• Wed, Nov 7 2012

You Can Get Pregnant From Masturbation (And Other Untruths I ‘Learned’ From A Lack Of Sex Education)

Yes, my mother could’ve had a sex talk with me. But every time she was potentially beginning one, I stopped her. I would bring up something else or simply interrupt and say I had to do something for school/soccer/Hot Topic/whatever my pseudo-tortured self was doing at the time. Why? Because I didn’t want to listen. Listening to your parents talk about sex when you’re a preteen is incredibly unpleasant; it means you have to both acknowledge your parents have had sex (which is very ~*ew*~ when you’re twelve) as well as let them acknowledge that you might be.

Sex education is important because kids don’t want to talk to their parents about sex. Sure, there are some parents once in a while that are able to discuss the ins and outs (literally) of sex, but given the level of stigma surrounding healthy sex in our media–and, in turn, how much of our education on the world around us comes from the media–it’s pretty damn difficult to get an accurate point of view without formal education. Having to sit in a classroom sucks, but kids often do absorb it when it’s well-done. And isn’t it better than nothing or potentially incorrect information?

Sex will happen. It is instinctual, it’s how our species continues on and it feels pretty fantastic most of the time. Trying to deny that sex happens among teens is not only ridiculous, it’s dangerous. Yes, it’s up to parents to discuss certain aspects–particularly the emotional ones–with their children, but sex education in schools is integral for parents who have trouble communicating with their children, whether it’s due to simple personality differences, circumstantial difficulties like having a job where you don’t regularly see your kids, or even actual language barriers.

So, school folks and the politicians in charge of education laws: I beg of you, please maintain good sex ed programs in our schools. All future generations depend on it.

Pic credits: doyoubelieveindog and MTV.

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  • Tania

    My elementary school and high school had very detailed sex-ed, and I don’t think anyone in my grade (a large high school for Vancouver) got pregnant. I can’t think of anyone in the school getting pregnant. There were condoms in a jar in the counsellor’s rooms, and the youth clinic which offered free everything was two blocks from the high school, so that might have helped.

    I will never understand abstinence-only education.

    • Guest

      Where as I grew up in a community with abstan only

    • http://www.facebook.com/sameurysm Samantha Escobar

      Your school system sounds AMAZING.

    • Tania

      It was really good! Although the pictures of advanced STDs definitely scared me off sex for a while (which wasn’t the intent; they were showing it so we’d get anything unusual checked out instead of waiting until our genitals looked like cauliflower and oh god I need some brain bleach).

    • Leila

      I got that same HIGHLY graphic STD slide show, and I really think it was intended to scare us off sex for a while. I couldn’t look at boys for like a week. Also, condoms for everyone ever!

  • Lo

    Agreed. Parents and schools should share responsibility for sex education, emotional and physical. It’s essential that kids don’t have just one reference for all this, no matter how well-intentioned.

  • Colleen

    When I turned 16, my mother took me to a gynecologist. I received my first ever pap smear with instructions that it should be done once a year. I learned how to give myself a breast exam, was put on birth control pills to help my irregular cycles (and mom said it was precaution, not permission), and free reign to ask the doctor anything I wanted about sex, puberty, and STDs. It was pretty freaking awesome. If I have a daughter someday I will probably go the same route.

  • camilla

    Stories like these make me so glad I’m Danish.. In Denmark we don’t mix religion with education (or anything else for that matters).. We educate.. I think abstinence only is stupid, cause you are supposed to educate the children, not scare them