Harlotry: What Kind Of Person Lies To Phone Sex Operators?

Loneliness can be terrifying. Without voices to fill the silence, we are alone with our thoughts and that is too much for some people to bear. So, they keep the television on night and day, they turn their radios up to eleven, or they call phone sex lines.

In the sex industry it’s hard to escape loneliness, whether that of others, or your own. Yes, it can be lonely sometimes. It’s hard working a job so few people understand. It’s difficult to live in a world that thinks you’re stupid, a failure, lost, or just easy. There are plenty of people who don’t think any of these things, but that doesn’t mean they understand you or your situation–to be honest, the people who see you as stupid or a failure are more likely to recognize the downsides.

Often, pro-sex work civilians are under the impression that sex work transforms one’s life into a non-stop party. They don’t understand that sex work, like any other job, has its upsides certainly, but also has some significant downsides and it’s difficult to explain how the potential for piles of money relies on the ability to put up with piles of bullshit at least as large as those piles of money. And the personal loneliness that can come with this job is nothing compared to the loneliness you encounter on a daily basis.

I’ve said it numberless times, but I’ll say it again: people don’t just go to sex workers to satisfy their carnal desires with someone who would likely be far out of their league (were money subtracted from the equation); people don’t patronize sex workers as a way of guaranteeing that we will leave when we are no longer wanted (or before!)… people also patronize sex workers because they are simply lonely. As a phone sex operator, I discovered more loneliness than I’ve ever seen in other areas of the sex industry.

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    • ZanBrody

      I just wanted to say that the Harlotry series/Cathryn’s writing is fantastic. Probably my favorite part of this site.

      • Alexis H

        Agreed. If I was stranded on a desert island that had municipal wi-fi and could only read two blogs, I’d pick these and Ashley’s red carpet slideshows.

      • Grant M

        Stranded on a desert island with municipal wi-fi and could only read two blogs… stunning.

      • Grant M

        I agree that the series is good and Cathy’s writing is too but some people need to get a grip. Strand yourself in a jail cell for like two days and feel the enlightenment flow!

    • Grant M

      Oh my, a guy that called a lying whore was a liar.

      • Diana

        It’s not lying if the other person knows you’re misrepresenting the truth… Is role playing or acting a lie?! If anyone who called her thought that she was actually telling the truth they were probably really delusional.
        And the point wasn’t that the guy was lying. The point was that he had no good reason to do so, except to hear himself speak. Which meant that there was something really wrong with him.

      • Grant M

        that was my whole point. in the world of lies calling out a liar is weak.

    • Grant M

      Don’t get me wrong, I’ve got no respect for the lame fools calling the phone sex line. I’ve got just a little more respect for the whores. Glad to be neither.

      • Alexis H

        Go away, please.

      • http://isomorphismes.tumblr.com/ isomorphisms

        That’s nice. Now you’ve come to a sex worker’s blog and stated your opinion.

    • http://isomorphismes.tumblr.com/ isomorphisms

      Seems totally believable to me that some bloke could get off on boasting.