Cathryn Berarovich is something of a renaissance sex worker; she was until recently employed as a stripper but has held numerous interesting jobs in the industry (and she’s currently an excellent columnist on this very website). Each week, she shares her stories in Harlotry.
A lot of people have asked me why, if I love my career so much, I keep leaving it and then returning. The assumption is that if I love sex work so much, I’d never need a break, but that’s simply not true.
There are a lot of reasons why I keep leaving, the main one being that–although I do truly love my work–it can be incredibly exhausting. I am not the most social person, and something like sex work (requiring a great deal of human interaction) is a huge drain on my emotional and mental resources. I need a lot of space, and I am fortunate in that sex work allows me to earn enough money that I can take the space I need when I need it.
I’ve been a sex worker of some variety for nearly five years. In that time I’ve taken a prolonged leave of absence from the industry three different times and for three different reasons. After each of these vacations, I’ve followed the siren call of the industry and gone back. The bottom line is that I love my work truly, madly, and deeply, and while there have been jobs within the industry that I’ve hated–whether because the job itself is not a good fit for me, or because the working conditions themselves were hostile–I’ve never begun to comprehend how someone could hate the industry as a whole.