I was a little drunk when I asked this on a date last year. I had been discussing how often people get STD checked and then this little gem popped out. I was joking, but my tone was more ambiguous than I realized. My companion's response was a combination of confused and taken aback, but he also muttered, "Um, I get tested enough, I guess." I took a cab home.
Granted, it's a valid question if you plan on sleeping with somebody, but it's also probably not a great idea to say on your first date unless that will definitely occur. Plus, it's sort of a weird thing to say during dinner because it makes the expectation of sex increase considerably while also lowering any sort of romantic tension.
This is something to admit at a later date, sure, but it's a little awkward when you meet somebody and then he or she knows your birthday, favorite bands and best friend's name. We all occasionally Facebook stalk, but it's best to avoid discussing that before you've banged.
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I was a little drunk when I asked this on a date last year. I had been discussing how often people get STD checked and then this little gem popped out. I was joking, but my tone was more ambiguous than I realized. My companion's response was a combination of confused and taken aback, but he also muttered, "Um, I get tested enough, I guess." I took a cab home.
Granted, it's a valid question if you plan on sleeping with somebody, but it's also probably not a great idea to say on your first date unless that will definitely occur. Plus, it's sort of a weird thing to say during dinner because it makes the expectation of sex increase considerably while also lowering any sort of romantic tension.
I know this seems like a good idea, but nearly every man and woman I know hates being called cute unless they've been with somebody long enough to already know there's actual sexual attraction. When I hear "cute," I feel like a kitten and -- for once -- not in a good way.
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To be fair, I definitely do not like one (and sometimes more) of my exes. Occasionally on people's dates, exes come up because they were, at some point, a big part of our lives and wind up being included in information on how we came to be the ways we are now. But discussing them on a first date is never a good idea because:
1) It makes you look like an asshole.
2) Nobody wants to hear about your fucking ex.
Therefore, I am trying to learn to shut up about mine, even the ones that really pissed me off.
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I've asked this for no reason other than I could think of nothing else to say. There was a good five seconds of silence before I received a response of, "Um, I haven't really thought about it, but uh, not for a while." I had no intention of being in a relationship with this person, and I certainly didn't want to get married to him, but I genuinely could not think of anything else to say. It was uncomfortable, as discussing marriage will almost always be on a first date except in your grandparents' love story where they got engaged within like 72 hours of meeting. Outside of that, it really doesn't happen too often.
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Yes, being a mom is one of my primary goals in life, but when it comes to bringing it up on a first date, it usually doesn't read as, "I can't wait to have kids" so much as "I can't wait to have kids with you." And that is pretty much always uncomfortable.
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I guess this isn't something that you say, per se, but it isn't a good idea for a first date. Not only does the person have absolutely no idea how to comfort you -- they just met you, remember? -- it's just brings down the mood no matter what. And you'll never live it down, should you wind up in a relationship with that person.
In case you were wondering, yes, I've done this. More than once. Not particularly hard, but it's happened and it was weird.
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Somebody verbatim said this to me on a first date. There was no second date. In a way, I guess I'm a little glad he did because I'm pretty sure it would've sucked to find that little fact out somewhere down the road.
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Again, a verbatim quote from somebody I went on a date with. And again, I am kind of glad he said it because it allowed me to quickly rule him out, as he sympathized with Todd Akin. I think he kind of knew I would disagree and just wanted to argue about something.
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I was out with this guy whom I had known for a while, but we had never been single at the same time so for about a year, we just sort of flirted. He seemed like a nice fellow with good manners, but the first time we actually went out together, he looked at me for a few seconds and said, "You're pretty, but you'd be so much prettier if you dyed your hair brown."
At the time, my hair was still entirely blue, and this had long been my favorite thing about my appearance (which he knew). But even if it hadn't been, it's just not really appropriate to comment on somebody else's looks, even/especially in a backhanded complimentary way.
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This is one of the few on this list that I have not said; I'm neurotic, not a total douchebag (I think?). Expecting somebody else to pay for you is rude. Sometimes, people will insist on paying, which is all very sweet and kind, but expecting them to do so is just plain entitled. Bring money and assume that you'll be splitting the check.
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