “woman kind” in this comment. I’m a woman and I definitely do not condone hoping a guy rapes her, for goodness’ sake.

    • anna

      whoa whoa, a woman WISHING RAPE upon another woman is reprehensible. Anyone wishing that is reprehensible but as a woman, i think this almost disqualifys you as “woman kind”.

      please leave me and all other woman out of this rape culture promoting trolling disgusting rant.
      signed, a woman who doesn’t presume to think for any other woman

    • Tracheal

      Oh but it’s ok even funny for women to rape men psychically. Frankly, women who cock tease mercilessly need to suffer some serious consequences. What’s good for the goose is also good for the gander.

    • anna

      male rape is awful and reprehensible as well, although a bit off the current subject..?

    • Tracheal

      Cock teasing is how some women rape men PSYCHICALLY. As you can see by the content, women get off on cock teasing because it allows them to pull the guy in, get him all hot and bothered, steal something from him by lying to him, and then reject him. This is a kind of female-rape…and since rape is most definitely a sex crime and not a power crime, to intentionally provoke guys sexually is likely to engender sexual rage/rape in return.

      Uh oh, the PC meter run by the ‘rape culture’ goons just went off the scale.

    • meteor_echo

      Have you ever been raped? Physically?

    • Tracheal

      Why do you ask? How is that relevant here? Especially since we were talking about psychic rape.

    • anna

      actually rape is

      1.the unlawful compelling of a person through physical force or duress to have sexual intercourse.

      2.any act of sexual intercourse that is forced upon a person.

      cock teasing is turning a sexual situation into no sex. rape is turning a non sexual situation into “sex” ie rape.

      while i think cock teasers are absolutely reprehensible power players, and also put themselves in dangerous situation where it is more probable volatile males could rape them, there is nothing wrong with it other than potentially lying. all they do is not have sex. the only problem is that the men don’t get laid, and men never have to get laid. never. even if they were promised it. even then, it’s not rape. it’s called “dissapointment”

      but i’m sure you’ll have some other strange twist around to prove men can be raped by a woman not having sex with them, called not-rape.

    • Tracheal

      If you deliberately dangle fresh, tasty, near-naked bait in front of a hungry shark over and over and over and keep pulling it away just to frustrate the shark, then don’t feel bad if your bait gets ‘taken’ from time to time.

      Lying is every bit as evil as any other kind of violence depending on the quality of the lie of course. Female forms of psychological ‘rape’ are every bit as evil as are male forms of physical rape. I, frankly, have no problem whatever were a sociopathic serial cock teaser to occasionally get a taste of her own medicine. Vile cock teasing induces reasonable rage in men not dissapointment because we have no legal ways to handle cock teasers effectively and because the cost can be very high for us while the risk is obviously nil for the loathsome lying reptiles who cock tease for false female power plays.

      And unlike you I haven’t fallen for the false feminist rape rhetoric so I don’t get all hot and bothered by rape. The research shows that rape is a relatively minor crime in terms of the resulting recovery periods. False ‘Rape Culture’ hysteria is just another way for the coddled sex to pass perverted reverse sexist laws like VAWomanA.

      And FYI, rape is a SEX crime not a power crime. You need to go back to some school where feminist rape culture bigots have been cowed into submission (by say the likes of Christina Hoff-Sommer) before you repeat the BIG Lie that rape is a crime of power but not sex.

      In addition, female-male rape is never ever even defined. Once more that lets the coddled sex get away with rape. It also feeds the false feminist fantasy that only men are capable of rape and that only men are monsters.

    • Jammy Jackson

      What you said about rape being a sex crime and not a power crime is true. Almost all rapes are about wanting/needing to have sex(albeit forcefully) with a person, many times a particular person (or kinds).

      I grew up in a place where rape is very common. As a matter of fact most in rape cases the perp is someone you know and trust-eg uncle, auntie, roommate, teacher, sister’s friend, and so on.

      And I agree that being a ‘cock tease’ is a cruel thing to do. However sometimes girls and women have not learned how somewhat easily men get turned on. Being a woman as myself I can tell you personally when I was a kid I dressed somewhat sexy because I thought that is ‘in’. Plus to fit in with my peers. There was also this time when my dad forced me to dress in a way that is uncomfortable-short skirt etc. He really wants me to look feminine and attractive. No idea why it’s so ingrained in him I have to be a certain way.

      It is what it is. Men and women really make women’s lives harder. Probably with men as well with the quasi-feminism going on.

    • true

      Because of being a staunch women’s libber(unknowingly); by dressing provocatively as an adolescent [thinking
      that if I dressed this way, I would find love that I was not getting at
      home -confusing love with sex] and made to believe that it is normal (through feminism using the media – T.V & magazines etc); I was raped.

      During the rape, no sound came out of my mouth; although I was screaming inside. I didn’t know why I couldn’t scream that night; so I tried to forget about it [and other things] by using drugs and alcohol.

      On asking God later on in life, for answers to the questions I had on life, He gave me a book to read called “The Way home or face The Fire”.

      Quoted from: The Way home or face The Fire

      “12:75 The widespread public display of female nudity, and exhibitionism, has brought out the animal instincts in some men, and, with that, has come a rise in the number of rapes, and cases of child molesting, and woman are reaping the consequences of what they have been sowing. Unfortunately, innocent children are also suffering.

      12:76 The reason; that there has been a rise, in the number of cases of child-molesting; is that little girls are the only ones left who are
      actually feminine, in contrast to man-like women’slibbers. As the situation worsens; with girls becoming affected by
      liberation, at an ever-increasingly younger age; so the ages at which
      they get molested becomes younger, as the rapist is forced to look for femininity in a younger age-group. In the rapist’s tormented (by Satan) mentality, he is also re-asserting his lost masculinity, to himself; although it is only very temporarily; and even a staunch “women’s libber” loses her manliness, in a rape-situation, and becomes frightened and submissive, and therefore
      more feminine; in a twisted mental power-struggle.

      12:77 Women have brought this on themselves – Divine Justice – Karma – cause and effect – just desserts. When you REFUSE to obey God, you bring evil upon yourself (Honi soit qui mal y pense).

      3:11 You can NOT serve God AND be a women’s libber, the two things are TOTALLY IMCOMPATIBLE, because God has said REPEATEDLY that women are NOT men’s equal (Gen 3:16)(1st Cor. 11-3 & 1st. Timothy 2-11-15) (Sura 2:228 & 4:34). They are also imcompatible because they are complete OPPOSITES; serving God is based on humility and accepting His teachings, and women’s liberations is based on arrogance and refusing to accept God’s teachings.”

    • true

      Enoch 96:12 I have sworn to you, ye sinners, that neither mountain [government] nor hill has been nor should be a servant to woman (Gen. 3:16-17 – women’s liberation CONDEMNED).
      96:13 Neither
      in this way has your crime been sent down upon Earth, but men of their
      own heads have invented it[man made laws]; and greatly shall those who
      give it (women’s liberation) efficiency be CURSED.

    • Tracheal

      I’m very sorry/very angry that you were raped. Just because you were a confused women’s libber as an adolescent who once believed that by dressing provocatively you’d find love, it DOESN”T mean that your rapist had the right to take advantage of the situation and you. I hope you can find some powerful ways to scream bloody hell as soon as you are ready. And while I agree with common sense in many of your posts, I’d urge you to reconsider the God game which is simply another kind of rape. You might want to look into Peter Levine’s work on trauma transformation…so that you can restore your spirit to intact status using your own internal power. Good luck on your journey whatever happens.

    • Jammy Jackson

      Why in the hell would you believe in a good god that encourages rape of prisoners, killing of women, rape of women, who kills mass amount of people in a flood, and enjoys the smell of animal sacrifice?

    • Tracheal

      Women who believe in feminism ARE vindictive, conniving and ugly P.O.S. The world of feminism is, by both theory and practice, a sad little blankety-blank world. Women who call themselves ‘feminist’ literally are the stupidest of C’s because this particular hate movement is all about bigoted anti-male brainwashing and nothing about evidence-based intelligence.

  • NoHate

    Wow I know you guys don’t agree and I don’t as well but all these comments make you worse a comment about rape grow up there are people like this get over it she’s honest a good trait to have ‘I speak as a fellow woman fuck you’ wow clap for this one ey you people are hateful beings I’m more ashamed of you people

  • Ouroboros

    Ah… that was refreshingly honest.

  • Debby

    Honestly, this is great. It’s guys who have put women in these situations. Why do we have to make guys think that we will have sex with them in order for them to want to make out? A woman has every right to either change her mind at the last minute, or pretend like she did. (I will say, I usually tell them at some point in the evening that I’m not going to actually sleep with them, but they are usually so horny and drunk by that point they don’t care, and come home with me anyway.) More power to you, girl! Way to take the power out of the man’s hands!

    And to that sick fuck who wished rape upon her, YOU are the reason women are seen as BITCHES. How DARE you! I have been raped, and I would NEVER wish it on ANYONE.

  • Kayla

    I love this! This is a funny, if not incredibly blunt, way of discussing something that a lot of women do. Myself included. :) There’s is nothing that says a women should have to have sex with a man just because she is wiling to flirt with him. I’m still allowed to have boundaries even if I’m willing to make out with you and give you my number.

  • Rose

    Yeah, this article is kind of obnoxious at times, but it’s also just funny and silly. The angry commenters are people who need to take some time to THINK. Because, whether you’re a man, a woman, or a man trolling as a woman online(…), what you have is a deeply embedded prejudice toward women that you’re probably not even aware of. And that’s the scariest type of prejudice.

  • woo

    If women who want to make out but not bone are bitches, then what the eff are men who want to bone but not be in a relationship?? Seriously, making out feeeeels awesome, but sexing is not always appropriate. If a dude is gettin’ some sweet makeouts but no more, then maybe he should thank his lucky stars he got some sweet makeouts!

  • Annaleigh

    I pretty much do every single one of these things, and I’m not the least bit ashamed of it. The one time I actually let my guard down and slept with a guy I was interested in, he decided that he wasn’t into me and didn’t want to date me. Of course he wanted to continue sleeping with me, so I had to put the brakes on that. Ever since then I’ve been a tease and it’s lead to more phone numbers and attention than I know what to do with. What it comes down to is this- I enjoy the attention and the “chase,” and if I’m actually going to sleep with someone, he has to earn it and show me that he’s interested in more than just sex.

  • Random Dude

    HAHAHA F*ck this girl. Notice how she doesn’t have a single story about finding actual love or someone who truly cares about her? Yeah, that.

  • Errrr

    So, what’s the alternative? If a girl shows an interest in a guy is she obliged to sleep with him and be a certified skank? Or, not show any interest in any male, even ones she might like, because of the obligation to become a skank! Get into your time machines and transport yourselves to 1812!

  • Ray

    These are the women who make men use women. grow up and treat people honestly and you will be a lot happier in the end. I have met women like you and after a couple of you I can pick you out of the crowd and avoid you like the plague

  • Marty J

    Thanks for the advice!! I’m gonna think like a woman from now on! So think w my brain instead of my dick. I’m gonna lead women on emotionally and stop right before they complete. I’m gonna lead them on thinking I want a relationship. But stop and say we are just Friends. I don’t want sex, I just want to mess with them emotionally. That works! After all they don’t seem like sex like men. So the dick doesn’t matter either way. Just mess emotionally. And it should work greatly since every one says I look like this guy: http://www.last.fm/music/Vijay+Yesudas/+images/86152821

    Thanks for the advice ladies. This is gonna be fun!

  • Joe Joeseph

    What’s wrong with both people just agreeing on what they want.

    One comment I see on dating websites all the time is women saying “so tired of all the games”. Yet in this post we have games in spades. And people who criticize it are told that they think women shouldn’t be able to set boundaries. What?