While walking in the supermarket a couple weeks ago, I spotted a headline that made me do a double take. It was about Bethenny Frankel, whom I do not care for one bit, but has been going through a semi-highly publicized divorce with Jason Hoppy. Normally, I wouldn’t care at all about the state of her relationship, but in this case, I couldn’t help it; the headline stated that Frankel was left by Hoppy because he resented her for seeing more success than himself.
At first, I was irritated — how could somebody think such a stupid notion that the primary reason a man would divorce a woman is because she’s more wealthy, famous and respected than he is. Well, maybe not the “respected” part, but being well-known and rich can go a long way. And then I started thinking about how successful women have been told for, well, forever to be modest and never emasculate a man or outshine him. Why? Essentially for this very purpose: so his ego will remain intact and he won’t run home sobbing about how somebody built a bigger sandcastle next to his. But part of being a successful woman, in my opinion, is always building the better sandcastle regardless of what people think of it, nor how they feel about you because of it (as long as you’re not crushing theirs in order to do so). METAPHORS!
Anyway, according to “sources,” this was one of the main issues between Hoppy and Frankel. On an episode of her spinoff, Bethenny Ever After, he even states, “You’re right. There has been a little resentment. I’m trying to be [happy] but I feel like I’m being judged for the fact that I didn’t make it,” and on another, “As a man, I never thought I’d be in a situation where my wife, financially, was this successful.”
First of all,
Second, and very sadly, amid the numerous pieces I read about their relationship, it seems that many acknowledge Frankel’s desire to fix their relationship and attempts to do so by taking off time from her busy schedule, it seems that she’s still being blamed for their split because, um, she should’ve just avoided being so successful in the first place…or something. After all, men > money > self-fulfillment.