I Miss My _____: The Best Ways To Deal With Homesickness


It feels big and you feel empty and everyone is everywhere else.

For what may be the hundredth time I’ve mentioned it over the past month, I have moved. You all are likely aware of this now unless you purposefully skip over my articles involving moving tales (in which case you probably aren’t reading this one, either), but I relocated once more across the country to Portland from New York. My mother and father and family are still all on the East Coast, however, and I miss them very, very much. In fact, my homesickness has been getting the best of me lately and leading to an unintentional avoidance of some social situations, though I swear I am making friends so I promise my “I MISS STUFF” tone will subside soon enough.

Having gone to college 2,500 miles away from home, I remember the feeling of leaving for the first time. Oddly enough, I only really cried about missing my dog and Wegmans (please tell me somebody knows what I’m talking about here, so um, not hi again). But as time went on, I realized just how much I missed my mother, my high school friends and even my own lumpy, teensy, coil-mattress twin bed. And now, I’m re-experiencing that longing and remembering why moving is hard for reasons other than the practical ones like money and time; it’s stressful because you wind up missing everybody eventually, often all at once.

As per usual, I’ve accumulated a few tips on how to deal with homesickness for those of you who may be about to attend college, presenting freaking out about moving or studying abroad, or any 14-year-old who is reading this for some reason and is about to attend camp. If you are 14, ignore the racy stuff, please. If you are 14, also know that I am a little jealous of you because when I was 14, I didn’t go to camp and only went on stupid, uninformative websites where everybody was called “girlfriend”. So, whether you’re missing your mom, dog, dad, friends, boyfriend, girlfriend and anybody else or all of the above, here are a few ways to deal via somebody who still cries just thinking about the long-distance phone commercials.

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    • Lauren

      One of my college roommates grew up in New York and was constantly lamenting how much she missed Wegmans. She would frequently bring back stocks of their products after visiting home. I understand the Wegmans love and I know you are definitely not alone on that one!

    • CMJ

      I listen to a lot of music that reminds me of my home state and I try to catch sporting events with my teams or in my state that are on national TV. It’s not the best…but it helps.

    • Eileen

      I missed Wegmans SO MUCH when I went to college. Nothing against Safeway, and Whole Foods has an excellent selection of cheese/soups, but…not the same.

    • http://twitter.com/JenAshleyWright Jennifer Wright

      I saw the Daenerys slide (who also moved and had to meet new people!) and for a second I thought that one answer was going to be “birth dragons” and then it took me two more seconds to realize that is not a real option.

    • ascholarsparrot

      Love. This. I moved straight from college to the other side of the country and for the first three months I cried every other night, and wish I’d had this list. Fast forward six years and I’m relocating to yet another corner of the country with my boyfriend. One piece of advice – keep a journal. It’s a good way to vent without turning every phone/Skype conversation into a homesick-fest. Then, once you’re feeling more settled, you can look back at it and see how far you’ve come.

      And don’t even get me started on how much I’m going to miss Publix…..