• Mon, Mar 18 - 1:50 pm ET

Do You Think Girls Season Two Finale Solidified Delusional Expectations Of Love?

Adam saves the day -- shirtless.

Adam saves the day — shirtless.

Last night was the season two finale of Girls. If you’ve been watching the HBO series from the beginning you probably got a bit emotional, as things became a little too “perfect” in the final moments. Or maybe you became angry, because perfection can have that effect on people.

SPOILER ALERT.

We watched Marnie and Charlie come full circle, Shosh realize that maybe Ray isn’t a keeper for someone like her, and the most intense and heart-wrenching scene where the forever-shirtless Adam raced through the Brooklyn streets to get to his beloved and equally fucked-up Hannah. It was in those last few moments, although you may or may not have cheered on Adam’s modern-day attempt at chivalry, that you probably asked yourself: “Are you fucking kidding me? That’s not how life works!” You also may have cried. I cried.

But as I watched Adam run with Hannah on iPhone FaceTime in his hand to her apartment, coddling her like the wounded bird she is, I thought of all the other moments in television and literature where the male lead runs after the female lead. When he kicked in her locked door, I thought about the grand gestures that have been shoved down our throats in the media from the moment we were first put in front of the TV.

Typical: Guy and girl break-up, realize they’re meant to be because of some epiphany that their brokenness is compatible, and guy chases after the girl… where he promptly picks her up into his arms and the happy ending stamp of approval is set in stone before the credits roll. It seemed no different than in Sex and the City, when Big ran all the way to Paris to tell Carrie he “fucking” loved her. Girls, last night, became just like everyone else.

As a show that was supposed to be so “realistic” in the way it portrayed these four women in Greenpoint, their struggles with early adulthood and the endless awkward sex seasons, it was a disappointing ending. Yes, it was charming and what most girls dream will happen to them at some point — that whole chasing thing — but it felt as though Girls succumbed to that conventional ending that appeals more to the masses than to those who respect an ending that doesn’t fall under the guise of expected.

I guess I had hoped for more, something a bit less sugary-sweet and final; or maybe I’m just bitter because I’m still waiting for the chase scene to happen in my life.

We don’t know what season three of Girls will bring us, so maybe it’s a bit too soon to be using the word “final.” But if this is how season two came to an end, the end of the series, when we get there, can’t be much different. I get that in the real world where chase scenes don’t happen, to watch one play out on television is both dreamy and even, dare I say, thrilling. I just think that Adam being hit by truck is far more plausible, as he did at the end of season one, than what we witnessed last night. The last thing we need is another show that contributes the delusion so many have about what love is and what it means to be in love.

I guess we just might need Adam to be hit by a truck again in order to feel truly satisfied; because that’s far more likely than a shirtless man running through the streets to get to his wonky love.

What do you guys think of last night’s show?

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  • http://blisstree.com/ Carrie Murphy

    I was really disappointed in this episode. The perfect little Marnie-Charlie thing, too? No. Would not happen. Not ok. I feel sure there’s more trouble to come for both couples, but I don’t watch Girls to see a dude doing a grand gesture, running shirtless on the street to swoop up a girl in his arms. That’s why I watch romantic comedies (of which I know Lena Dunham is a huge devotee). I could have bought that maybe Adam and Hannah would get back together in this episode, but not with all that swoony music and him as her savior. Couldn’t he have just come over to her apartment? I think that maybe the writers think they set it up to make sense both of their characters, but even those two totally-off-the-wall people wouldn’t have had something like ACTUALLY happen between them. It was just too much. I was really, really liking this season, too, so I’m sad that everything got wrapped up in a little bow (admittedly a fucking haphazard bow, but still)

  • pattya

    maybe it will be like the whole season bobby dreamed on dallas. so we really see what happened on the first episode of the season three. i have faith in lena.

    • Ash

      Or maybe (hopefully) it was the book Hannah had to write in one day.

    • Amanda Chatel

      Oooh! I like that idea… books usually do have that “chasing” scene!

    • http://twitter.com/SamiDan19 Sami Jankins

      And the guy had told her to “make up something”…

    • Amanda Chatel

      Shit! You’re right! I love/hate you all so much right now.

  • Gina

    I, too, was disappointed. Very much. Marnie and Charlie? Yeah, I expected Charlie to say “That’s all I ever wanted to hear… back a year ago. Now I’ve moved on.”. But then he says he always loved her and it will always be her? Blegh. And also: Haven’t I seen this scene and heard these words in at least two dozen romantic comedies?
    Adam and Hannah… I’ve grown to dislike self-involved Hannah so much. Poor little woe-is-me-Hannah. Ugh, give me a break. But here comes the hero who digs her bullshit. (I understand psychological problems, I too am too self-involved sometimes, but she just takes it sooo sooo far)
    And could Adam’s rescue have been any more cliché? Really dude, you have to break the door and then swoop her in your arms all while being shirtless?
    I feel maybe I’m understanding the episode wrong and this was just supposed to be really really ironic? I don’t know.
    I loved how Shoshanna broke up with Ray though and how she went for the blonde guy at the bar. Go Shosh!

    • jacaline

      RIGHT? I was so ready for Charlie to just end that shit right there, BUT NO! I loved loved loved when Laird told Hannah just how shitty she is. I need more of that because I, like you, CANNOT STAND HER. I’ve never felt less sympathetic, and everything that has happened to her this past season that I am supposed to feel badly for, I DON’T. I laugh because she is a terrible and annoying person who, let’s face it, kind of deserves it.

    • Amanda Chatel

      Yeah, Laird told her what he thought of her, but it was so awkward how it didn’t even register in her self-involved brain as she laid there and gave the weakest apology of all time. Ugh.

    • jacaline

      Which is, sadly, pretty much what she does every time someone tells her just how shitty she is. Hannah makes me hate Lena, because I’ve always felt that it was art imitating life and don’t know enough (or much of anything) about her to say otherwise.

    • Amanda Chatel

      I totally agree with you. There are so many parallels between Hannah and Lena as it is, but I like to think that maybe Lena is aware of her selfishness and plays it up in Hannah.

    • jacaline

      Good lord I hope so! I can’t imagine someone could write such a shitty character and actually believe its delusions too. Hopefully this isn’t just wishful thinking….

    • Amanda Chatel

      Well, hipsters are all into irony, so maybe it *was* supposed to be ironic?

  • CG

    I feel like everyone is underestimating how dramatic 20-somethings can be…It really didn’t feel that unrealistic to me. Last season ended with a wedding and look how that turned out…I’m sure next season the show will turn back to the miserable show you love to hate.

  • Sabrina

    Ok… get ready to hate me. But I have, on two separate occasions, experienced the grand gesture of a guy running uphill through the rain and showing up at my door to beg forgiveness or whatever. I know, I know. This sounds like a brag, but it’s not. Just saying that sometimes 20-somethings are hella dramatic and actually do shit they’ve seen in the movies. However! This does not mean they will end up together because those guys and I are no longer. So there can be moments of the grand gesture, but that doesn’t mean the relationship is forever.

    • Amanda Chatel

      Fine! Agreed. Swede pulled that fucking shit a few times (no running, but showing up at my apt)… and now look at us? I’m in Paris dating a French artist and he’s in Brooklyn dating a gal 10 years younger than me who looks like a dental hygienist from 1989.

      So I don’t hate you… and if someone else does, I’ll crack skulls. xo.

    • Nancy

      Please describe what a dental hygienist from 1989 looks like!

    • Amanda Chatel

      Well… she has faux blonde hair… not good blonde, but straw blonde. She wears it in a high pony tail with “puffed” high bangs to match. She likes to rock large plastic earrings of varying colors that match her “whacky” socks, and despite the office’s professional dress code, she’s often wearing an off-the-shoulder baggy white sweater that she picked up at a Fashion Bug. She can be found on Saturdays in her high-wasted acid-washed jeans rocking out to Tiffany at some hipster bar in Brooklyn, while consuming mass amounts of PBR…

      Yes; I think I nailed it.

    • Nancy

      Wow!! Yeah, I think ‘dental hygienist’ from 1989 is the perfect way to describe her! I call them the DJ Tanner bangs

  • http://twitter.com/KathrynDyan Katy Hearne

    I have so many problems with the finale. I don’t hate that Marnie & Charlie got back together, because they are (while the prettiest) the most boring characters. However, if the money wasn’t important to her why did she bring it up? Are they trying to make her unlikable? I think they’re trying to make her unlikable.
    The Shoshana bit was pretty believable- and relatable to me since the man I lost my virginity was also too old for me & a bit of a loser. That bitch needs to live. Ugh, I cringed at their spoon sex because who hasn’t been there with the “dude just finish”, but it takes guts to just say it outloud!
    And, yes. I cried when Adam ran down the street to save his lady from self destruction, but no. That doesn’t happen with most men like him. It just doesn’t. I’m not dismissing romance but on such a dramatic scale. C’mon. It was too halmark. It was hipster halmark.
    What is believable is Jessa. My late college & immediate post college years, I had a lot friends like her & sometimes you just didn’t hear from them for 6 months & then they just show up one day & want to go egg a Buffalo Exchange.
    Season 3 has some redeeming to do

  • http://twitter.com/chloewrites Chloe Walker

    I must be the only one who found the Adam running scene completely believable and in-character.

    Adam is a recovering alcoholic who uses big, dumb, often dangerous or semi-violent gestures and actions as a substitute for alcohol in that they mask his feelings of being a fuck-up and give him something to focus on for an hour or two, and, usually, work off some physical energy. He’d already been smashing up his apartment in a fit of self-hatred so he was primed for a run through the city, and he acts so impulsively all the time that it was nothing for him to run out shirtless (and shoeless?), leaving his door wide open.

    Hannah is a textbook narcissist and being ‘rescued’ played into her belief that she is the centre of the universe.

    So while it may have been set up as a classic romantic ending, they don’t necessarily have an emotional connection to go with it – it’s just that their dysfunctions neatly dovetail into something that resembles, from the outside, a ‘relationship’. They are both completely self-involved and lacking in empathy (although Adam has flashes of self-awareness, hence the self-hatred) and have become codependent as a means of avoiding dealing with their issues. With other people their dysfunctions are exposed; with each other they can pretend to be normal.

    I think it’s way too simple to dismiss that scene as a typical Hollywood ending.

    The Marnie and Charlie thing, on the other hand – that’s disgusting. I was starting to like Charlie.

  • Nancy

    I felt like the Marnie-Charlie relationship is either a)going to be totally different or b)more likely, will be exactly the same and season 3 will have Marnie breaking his heart again. I hope it’s different this time, that Charlie won’t put up with Marnie’s crap and so they end up being more honest with each other and keep having hot sex! For a while, anyway. Hannah and Adam will probably work for a while, and I think running to her is more dramatic than real life but then again, so are Adam and Hannah. I HATED Hannah when she rolled over and said ‘I’m too weak to fight you off this time” but then loved when her neighbour called her out on being self-involved! Hilarious.

  • Elle

    I disagree. I don’t think Girls became ‘like everyone else’. There are always those moments in life, even if the person you’re having them with doesn’t fit you/shouldn’t be with you or you’re better off without them. Is Adam a great guy? Does he belong with Hannah because he makes her life healthy and happy? No, no and no. But I have learned that, sometimes, even crappy people can pick you up. Even crappy people who you have no reason to love at all, make you want to love them in these moments of blind ‘non-crappy-ness’. And its wonderful when it happens and then terrible.

    Because no matter how many times Adam scoops Hannah up (or how many times SHE helps HIM with something), they probably won’t work out. And that’s life. It give you beautiful things with the caveat that sometimes you don’t deserve them/sometimes you don’t need them/and sometimes you want them so badly that you’ll take whatever you can get.

    The story doesn’t end with a kiss and what happens in the next season, I’m sure, will not give us anything wrapped up in a neat, little bow.

  • Belle

    Sadly, I’m pretty sure I was the only one who was thinking, “God that’s going to be so expensive to fix. She’s never going to get her deposit back”, when Adam broke down her door.

    Sigh.