Are Ben Affleck And Jennifer Garner Breaking Up?

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So, Ben Affleck gave a very moving Oscar speech when Argo won the Best Picture Academy Award. During that speech he cried, and also maybe implied that his marriage was breaking up? People are having all kinds of feelings about it! I think maybe part of those feelings are due to the fact that people really want Ben Affleck to be single.

In any event, after a very moving introduction, in which he thanked the country of Canada, Ben Affleck said that:

I want to thank my wife who I don’t usually associate with Iran. I want to thank you for working on our marriage for 10 Christmases. It’s good. It is work but it’s the best kind of work and there’s no one I’d rather work.

Look, honestly, whenever I hear people bitterly moan about how marriage is work, I think “maybe your marriage is just not a particularly happy marriage. Maybe this is a problem specific to you, and your marriage. Also, those people who tell me that “marriage is work” often to seem to get divorced, perhaps because they already have jobs, and having two seems taxing.

But! Ben Affleck also seemed very nervous, and trying to get through his speech very quickly, and Jennifer Garner was smiling. Perhaps this is all just making a mountain out of a mole hill.

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    • Anon

      Jennifer – Are you married?

    • Eileen

      He says a lot of awkward things about his family. I think he’s just actually kind of awkward.

    • Cee

      Aaaah. I did not see the Oscars, not one single part. But, upon reading this and reading most of his speeches (I’m not big on watching award shows), I just think he may have been nervous and Ben Affleck-y about it. I mean it is honest to say its not always simple after so many years. Was it the best platform to do share it? Probably not…but don’t you guys break up! I will lose so much faith!

    • CMJ

      I don’t “bitterly moan” about it, but marriage is work…but I think all relationships are “work.” I know there are things I do that irritate my husband (I leave my clothes EVERYWHERE) and vice versa. We both work to be loving, caring, empathetic, supportive on a regular basis because nothing is perfumes and roses every day. It’s not always easy to be those things when I have a bad day and I don’t want to go home and take all that shit out on him…so yeah, sometimes I have to “work” in my marriage but I don’t have a problem with it.

    • EKW2188

      Mountains out of mole hills…

    • Alexis H

      I don’t get marriage trouble out of this at all. Like, AT ALL.

      Every marriage (or even long-term relationship) inevitably has ups and downs and it’s no big deal. I think he’s acknowledging that they always make the best of things. If anything, his comment makes me think they’re in pretty great shape.

      • CMJ

        I thought the same thing.

    • anna

      yeah i didn’t get marital strife at all. realtionships ARE work.

    • MR

      So anyways Matt Damon writes this script and carries his neighborhood buddy (Ben) to prime time with him: Good Will Hunting. Ben then stumbles through every film-to-act-in put in front of him and falls flat on his face. But then Jennifer chooses to save him.

      • Shannon

        Yes, because The Odd Life of Timothy Green probably saved their fiscal year after that whole Argo flop. Shut up…you’re ignorant.

    • Cori

      Oh, it’s absolutely work, but here’s the thing, you can enjoy your work. Some of the time it’s hard, but that’s usually when you grow as a person and as a couple. The best things in life are always the ones you have to fight for, not the things that just get handed to you.

    • Wyette Urp

      I thought it was sweet and moving and sincere. Marriage is one of those things that can go sour very easily if one or both parties quit putting effort into maintaining intimacy, camaraderie and friendship. I saw it as his acknowledging that their marriage, due to schedules and being in the public eye, requires care and attention, and he’s grateful to have a partner who provides both.

    • http://www.facebook.com/rosalynn.gatewood Rosalynn Gatewood

      What I heard was a husband thanking his wife for being loving and patience while he was putting a lot of time into the film. Some times projects can become consuming. It takes a good partner to know this and let you work while they take care of everything else. Marriage is work! You work at it all the time. No matter how much you love a person you still have to do the work.

    • Grace

      Is this for real? It can’t be. Who has ever said marriage, let alone a marriage with two working parents and three young kids, isn’t work? His statements have actually been praised for reflecting real-life marriage, not Hollywood perfection (which almost always ends in a break-up). This article seems so immature and I’m single and only 22.

    • TheDarkSister

      “whenever I hear people bitterly moan about how marriage is work, I think “maybe your marriage is just not a particularly happy marriage.”

      You must not be married then, because marriage or any committed relationship IS work. You don’t get married and then sit back and watch it from the sidelines. You’re in it 24/7 and your (and your partner’s) participation is required. No one is perfect and to expect other people to be always happy with their lives/relationships all the time is unrealistic and adolescent.

    • http://twitter.com/naFoohaW Pat

      What a completely moronic “article.” I want those two minutes of my life back.

    • twintosser

      its not a marriage if you dont fight and learn to deal with it and work it out. The latest divorce between Brolin and lane p*ssed me off, it had run its course? I guess thats Hollywood speak in its easier to run out and get someone new than stay at home and work on your problems together. This is why the marriages last abot 5 years and then they all run for someone younger. I think that the press needs to stop spinning the yarn that Affleck/Garner are in trouble, they are married and yes married people have to make it work together!

    • dawn t

      For you to say possibly think that marriage is not work is evidence that you are not married. People work at dating (looking nice, staying in shape, etc…) So, why does it seem strange to associate work with marriage? Raising children is work, balancing everyone’s schedules is work, grocery shopping, keeping the home in order, keeping your marriage alive in the midst of all the craziness is work, and yes, even vacations are work. I am about to celebrate my 25th anniversary with my husband (my only husband). We would have never reached this milestone if we did not work at it almost on a daily basis.

    • http://www.facebook.com/dbartle Donna Terrell Bartle

      I thought his comments proved just how madly in love he is with his wife. This article is absurd, imo.

    • Freedom1967

      who cares… someone will plug the hole…

    • cowanj316

      wow

    • Cracks me up

      The writers view is exactly why there is so much divorce in the world. As soon as a couple hits a rocky spot (which happens and is normal) they run for the hills because “marriage isn’t supposed to be work so this person must not be the one”….cracks me up. I’ve been married for 28 years..we have been thru so many ups and downs and many times wanted to throw in the towel..but we “work” on the issues and make our relationship stronger. Like the saying says “The stronger the wind..the stronger the tree”…A couple who goes into marriage expecting it to be all roses and butterflies forever is doomed from the beginning.

    • RaiRai

      Come on people , Marriage is very hard work. If anyone tells you different , they are lying. I have been married for 20 years, We worked on it every day.

    • Christine Falk

      Attention author who sounds twelve. Relationships are work and anyone who says that they are not hasnt been in a grown up (not my mom dropped us off at the movies)kind of relationship. What he said was real and very beautiful. A lot of respect for him..

    • LemonLime623

      This is adding Mount Fuji, Mount Kilamanjaro and and Mount Vesvius on top of Mount Everest. SERIOUSLY????? I mean, there ARE marriages out there in Hollywood that make it work!! Sure, they’re not common, but they do work out. So don’t say that. They’re an awesome couple that work hard on their marriage. Some couples and the word divorce shouldn’t come anywhere close, and this is one of them.

    • cynthia butts

      he was just saying what is a fact, marriage is not about just romance and sex, that is the dating phase. the media is indeed making a mountain out of a mole hill.

    • smc

      Marriage isn’t hard work if it only lasts a couple of years.

    • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_L4ZET7H7KOG7RWYUF4NIAZYEMM Robert

      Yeah, “perhaps” you are.

      In a related item, journalism is dead in America.
      Congratulations to all.

    • http://twitter.com/lorileeky Lori Lee

      Just look at the way they look at each other in that pic and you can see the love…