• Thu, Dec 6 2012

Woman Starts Kickstarter Because She Doesn’t Hate Her Body (But She Kind Of Hates Yours)

That shit is like a zen kōan.

Being a lady can be awful tough sometimes, what with the ceaseless glut of media insisting we should be unhappy with our bodies, in order that we buy all kinds of new products to fix our problems, be it makeup, diet books, pricey shampoo, hair removers, gym memberships, crystal implants for our vaginas, etc. Women, especially women who aren’t conventionally attractive, are frequently told they’re not good enough and they should try to change.

But our hackles also raise whenever people disparage thin woman for not feeling burdened by these pressures, too.  Thin women are frequently regarded as not “real,” not sexy or not womanly for the same reasons. Sure, thinness is the prevailing beauty standard of the day and, certainly, thin women have their body types reinforced as beautiful far more frequently than the average, the athletic or the fat… but no one woman escapes from the idea that her body isn’t right. For one example.

Which is why we’d like to ask of Britton Delizia, a Las Vegas woman who recently started a Kickstarter to celebrate thin and fit women: what the fuck planet are you living on?

Let us begin with her moving lead, a quotation from “Anonymous”/her Moleskin of verse poems:

“In this era we have moved to a point where we have become so politically correct that suddenly it is not only perfectly okay , and acceptable in common situation , but encouraged and beat into our children’s heads from birth to judge, bash, and condemn anyone who is of a more statuesque build than you, or fits more ideally inside of the model of the golden ratio.”
anonymous 

Delizia, you see, has proposed making a “Collection of images of women standing up against a society that protects fat culture while bastardizing thin and athletic women.” Whether that collection means a “book” or a “Lisa Frank trapper keeper stuffed with magazine clippings,” we don’t know yet.

Here, let’s let her explain:

Its undeniable that when we stand a skinny, athletic or even average sized female next to a larger (even if less healthy, overweight or obese) female, that unless we live outside of this stigma, we as Americans will assume that the heavier person is funnier, smarter, nicer, and less sexually promiscuous, all because she is not as thin or physically fit than the girl next to her.

Wait, what? Fat people are automatically assumed to be smarter and funnier than thin people? Since when are positive attributes ascribed to the overweight at a disadvantage to the conventionally attractive? This doesn’t really happen, or at least not near enough to get all aggro about it and make a revenge book.

Maybe we’re getting ahead of ourselves:

Why should a woman have to apologize for wanting to be fit?
Why should a woman have to apologize because she likes to run? or eat healthy? or just has the metabolism that is geared to keep weight at bay?

So is she doing this for vanity?

…No, that’s backwards thinking! That’s the kind of thinking that privileges fat women over thin and fit women! She is doing this for the opposite of vanity:

I think this book will probably upset a few people, i think it will be looked at wrong by some people..

But.. if it just makes it into the hands of ONE little girl who feels like she has to be overweight to fit in with the current 70% of the overweight population of America, and it gives her the strength to know that being healthy isnt a bad thing.

Then this whole project is worth all the time and effort i can possibly afford to put into it.

Well, this is completely toxic and terrible. Look, little girls really do have a hard time of it, but the last thing they need is more media telling them how the should feel about their bodies. Or, rather, more media emphasizing the importance of their bodies. How about we make books telling them they can be astronauts, presidents and engineers instead?
Oh, and the actual collection will be a book featuring 100 thin or fit women. Delizia plans on printing 10,000 copies and needs $20,000 for designers and the like. At press time, she has about $580 of her goal.
(via Jezebel)
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  • Candace

    I wish you could give people negative dollars on kickstarter.

  • Nikola

    Excuse me while I go eat my feelings about this…

    nom, nom, nom, so many feelings, nom, nom nom

    …and I’m back. See, the thing is…why do you have to vilify one body type to celebrate your own? Maybe we should just accept the bodies we were born with, and spread that acceptance to others? Maybe we should try a little compassion. Maybe we should realize that many factors influence how a person looks, and that many of those factors are out of the hands of the people who are affected by them.

    Look, if there was one perfect way to eat, to exercise, to be, then why wouldn’t we all do it? Why would we have new diets being debuted every day? Why would there be thousands of exercise and diet websites, all giving conflicting advice? Maybe because we just haven’t figured it out yet, and probably never will, because of genetic diversity. That same genetic diversity that helps prevent our species from becoming so inbred that we start devolving?

    Why can’t we start to realize that a person’s value is not based in their looks (which they have less control over) and more in their temperament, personality, skills, and abilities (all of which they can work on and improve)?

    We pretend that we are not our bodies, but a mind carried in a body vehicle. Maybe that makes it easier to callously judge someone on such a shallow basis for evaluation. But what if we start thinking of those bodies as being real and complete human beings, with good and bad traits, and feelings and thoughts that are influenced by others. Would that change how we treat others?

    My point is basically this:

    Humanity: We are all in this thing together, so stop being dicks to one another.

  • http://twitter.com/Tobi_Is_Fab Nerdy Lucy

    It’s like she lives in opposite-land.

  • kld2012

    she has a point. it is ridiculous that it is ok to talk shit on skinny people but not fat. drives me crazy sometimes. how bout everyone just gets over it and be happy with who you are

    • Nikola

      Um, no, she doesn’t have a point. It isn’t okay to ‘talk shit’ about ANYBODY.

      Also, I want to know what part of the world she is living in, because I didn’t know that people had stopped with the verbal abuse and fat-shaming for the larger folk. What magical utopia is this?

    • http://www.facebook.com/kate.rudolf Katie Sawyer

      Yeah, really! I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone talk shit on a skinny or fit person (man or woman)- at least in relation to their weight (personality or something else, well sure!) I hear all kinds of people say all kinds of horrid things about overweight/fat people…. What the hell is wrong with this woman!?

    • Cee

      She’s from Las Vegas, you know, the place that NEVER has a pool parties filled with mostly thin bikinied babes during the day and thin bodycon dressed ladies at night. I seriously question my body every time I go to Vegas.

  • Cee

    While I do hate the “real women have curves” campaign, (real women are all people who are and consider themselves women), I understand it in a sense. Its meant to empower usually heavier set women to believe they are worthy of all the things usually thinner women have, such as being called beautiful often, being photographed in a bathing suit without it being ridiculed, and basically being photographed under any circumstance without weight being a negative factor. But, it should not be said that only real women have curves. It should be called something else.

    In regards to this woman. This kind of reminds me of the whole reverse racism debate. When the usually maligned group attempts to stand up for itself, the privileged group cries foul and makes their own group to fight the “war” against them (see War on Christmas, White men groups).

    Also, you can take down this Kickstarter by reporting it.

  • Elizabeth

    Okay, Britton. Okay. I’ll bite. I will pledge to throw a dollar into your awful, toxic, body-shaming diaster of a project — if you can find just ONE person with a naturally thin body type who “feels like she [or he] has to be overweight to fit in.”

    Your move.

    • http://thegloss.com/ Ashley Cardiff

      Agreed.

  • http://twitter.com/SamiDan19 Sami Jankins

    Wait… 100 thin and fit women… isn’t that like every single beauty/fashion/health magazine out there? This is so backwards. I get that there is an obesity problem in America. I am not in the “average weight” category because of having to take a lot of prednisone (steroids) for my health. I’m curvy… I have a butt and boobs. Basically I can breath and function or I can be the appropriate weight. That’s my decision. My best friend is a twig (naturally and she eats burgers/custard/etc ALL THE TIME) and my older sister (who was a model as a child to young adult) was 89 lbs and 5’7 in high school (she was a runner… she did eat). If anything the thought that I should be thin tries to prevail in my thought process. I felt incredible shame not being a waif, but that’s not how everyone is meant to be. Try being in photos with twig-like people your whole life. However, I know that people have also made comments about them as well. Some people have a superb metabolism, some people don’t. Some people have health issues that contribute to not being of an ideal weight. I have a niece who is 6, and I never nitpick about my looks around her because I don’t want her to grow up with the kind of societal pressure to be perfect that we’ve all experienced. Why can’t we take all of the time we focus on weight, whether thin or not, and instead spend our time being GOOD PEOPLE and doing good things for others. At the end of the day you won’t be remembered in this world by the number on the scale or your jean size.

  • Larissa

    guys, we’re being so insensitive, don’t you remember how hard it was in high school when you were thin and athletic? And as for girls with perfect skin or perky C cups, just forget it, life was HELL for them!…..
    SAID NOBODY EVER.

  • Nat

    She kinda has a point. No one should be shamed… but I’m 16 and have never weighed over 115 pounds. People make fun of me for being skinny, or make backward comments. I constantly get called bony or weak. They assume I’m on some sort of diet and hate myself and that’s why I’m skinny. But I’m just naturally skinny. But if I called someone fat, hell would be raised against me. Being too skinny is not healthy, but neither is obesity. And while I’d never advocate shaming fat people or skinny one, I’m never going to blatantly tell an obese person to keep doing what their doing, just like I won’t tell an anorexic.
    And I’m from Vegas. So don’t hate, previous commentor.

  • Sunshine

    What an awful, narrow minded little person. If this project was to celebrate women of all shapes and sizes I would support it. But this? Disgusting.

  • MR

    I know it’s a dumb guy question, but yeah, why do women allow scary skinny to be so pushy? Push back.

  • kj

    Know what?! I would loooooooooove to be thin. 14-year-old me would have loved to be thin. As would 16-year-old, 20-year-old, and every me up until now. Including the present me who suffers through low carb diets to try and lose a couple.

    What a twat. Woman, the book you want to publish already exists: it’s called “Vogue”. And it’s sequel is called “Sports Illustrated: Swimsuit Edition.” And we see dozens of iterations of this book every month.

    Go fuck yourself.

    /drunken Kj rant

  • Lauren Lever

    Yeah this chick is bonkers, just google fitspo, I mean really.. Who doesn’t want to be fit?