You think women don’t end up in a friendzone? Women end up being friendzoned all the time.
There’s an interesting piece on TheFrisky today explaining the friendzone, which states:
So, the dreaded “friendzone” is a situation in which someone — almost always a dude — finds himself in a non-romantic, non-sexual friendship with someone he has romantic and/or sexual interest in…Guys (mostly self-described “nice guys”) are usually really pissed about it. Ladies who talk about it tend to respond with assertions to the effect that if you’re going to resent their friendship, then you’re not really that nice of a guy, which is pretty reasonable. It’s kind of a gross word.
It’s easy to understand why guys are frustrated when they find themselves in the situation that “friendzone” describes, though. Nothing about watching while someone you’d like to be dating goes out with other people is pleasant, and it’s even harder when you share enough emotional intimacy with that person for them to talk about their other relationships with you. Lots of people have been there — I certainly have — and it sucks. It’s really no way to live.
I don’t disagree with any of that – it is indeed a tough position to be in – but I do disagree with the notion that the person in a one sided relationship with someone who “doesn’t see them that way” is almost always a dude. Because this happens to women all the time.
Think about every girl you knew who took notes for some guy in high school or college. Or proofread their dumb – but hot – male friend’s papers. Or, as an adult, is helping men who are never going to be into them organize their lives, land jobs, and pursue other successful relationships. I guarantee you, you know at least one woman who is doing that to some extent.
You know why everyone’s favorite character in Les Miserables is Eponine? Eponine, who is clearly in love with a guy who likes her as a friend, and who responds by doing outlandish, crazy favors for him in the hopes that it will maybe make him like her and then ends up dead? It’s not just because she takes less than 700 years to die, which is more than you can say for most of the characters in the musical. It’s because nearly every woman relates to that on some level.
But you never hear women walking around muttering “I’m such a nice girl, why doesn’t he like me? Men only like bitches.”