• Mon, Mar 4 2013

Is Masturbation Destroying Your Lovelife?

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About to masturbate? Drop that vibrator right this instant, ladies.* Your lovelife is in danger! Your relationship will fail! I SAID STOP REACHING DOWN YOUR GODDAMN PANTS, YOU HORNY LUSH.

According to a survey done by Morningside Recovery in Newport Beach, CA, with SurveyMonkey of over 1100 men and women aged 21 – 35 (63% being women), masturbating a whole lot can detrimentally affect your relationship. The collection of questions, artfully titled “Excessive Masturbation: Do you have a Hand up on the Average American?”, yielded somewhat surprising responses. For example, 20.4% of people masturbate at least three or more times a day. Question: Where do you people find the time? (Answer: Sam, you make the time.) However, it also included less cheery numbers:

* 79.6% masturbate 0-2 times per day; 15.2% 3-5 times a day; 3.8% 6-10 times; and only 1.4% masturbate more than 10 times a day
* 48% believe that their masturbation frequency is below average; 45.4% said frequency is average; and 6% believe that their masturbation frequency is above average
* 45.4% either agreed that masturbating can cause problems in their relationships; while 29.3% neither agreed or disagreed and the rest of the participants disagreed
* 18.3% are either extremely or very ashamed of their masturbating habits; 23.8% are either slightly or somewhat ashamed and the 57.8% are not ashamed at all

Nearly half of these respondents were ashamed of their masturbating habits? I am bummed out by that. Bummed out. Of course, I wonder how much of that shame is because of how they were raised (and therefore, a preexisting mindset) and how much of it is because masturbating is actually damaging their career, relationships and life.

Mary Helen Beatificato, CEO of Morningside Recovery, emphasized the importance of such research:

“It is crucial to get an accurate view of how America views and treats excessive Masturbation. This survey helps demonstrate the need to treat those who not only suffer from the shame of excessive masturbation, but to emphasize tolerance, civility and respect from those individuals who they interact with on a daily basis.”

Unfortunately, most addiction holds a significant stigma — particularly sex or sex-related addictions, which many people feel are choices completely within the sufferers power to stop. Dr. Waterman stated she has plans to design a program specifically directed towards assisting those dealing with masturbation addiction in their pursuit of recovery, so hopefully that will be a solid first step towards change.

To me, masturbating is a hugely important thing that nearly everybody should try at least once. Granted, I don’t believe that anybody should feel obligated to if the idea or act makes them genuinely uncomfortable, but I also think some people can benefit immensely from it. Not only do you get to explore your own body and determine what feels great for yourself, you also get to figure out what’s good for any future partners you may have to do.

However, excessive masturbation can obviously put your relationships, work and self at risk. Whether you feel it necessary to do in public places — thus opening up the potential for being arrested as a sex offender — or you simply stop being interested in sex with whomever you’re with, it can become less about feeling good and more about dependence. For those who suffer from it, though, this survey may help them feel hopeful for a future in which they can seek improved, proper and specialized treatment regarding their issue. And, at the very least, they won’t feel so alone in it.

*Don’t really do this. Vibrators can get expensive and are frustrating to try and fix yourself. In fact, just go right ahead and masturbate. I’m not judging you.

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  • abcooa

    w w w l u c k y g r i p c 0 m

  • Mr. Anderson

    3 times a day…That is about average for me.

  • Fear fighter

    Hehehehe….knot in the lease…..not in the least….;)