10 Signs He Actually Loves Your Guts Even Though He Can’t Say It

Yes, this is how some men say "I love you."

Yes, this is how some men say “I love you.”

Who’s ready for a Sex and the City reference on this Friday morning? Oh, I am! Cool; let’s proceed.

So, there was that episode where Carrie was wondering if Big loved her. Shocking, right? The games with those two! They were preparing for a night out and Big gave her this god awful swan purse by Judith Leiber. Carrie, in all her “wondering,” wondered if Big could love her based on this gift he gave her. Was this his way of saying he loved her? Did he not know her at all? Who gives someone a fucking swan purse anyway?

Carrie and Big get in a fight at a party, she goes home with the waiter who, of course, is a famous artist downtown because they always are, and after this drama Big is forced to say what Carrie had been waiting for:

“Well, I fucking love you. All right? You know I do. But it’s just a tough thing for me to say because it always seems to get me in trouble… when I say it, OK?”

Then they break up a million times, the series ends, and two really bad movies follow.

For some men, especially those who are closed off emotionally, saying “I love you,” is one of the most difficult things in the world. Even if they’re head over heels for you, saying the actual words out loud, putting that phrase into the universe is both a risk and solidification that the relationship is real and more than just passing fling.

How do you know? Here are some signs that he’s in it to win it.

Photo: HBO

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    • Jenny

      I about fell out of my chair when I saw this.

      Where does that pickle delivery image come from? 5 years and 2 jobs ago I received an email from a coworker that had this image as his signature (except for the “I’ve got your pickle right here” quote). It was his signature for about a week. I never figured out where it came from, why he had it, and what possessed him to put it as his email signature for his work email.

      That pickle delivery man has haunted my dreams!

    • gemma

      this is pretty accurate, unlike most “he loves you” articles.
      my fiancee, when we first fell in looovvveee would give me presents constantly. not nice presents. like, wildflowers with dirt still attached to the bottom. cheap bracelets with a broken clasp he found in a parking lot. sea horse keychains. but he was so sweet in the way he presented them, running around the room “i got you this! here.” with such a hopeful look i realized how in love we were

      • Cate

        This is seriously one of the most adorable things I’ve ever heard.

    • Drlove1990

      Well, I must rate this article high. Though not that all the points made here are all fantastic but the point on gift is really very true. When a man loves you, he goes wide buying gifts that may not seem meaningful to you. The crazy nature of his love for you can even make him never to know what to buy. No matter how small that gift may seem, he will always provide a means of presenting it in a very romantic way..
      Thanks for such a nice article. I also wrote something on this which I titled 34 signs he loves you: you readers can check it out here: http://www.trueloverelationship-advice.com/2012/06/34-signs-that-he-loves-you.html#.
      Can we exchange link? I think my readers will like to visit your site.