• Thu, Apr 11 2013

Girl Expelled From School For Sending Sext Shared By Lacrosse Team, Lacrosse Team Goes Unpunished

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Clearly, nobody has yet listened to any of the advice for defeating rape culture that I posted yesterday.

A 16-year-old girl in Fairfax, Virginia has been “asked to leave” (i.e. expelled from) Catholic prep school Paul VI after a topless photo she sent to a male friend got shared around by everyone on the lacrosse team. Meanwhile, the boys on the lacrosse team received no punishment. Come again?

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According to Jezebel, it all started when a lacrosse player named “Jason” (not his real name) dared his female friend Alexis to send him a topless photo. She did it, as a joke. (And maybe also as flirting?) Jason showed the photo to one of his friends, who quickly sent it to everyone on the lacrosse team. The omniscient, all-seeing eye of the administration found out, and soon enough, everyone involved was called before the authorities.

According to Alexis, Dean of Students Patrick McGroarty (is it just me or is that a terrifying name for an authority figure?) called her behavior “outrageous…especially since she wasn’t dating any of the boys.” As everyone knows, it’s only okay to send sexts to people you intend to have sex with. DON’T BE A TEASE, KIDS.

While one might have reasonably expected the school administration to use this as an opportunity to teach everyone involved about the dangers of irresponsibly wielded technology, they decided instead to use it as a chance to teach them that female sexuality is bad and evil, and any time something like this happens, it is solely the girl’s fault:

The next week, Alexis, her parents, a handful of teachers, McGroarty and the principal, Virginia Colwell, had a meeting in which Alexis was asked if she knew what pornography was and whether she felt she had “harassed” Jason and Peter. Alexis said she found the questions complicated and was criticized for not answering them correctly, including one about “what justice” she felt the boys should receive; Alexis and her parents assumed the administration was referring to Jason and Peter’s punishment, but they actually “wanted to know what I should do to make them feel better if they were distraught,” Alexis said.

In the end, they expelled only the girl, for being evil and making all those poor, innocent boys share her boobie pic around like bubble gum. The boys received no punishment, as school authorities claimed not to believe Alexis when she said she hadn’t initially sent it as a mass text, even though anyone with half a brain (and access to the kids’ cell phones?) can see that’s what happened. High school girls do not generally sit around thinking up ways to harass the whole lacrosse team at once with their underage boobs. So really, Alexis was betrayed twice: first by her friend, and then by the school that was supposed to have her best interests in mind.

Alexis’ mother said as much in a letter to the superintendent:

Perhaps the biggest problem I have is that there was no compassion shown to my daughter. She was never counseled by Father Kelly, or even asked her side of the story. Why weren’t the children brought in all together and asked what happened? Why were the boys called to the AD’s office with their coach while my daughter was in with the Dean of Students? Why did the AD tell the boys that Alexis wouldn’t be in trouble? Why didn’t the Dean of Students believe Alexis when she said that the boys were the ones who sent the photo to everyone?

Far be it from me to expect a Catholic school to abide by any sensible standards where teen sexuality is concerned, but JUST IN CASE THEY CARE ABOUT NOT RAISING RAPISTS: this is a glaring fucking example of exactly what I am talking about when I talk about rape culture. The idea that it is always the girl’s fault for giving it up when asked and never the boys’ fault (they just can’t help themselves!) send a clear message that women are supposed to be the gatekeepers of male desire, and anything men to do them is somehow their fault, whether the men are violating a woman’s trust by sharing her picture around, or violating her actual body with nonconsensual sexual contact. The sooner people make this connection, the sooner people will stop raising rapists, which I think everyone but the worst monsters will agree is an important goal. Does this go against your antiquated religious beliefs? Cool, hope you’re fine with raising rapists. I’d call it “an inconvenient truth,” but I’m not one of those people who finds it inconvenient to respect young women.

(Via Jezebel)

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  • Eileen

    Okay, so whether they asked for a picture or not, the girl should not have texted a nude photo of herself because she’s underage, and as (I THOUGHT) we’d had drilled into our heads, it’s not okay to circulate nude pictures of underage people, even if we are the underage person. So it’s legitimate to me that she’d get in trouble. However, the phone records should be pulled and every other person who received that photo should also get in trouble.

    Although in a hypothetical situation in which a woman sends unsolicited nude pictures to a man, yeah, I think she is harassing him. I got so upset during the Anthony Weiner scandal because all anyone wanted to say was either “He’s married, so it’s disgusting,” or “She’s over eighteen, so it’s okay,” when what I wanted to say was, “She was surprised and confused at this sexual picture he sent her, so he’s being a creep.” I doubt that’s what happened here, but for the record, I don’t think it’s okay if a woman does it, either.

    • coll

      Wrong, she didnt harrass anyone. She sent the picture to someone who asked for it and then he showed the picture to a friend and the friend sent it to everyone else. By your logic, it was “Jason” or “Jason’s friend” who harrassed the lacrosse team.

    • coll

      oops, didn’t read your last paragraph properly! sorry!

    • norf4

      No Eileen, it is you who is wrong. You blindly take the word of this young girl over the explanation provided by administration officials whose story states otherwise. Although we read she sent the sext to the boy who requested the pic in the first place; one must take responsibility for one’s actions. She was not coerced, she was not bullied, she was not in any way made to feel like it was a “do-or-die” situation.
      Should she have been expelled? No, I think not. But whether the boy asked for the pic or not is not what started this whole sorted affair; sending the pic is. As for Jason; he should be dealt with by Law Enforcement officials from Fairfax County Virginia for being in possession of, and distributing child pornography. As for the rest of the Lacrosse team? They should have learned a very important life-lesson.

    • JennyWren

      What on earth are you going on about? Eileen clearly stated she considers that the girl should be held responsible for disseminating the photo in the first place. But the boys who sent the text onwards should also be held accountable- basically, she’s saying exactly what you’re saying.

      I’m not even sure where you’re going with the middle paragraph, but if the boy requested the photo in the first place, it’s not really reasonable to assume he was “harassed” or “traumatized” by her response, which is what the school was suggesting (it hasn’t released a statement to any effect as yet). Certainly, he seems to have dealt with it adequately enough to send it on to others.

    • @Jenny

      So, by your logic, certainly anyone who is actually raped and tells people about it must have already dealt with it adequately, right? Please watch your words.

    • JennyWren

      That’s fairly obviously not what I said. If someone requests a sexual picture in writing, then shares that image with others, it’s not unreasonable to suggest they weren’t too bothered by it. If the boys had initially reported the girl for harassment that would be completely different- but there’s nothing in any reports to suggest that they did.

    • @Jenny

      The problem is no one can prove it was requested. The girl said it was a dare. Unless the boy also admits to that, it’s just he-said-she-said and they can’t assume anything about requests or whether or not he was traumatized.

    • HawaiiBill

      And innicent until proven guilty??? I guess that doesn’t apply to this school’s actions, or yours unless your post represents some thoughtless comments.

    • AlaskaBill

      How does innocent until proven guilty go against the school’s action of punishing the girl? They know she was guilty: the pictures were of her bare chest and she admitted to sending them. Her own admission is the proof.

      The only controversy is whether the boy is at fault for forwarding the pictures or whether she sent a mass text. They can’t forcefully get the phone records, so it’s just her word against his. There’s no way to prove he did anything. You could apply innocent until proven guilty here, but that would only reinforce the point of @c002eb39fa041e5fd12d78059152dc4e:disqus who says the boys shouldn’t be punished.

    • WieHalloThar

      Actually, they can forcefully get the phone records. We are talking about the distribution of child pornography.

    • cjvg

      They saw the phones (otherwise there would be no proof that the picture was send)
      Phones have a time stamp and a record of which phone number the text/ picture was send from!

      Ridiculous unsustainable argument!
      Even if they for some idiotic reason were incapable of checking all the phones after they saw the picture, i’m sure the parents were perfectly willing to provide the phone records!

    • cjvg

      If they can find the photo’s , they can find the preceding texts and who initiated the request!
      But hey don’t let logic get in the way of blaming the female

    • exx

      Well here is something you all are missing. WHERE THE HELL IS HER HEAD! Whether he asked for the picture or not, your don’t send it! That is the issue too many people are missing and that is why situations like this will never go away!

    • cjvg

      Wrong, he initiated the sequences of events and he escalated the situation by redistributing the picture without her consent or knowledge!
      She would not have send it, without him daring her, so he did initiate it!

      Yes she responded to his dare, but she most certainly did not initiate this!
      As for claiming that we blindly accept the girls word for it, you blindly accept the officials word (formed by what the boy said) and that in actuality never contradicted her story!

      The officials never contradicted her word, they just felt she was solely at fault for the actions of the boy!

    • http://profiles.google.com/kithogan Kit Hogan

      why would a teen girl send a naked pix of herself to ANYONE? is she stupid or a slut?

    • johnsmith9875

      She may have liked the guy, but unfortunately the guy was a bit immature.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/David-Whitson/100000159534920 David Whitson

      Both.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Kriste-Hobson/100000110120436 Kriste Hobson

      slut shaming…

      nice.

    • cjvg

      Why would a boy dare a girl to send naked pictures of herself to him and then send it around?
      Oh I forgot, boys will be boys, they are never at fault for their actions

    • Mark

      You all seem to be missing the main point here. The writer said it best: “While one might have reasonably expected the school administration to use this as an opportunity to teach everyone involved about the dangers of irresponsibly wielded technology…”. This could have been a good teaching experience for the all of the students involved. Expelling her was about as ridiculous as it gets.

    • cjvg

      So in a story describing the use and abuse of the trust of this girl in a young man, all you find of note is the hypothetical contention of a male that receives an unrequested sexual image from a female?

      You subsequently bolster (?) your righteous indignation with males abused that way by an illustration of a male doing said thing to a female?!
      Way to go, by ignoring the actual injustice done to a real girl for some unneeded indignation on behalf of a hypothetical male.

      He asked for it, he dared her and he basically was insinuating she was a coward if she did not do it (that is what a dare is) and he subsequently send it around to others without her consent or knowledge, but she is harassing him?!
      Women need to stop sending unrequested photo’s of themselves to men, Is that all you get out of this ?
      Read again, that is most certainly not what happened here!

      Unfortunately for your contentions, no males have been harmed, committed suicide, been expelled from school, harassed, or have ever even made a claim related to unrequested nude self pictures send to them by females!

  • Bailey

    teach your children to respect themselves enough not to send nude photos out! How hard is it? The responsibility is on the girl. Sorry, but if you are going to send out nude photos of yourself expect it to be sent out to people you might not want to see it. I talk to my 13 year old granddaughter about this all the time. Parents need to wake up! You think your little princess or prince would never do something like this, well they will!

    • JennyWren

      It’s undeniably foolish to text a nude photo to a teenaged boy. HOWEVER, the boys are still responsible for deciding to share it with everyone else. This “boys will be boys” attitude is appalling because it essentially gives guys carte blanche to take advantage of any vulnerability they perceive in someone, and moreover it’s incredibly insulting to suggest a boy of 16 is incapable of distinguishing between what’s right and what’s wrong. Maybe parents should wake up and give their sons a basic course in civil behavior too?

    • @Jenny

      Please keep in mind the response if a girl had shared a picture she received from a boy. The boy would have been labelled as disgusting and no one would have said anything about the girl’s decency.

    • JennyWren

      Yeah, I don’t actually believe this is true. I think there would be just as many people happy to step forward and declare that this girl was a skank and a liar etc.

    • @Jenny

      Just like the woman Anthony Weiner tweeted to were called skanks and liars and shamed out of their offices? Oh, wait…

    • JennyWren

      Difference is that they didn’t solicit the pictures and weren’t in positions of social responsibility. A better example would be the more recent incident where a CEO of a prominent company was fired after a woman attempted to blackmail him with sexy pictures he’d sent her. It was pretty unanimously decided that he had done nothing wrong, shouldn’t have been fired, and that she was in the wrong. Moreover, there even were precious few comments declaring he’d been “stupid” to send the pictures in the first place.

    • @Jenny

      1- At the end of the day, he was still the one that got fired.

      2- The difference is that she responded with malice. “Give me what I want or I will do xyz” is very different than kids sharing pictures in a locker-room. If you’re initially in the right and respond in a way that suggests otherwise, people are going to assume there was something else involved. That’s not a gender thing, just a matter of perception.

    • JennyWren

      Right. That company was wrong. So is the school.
      These boys may not have intended any explicit malice toward this girl, but their actions demonstrate a clear disregard for her feelings and consent. That’s not in the same league as blackmail, but it’s still bad social behavior and should be treated as such.

    • @Jenny

      Your response to my first point just indicates that you think the response was too harsh, which is fine. I’m not going to argue for or against the punishment itself (in either case), because that varies by what the company/school/entity is constrained by and what rules/laws they have to consider.

      “A clear disregard for her feelings and consent” just goes back to the idea that people talk. What girl consents to guys talking about how hot she is? What guy consents to a woman telling her girlfriends how good he is in bed? Bad social behavior is not something that can be punished unless it crosses a line.

    • http://profiles.google.com/elhoward El Howard

      Those receiving sexts are guilty of nothing. Those sending or forwarding them do deserve to be chastised. Those sending or forwarding obscene pictures of minors are guilty of distributing child pornography, even if it is a picture of themselves. The laws are intended to discourage the exploitation of children, but unfortunately the law makes no exceptions for children exploiting themselves.

  • America Joe

    I don’t believe this is a boy or girl issue. I think this is an overwhelming failure of parents and society to teach right and wrong. We have made it illegal or wrong for neighbors, teachers, police, or other people in authority positions (which for children is all adults) to teach, or scould others children. When I was growing up not that long ago a principal spanked you, a neighbor scoulded you, and in public all adults taught you right from wrong. Now kids are suing thier parents for being parents. Stop the non-sense and raise your kids to be compassionate people who know right from wrong and know they will be punished for doing wrong.

  • norf4

    The chuch is more fearful of the heavy-hand of government these days then the hand of G-d, so save your feminist viewpoint for then next manhating convention.

    • Eric Sun

      Save your “governnment is taking my religious rights” crap for the next CPAC

  • Really, Though?

    First, you can’t help receiving a text message. Once it’s sent, it’s sent. So you can’t really punish someone for receiving it, because they couldn’t have stopped it. The “all girls are victims and all victims are girls” attitude is nothing more than misandry (side note: spell check tried to correct it to misogynistic as I was typing because even dictionaries are programmed to think that it’s always the men that are against women).

    Second, did anyone force the girl to send the picture? The author herself concedes that the girl could have sent it to flirt with the boy. Unless there is proof that the girl was acting under duress and not sending pictures willingly, you can’t put the onus on the boy.

    Third, how exactly do you expect them to prove whether it was sent as a mass text or forwarded to everyone? You can’t just punish people if you feel like it or if “girls do not generally sit around thinking up ways to harass the whole lacrosse team,” because deans who have to deal with punishing students are usually dealing with students who are not following what students generally do and do not do. So they have to go with the evidence. And since deans are not police detectives, they can’t get a warrant and starting pulling phone records to see who sent what. So they have the word of one girl against the word of everyone else. And the evidence they have available to them may suck, but they can’t choose when to go outside of that evidence if they want to keep their jobs and avoid being called dictators.

    Fourth, claiming that the school is “raising rapists” is a little extreme. In no way is the school encouraging rape. Crying “rape” is easy because it’s a buzzword that generates a lot of attention, but if there isn’t actually any rape being promoted, it lessens the impact of the word and turns it into a joke. This, ironically, actually promotes rape culture, because it allows for something that should never be taken lightly to be thrown around all the time. Shame on the author for claiming to be a feminist and not realizing a point as basic as this.

    Finally, you really have to look at the situation holistically. If one of the boys had sent nude pictures to the girls’ lacrosse team, I have no doubt that there would be outrage against the boy, saying he was sexually harassing the girls. Oh how the girls can’t even go one day without this horrible male rape culture shoving a penis in their faces, critics would cry. People would argue for the boy to be punished but not the girls. To treat that case differently than this one is, in and of itself, sexist and promotes an atmosphere conducive to playing the victim in order to get out of trouble.

    • JennyWren

      It is really not that difficult to work out who’s sent what texts and to whom. Any halfway decent school would have worked with the parents (since teenagers generally aren’t paying for their own phones) to establish who was sending what. Wouldn’t have been difficult- the only reason this even came to the school’s attention seems to have been because another parent found out from her son what was going on. Apparently this administration preferred to blame a single individual for an incident which suggests that a large portion of their student body could do with a lecture on boundaries, privacy and basic manners.

    • @Jenny

      Working with the parents does not guarantee that the phone records are going to be given to the school officials. All the dean could have done is ask the parents for the records (like the first post says, the dean is not a cop and can’t get warrants). And if anyone suspected the blame falling on their child could result in expulsion or a serious punishment, I doubt the parents would have given the school their records.
      And I agree with the other points made in the OP.

    • JennyWren

      So your reasoning is that because the school might have encountered difficulty with the parents, they were totally justified in just pursuing a one-sided and arguably overblown course of action? I guess it might have been even easier for them not to discipline anyone, but apparently that wasn’t an option.

    • @Jenny

      No, that’s clearly not what anyone said, so please stop trying to twist words. If the school receives a complaint, they have to look into it. And, once they look into it, they have a responsibility to act if they find wrongdoing. They certainly found wrongdoing, and they had to go with the evidence they found. It sucks for the girl, because it was her word against the word of everyone else and there are constraints on the dean’s ability to get the phone records, but the administrators can’t pick and choose when to enforce school policy, or risk having someone complain and try to get them fire for favoritism.

      Not to mention, your position has shifted. First, the administrators were wrong because they were incompetent and failed to work to see who sent what, and now they’re wrong because they actively “pursued a one-sided and arguable overblown course of action.”

    • JennyWren

      No, it hasn’t shifted. No-one should have been expelled over this, in my opinion. They should have looked equally into the girl and the boys story’s to determine wrongdoing, and pursued a reasonable course of action accordingly. This does not appear to have happened- this is a case of “he said, she said,” and they seem to just automatically have gone with he said, because it was easier for them.

    • @Jenny

      You’re right in saying it’s a case of he-said-she-said, but they went with he said because there are more people repeating the story that he said and weren’t able to prove otherwise.

      And, I can’t tell what you were thinking, but based on the position laid out in those posts, your position did shift.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/David-Whitson/100000159534920 David Whitson

      No one should have been expelled over the matter of distribution of child pornography? Really ?

    • cjvg

      So if the parents are not willing to provide the proof of the extent of their child’s innocence’s or guilt, then the school should just go for the easy scape goat?!
      Never mind justice or honesty, we don’t need to learn the truth we can just punish an easy target?!
      This is a private school, they could have suspended them all, those are the rights of a private school!

    • Gmama

      The incident wouldn’t have happened if she never sent the text.

    • johnsmith9875

      its a privacy issue. she sent the text to one person, he violated her privacy by spreading it around.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/David-Whitson/100000159534920 David Whitson

      It is an issue of disseminating child pornography. Do you really think that should be trumped by the issue of “privacy” ?

    • cjvg

      He is the one disseminating child porn, but you feel the victim of the “pornographic” image should be held responsible for the image of her?!

    • cjvg

      False, It never would have happened if he did not dare her to send the text.
      Why should she be held solely responsible for him initiating (dare) and perpetuating (forwarding of the picture) the sequences of events, but thanks for playing

    • http://profiles.google.com/elhoward El Howard

      “A large portion of the student body”??? The only really guilty ones here are the person or persons that forwarded the pic to the whole team. Those who received it have done nothing wrong. As a general rule, I don’t allow nude pictures to be taken of me, and I certainly don’t send them to anyone else. Email and texts are stored on public servers with very poor security; one should have no expectation whatsoever that “private” messages will remain private. The rule is don’t transmit anything that you wouldn’t want anyone to see on the front page of tomorrow’s newspaper! Sexting isn’t flirting, it’s doing something stupid that will inevitably come back to haunt you. I tell my daughter to not tell her deepest secrets to even her best friends. Teens are at a vulnerable age where today’s trusted friends can quickly become tomorrow’s worst enemies.

      Technically, anyone who transmits nude pictures of an underage child is guilty of distributing child pornography. (I’d make an exception for normal “baby’s first bath” pics and the like, but the law recognizes no such exceptions.) Unfortunately, legally a person who takes a picture of themselves and sends it to a trusted friend is equally guilty. The school should use due diligence and punish anyone who sent the picture to anyone else. Be realistic; you’re going to be around for another 60 years or so… try not to do ANYTHING that would embarrass you in front of your grandchildren, because we live in an age where everything gets recorded and data never really ever goes away. Hidden cameras are everywhere, and it will only get worse in the near future when devices like Google glass become popular, and people start recording every second of their lives.

    • Bill

      Well spoken and to the exact point.

    • Bill

      It is quite obvious you came from a public school background and mentality. Private schools do not believe in keeping bad apples. Better to cut them out before the whole barrel full becomes rotten.

      Alexis deserves to be expelled for her bad decision. A 16 yr old knows better than to send a sexting pic. Jason for requesting the pic and showing it should be gone as well. Peter should be made to prove he did not pass it on. If he fails to prove by showing his cell phone records then Adios.

      As far as the Lacrosse team, seeing is not a crime but if you can prove they passed it on then Adios to each and every kid.

      I have told my kids for years that “everyday we wake up and have to make decisions all day long. From these decisions comes consequences, …some good….some bad….some short term… some long term….think before you act.”

    • http://www.facebook.com/laura.smith.7773631 Laura Smith

      I like your logic.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Annie-Logan/100003592642609 Annie Logan

      It’s quite obvious that the school did not want to get rid of

      ALL the bad apples just the female one. I don’t think that Jason should have been expelled for requesting the topless photo, but he should have been expelled for forwarding it. It seems like it is selective enforcement of the rules.

    • Gmama

      I think anyone who forwarded the picture should be punished. However, the article shows no proof she didn’t mass text it to the team. Why the article has to Catholic bash I have no idea. What they did isn’t as bad as how the University system treats men accused by former girlfriends of sexual assault.

      Young women need to take responsibility for their actions. If a girls sends naked pictures of herself then yes, she is encouraging boys to have sexual thoughts about her ( as if teen boys need encouragement in this area). The boys are not rapists, and did nothing wrong if they only received the text.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Annie-Logan/100003592642609 Annie Logan

      The article shows no proof that “Jason” didn’t mass text the picture to the team either. The issue is that ONLY the young girl was made to take responsibility for her actions and the boy was not.

    • cjvg

      How about if they are the ones initiating and daring her to do so?
      That is perfectly fine behavior…for a boy right!
      As for your university claim, women are treated much much worse then men in the area of sexual assault there.
      The incidence of sexual assault on universities is almost double that of those in general society, the prosecution of them is even less.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Annie-Logan/100003592642609 Annie Logan

      I don’t think anyone should be punished for receiving a text, but they should be punished for forwarding it. If the girl was expelled for forwarding the picture, than any of the boys who forwarded the picture should also have been expelled.

    • cjvg

      They had the phones (how else could they have seen the picture)
      Every cellphone has a record of were and at what time a text was send and from which number it came.
      The parents would be more then happy to supply the records when requested, but hey that might actually proof culpability on the boy(s) part, can’t have that

  • The Truth Hurts

    I’m not indifferent to the culture, but for real? Nobody should be going after the boys for doing what boys do. If I was in high school and got a half naked pic of a girl, I’d be pretty happy and willing to share too. ESPECIALLY if that pic was sent to me unsolicited OR if the girl wasn’t forced into it, which she clearly wasn’t.

    • JennyWren

      This is not “what boys do.” This is what ill-mannered youths who haven’t been taught basic civil manners and the difference between right and wrong do. If we’re going to argue it’s somehow “natural” for a boy to share privileged information with his buds without consent at the drop of a hat, we have to concede it’s just as “natural” for the girl to send the picture in the first place. Frankly, this is just a case of stupid teenagers being stupid, and no-one should have been expelled for it, just given a hearty lecture on the importance of boundaries and respecting them.

    • @Jenny

      No, Jenny, it’s not what “ill-mannered youths” do. Nor is it what boys do. It’s what PEOPLE do. Guys who hook up with a girl talk to their buddies about it, and girls who hook up with a guy talk to their girlfriends about it. It’s fairly common in this day and age. Not realizing that is just denying the reality of how humans interact in our society.

    • JennyWren

      They may talk, but images are another thing, and if people seriously think it’s okay to share explicit sexual details about their partners with others they need to grow up.

    • @Jenny

      The only reason images are considered another thing is because it’s only recently become a reality that teenagers have the ability to disseminate images that quickly. Other generations did not have 4G smartphones. It’s just a matter of technology.

    • Gmama

      Who said it was privileged? Did she send it out saying don’t share this. Have girls gotten stupider since I was a girl? Before sexting, when I was in HS I would have assumed if I gave a picture of my boobs to a guy it would be passed around. That’s why you didn’t intimate pictures out to guys. It really isn’t that difficult. However, back then you assumed that if you got drunk, and had sex with some drunk guy it wasn’t rape it was a stupid action by both people.

    • http://profiles.google.com/elhoward El Howard

      If you forward a half-naked picture of an underage girl to anyone else, then legally you are guilty of distributing child pornography, in addition to being a douche for forwarding it without permission.

  • http://www.piperpixiedesigns.etsy.com/ PiperPixieDesigns

    Parents, if you have girls teach them to respect themselves, their bodies, and their brains! This is such a prevalent thing…..and it is so because we don’t monitor our children’s media consumption which encourages this kind of crap. Girls seem to grow up thinking this is what’s going to get them noticed and get them ahead in life, its the only reason they do it. A boy couldn’t possibly like you for your intelligence or creativity, you gotta flash em some nip. That way he is sure to like you. Right? RIGHT!?

    • JennyWren

      Agreed, but parents should also raise their sons to respect women, not to solicit nude photos from them and then consider themselves free to disseminate it. A sane response to this incident would have been to sit everyone down and talk about why you shouldn’t send sensitive images to people, and why if you do request and receive these images you should respect the wishes of the person sending them. That way they might have learned how not to be stupid in the future.

    • @Jenny

      Same response to your other post. By the way, you’re just commenting on everything today, aren’t you?

    • JennyWren

      Honestly, I’m finding the responses incredibly annoying. No-one is denying that this girl was foolish; but the boys are equally accountable and behaved just as badly. I don’t think anyone should have been expelled over this, but the administration’s response was undeniably one-sided.

    • @Jenny

      Honestly, I feel the same way about your responses. No one is denying that the boys COULD BE at fault– but the situation is one in which there’s no way for the school officials to prove they were, and everyone seems to be vilifying the school for not doing something outside of the scope of its power. There’s no way the administrators could have justified punishing the team on the word of the girl alone.

    • JennyWren

      Equally, there does not appear to be sufficient grounds for punishing the girl in this matter. A reasonable response would have been to give all the parties involved a talk on the subject of boundaries and consent, which hardly constitutes a punishment, and then, either leave it alone or (if they considered it to warrant it) report it to the police.

    • @Jenny

      You’re making that assumption based on what exactly? The school has to follow whatever policies it has in place and unless you’ve actually looked up the policies they have, you can’t say they have no “sufficient grounds” to pursue this or punish her in the way they did.

      I can’t speak for the school, but if I was an administrator I probably would not have reported it to the police because there are cases where teens are arrested and charged with distributing child pornography for taking pictures of themselves. Reporting it to the police would have been harmful to both the girl and the boys, none of whom deserve a child porn conviction on their record for what is undoubtedly idiotic teen behavior.

    • WieHalloThar

      Reporting it to the police is the only way to get a warrant for the phone records to see who was or was not knowingly forwarding child porn. Maybe the repercussions for that crime need to be looked at given its highly situational nature, but that’s another can of worms.

    • rulegal

      Do you really consider sending a picture of your chest to be child pornography? I think that is an overreach of the legal definition. Photos of other private parts would be pornography however. The girl made a mistake, her male friend made a worse mistake forwarding it to one other team member. The worst mistake was the third party forwarding it to all team members. The girl and the 2 boys deserve punishment (not expulsion) and ethics counseling. The entire team needs counseling also. A lot of childhood foolishness led to this event, and a lack of respect and good judgment on everyone’s part was the end result. The kids need guidance on personal accountability and respect for others. No one apparently was harmed or coerced into what happened, so let the punishment fit the offense. Do not ruin their lives individually or collectively over this event.

    • Gmama

      Nothing would have happened if she didn’t send a picture.

    • cjvg

      So are you!

  • CLE

    Sheesh, unless that whole lacrosse team is gay, WHICH i doubt anyone would say considering its a religious nut school(read Catholic) get your heads on straight, those old freaks degenerate women because the bible says to do it apparently. I’ve read the bible, not sure where they get that from and it confounds me but its thinking that comes from thousands of years of degenerating women. No matter what, its her fault and apparently non of you realize that by sharing the picture, he broke the promise of privacy the poor woman had. Its just like those revenge laws against exs that recently came into vote. But that’s asking too much because knowing boys, if they find a boobies pic its gonna get spread around no matter what yall say. Its not rape culture its boys being boys, taught by the school and their parents that women are nothing more than objects.

  • Stephen Evans

    Dude, it WAS a CATHOLIC prep school. She’s lucky she wasn’t sent immediately to a convent somewhere.

  • http://twitter.com/KylaWapshott Kyla Wapshott

    The way I think about it, if this girl had a wallet full of cash and decided to fling it off a bridge for a laugh and one of the boys found it, what should he do with it? Return it to her or share the dough around all his friends? There is a altruistic answer and a selfish, callow one. Time to pick! This is an imperfect analogy because it further commoditises women’s bodies but I hope it points to the moral core of the problem.

  • Anonymous Person

    Based solely on the facts given in the story, we know that the girl admitted to distributing child pornography (I’m assuming she is under 18 here).

    We also know that the girl accused one other boy of distributing the child pornagraphy she sent to him.

    It doesn’t look like anyone else is accused of distributing child pornography, although several others apparently were in possession of such. I’ll admit that I do not know the legalities involved with receiving and not immediately deleting child porn that you did not actively solicit. It seems like a catch-22, because on the one hand if you keep the picture, then you are in possession of child porn, and on the other hand if you delete it, you may be destroying evidence, which is also a crime.
    At any rate, of all the possible crimes listed above, there is only hard evidence of one (the pic and an apparent admission). The person perpetrating that crime (the girl) should be in jail, and the police, not the school, should be investigating any other alleged crimes that may have been committed here.
    I do not fault the school for discipling only the person who admitted to a crime, and not otheres who are merely accused of potential crimes.
    Hopefully, the authorities will properly investigate this and will determine whether other people also need to be charged, along with the girl.

  • DerpDDerperson

    I’ve never been harassed or traumatized by boobs.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1115913259 Dawn Raks

    I don’t think this is a good example of the rape culture. The girl, the boy she sent the pic to since he dared her to send the pic and then showed it to a friend, and the friend who forwarded it should have been punished. This is not the same case as girls having their pics taken when being violated.

    • http://www.facebook.com/sherry.laclair.3 Sherry LaClair

      It is rape culture…the girl was not raped, but in sending the picture to the boy I would assume she didn’t want the whole team to see it…..the boy shared it and the school punished the girl…..so allowing the girl’s (misguided) trust to be violated then punishing her and not the boys= training rapists

    • lenomdeplume

      The “rape culture” evidently includes women voluntarily sending tit pics (while completely sober and not being victimized) and them expecting no negative outcomes. If a guy sent a pic of his cock, he’d be charged as a sexual offender. Reciprocity? The female “victim” caused the entire furor for only one reason: to get attention from a casual acquaintance. Congrats, mission accomplished. Self-published porn, is not a good thing in any high school. Oh, but wait, she is the victim.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=504569633 Megan Leigh Russell Dame

    I understand that the young lady did something wrong but the young man or men responsible for transmitting the picture ARE guilty of distribution of child pornography. They should be punished as well. Although, the young lady willingly took the photograph herself and sent it herself, for most states the age of consent is 18 or 19. That’s why child pornography is illegal everywhere and in whatever form. Illegal. Illegal. Illegal. I don’t know how rules and regulations break down within a private, Catholic school, but I can’t see how the young lady received punishment and the young men were treated for mental trauma and comforted. That’s RIDICULOUS! Especially when you consider how HARSH her punishment was. Expulsion can haunt you for a lifetime. Sure a nude pic can as well,. but not as absolutely as expulsion can. I think they could have come up with a more fitting punishment and make it more evenly shared between her and the boys. I think the main point of the article is pointing out that just like in Steubenville, the young men involved are athletes and seem to be being “protected” by the people who are supposed to be protecting all of their students.

  • nebster10

    We’re talking about a catholic school. Obviously the school is more concerned about boys who priests may have been grooming for years.

  • JohnC

    In my opinion, it is “Jason” who should have been expelled. Alexis may have displayed appalling judgement in putting her topless photo on the internet, but Jason proved that he is a total jerk by sharing the photo which was obviously sent in confidence.

    • albaby2

      If she wanted only Jason to see them, she should have flashed him in private.

    • http://www.facebook.com/sherry.laclair.3 Sherry LaClair

      EXACTLY!!!!

    • lenomdeplume

      Amazing. A topless cell phone picture and an expectation of confidence. Wow.

  • Anonymous

    Hmmm —- I am a mom of 3 twenty-somethings, a previous teacher (high school), and I will state one thing that you glaringly overlooked…….. you stated that the stupidity of the situation is that the message is being sent that, “women are supposed to be the gatekeepers of male desire”……..NOPE — women should have enough self-respect to be the gatekeepers of their OWN desire. In this case, the young lady choose poorly, for whatever reason. The boys should also be punished for “not being the gatekeepers of their desire”, but until we teach children and young adults, PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY — none of this is going to have any effect. Stop the blame game — everyone should have been punished…… PERIOD. Having worked in a high school setting (all girls school) —- young women need to be taught self-respect and control of their bodies, their desires, and their ultimate REPUTATION!!! We’re failing our children horribly!!! They in turn are failing themselves.

  • http://www.facebook.com/dropthedish Rick Chandler

    One thing I don’t agree with @disqus_UuBFhlIqzH:disqus about is that everyone that received the picture should be punished. Now that’s silly. If she sent it to me, should I be punished? NO! I cannot control what someone sends me if I don’t know what I’m being sent (I know that was not the situation here). If a person RE-SENDS the picture, then they should be arrested. But to address the main point: It’s a Catholic institution. There are many fine, loving Catholics out there and I’m proud to call them friends, family, mentors. Catholic LEADERSHIP and many outspoken pro-Catholic organizations push the idea that women should know their place and keep it. You can’t expect a prep school like this to even begin to respect the women they claim to care about and educate. Sorry Alexis.

  • Keith T. Maxwell

    Lesson: Never show your face when filming home porn.

  • http://www.facebook.com/jennifer.mayfield.39142 Jennifer Mayfield

    Really you had to play the religion card, as a female who has bee sexually assaulted, religion has nothing to do with blame it is the society we have created and movies and games contin
    ue to perpetuate!

  • http://profiles.google.com/kithogan Kit Hogan

    are teen girls today just plain stupid? dont’ send naked pix and stop binge drinking. have some pride and self respect…………you’re acting like whores!!!!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/bruce.murchison Bruce P Murchison

    I find what happened absolutely horrible. Yes, there should have been discipline, for ALL of them, and then counseling about the inappropriateness of their actions. As for your reference to “antiquated religious beliefs”, that statement is almost as much an affront to me as the decision made by the idiots who decided the boys shouldn’t be held responsible for their actions. It is a prime example of stereotyping, lumping all people of Faith together. My sons are taught to respect women and they ever hit a lady or treat them disrespectful, they will incur a wrath they will not soon forget. As for my daughters, neither they nor my sons are allowed to date until they are 16. They are treated EQUALLY. Some people actually live what they believe.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Jon-King/100000693918876 Jon King

    Fact is had she not sent the picture NONE of this would have happened. Sending it was a crime.

  • http://twitter.com/insiteundergrou insiteunderground

    Really? Is this for real?

    1. People just celebrated POT DAY in Colorado – Legally!
    2. The President of the United States admitted to using crack cocaine – Nothing Was Done!
    3. Teachers are incarcerated for sleeping with sex driven teens – Nothing Happened To The Teens… The teachers are now felons!

    4. High School students are having binge drinking parties, 3sums, and making homemade porn films… Where are the parents? Nothing was done to the parents! But, the teens involved were accused of rape by an intoxicated teen girl that knew what the party was about…
    5. The US Government sold Mexican Drug Cartels Automatic weapons to murder Americans – Nothing Was Done!
    6. The US Congress REFUSES to secure our borders…
    7. There were hundreds of people posting online assassination threats against a presidential candidate… Nothing Was Done!
    8. A young 13 year old girl engages in “sexting” with a 20 year old man – The man gets 55 years in prison. The 13 year old gets patted on the back while the mother sues the organization for millions!

    My point is… The USA is out of control. People are losing their minds, emotions, and sense of character. The US governing authorities are legalizing illegal drugs, and encouraging immoral lifestyles. I think we have more important matters to address than humiliating a young mature woman because of her physical age. Again, where are the parents? What are the parents doing, teaching, and offering as an example?

    THE USA IS LOST!!!!

  • Andrea

    Does anybody care that none of this happens if the girl does not send the photo in the first place? Since she is a minor, she engaged in the dissemination of child pornography. Whether the team should have been punished as well is another issue, but the whole thing started when she committed an act that was both illegal and stupid.

  • really

    What part of DO NOT text nude pix did she not understand? It has been all over the news for years. That said, the boy showed it to a friend who then sent it. Maybe he thought it was art. I personally think no one should be disciplined unless school rules dictate you can not send nude pictures of yourself as a student of the school. Society has deemed do what you want when you want and do not take responsibility for your actions. Heck, I judge said a man who is charged with manslaughter is incompetent to stand trial because English nor Spanish is his first language. You reap what you sow.

  • Know For It

    She should have been expelled. That was a good call. Boys should be prosecuted for disseminating child porn as the girl is under 18. Obviously being accused and, hopefully, convicted of disseminating child porn, the boys will all be expelled.

  • exx

    Okay, yet ANOTHER case of a over sexist female reporter that doesn’t realize they are hurting their own case. If the whole thing about rape is that men need to respect girls more, then why aren’t some of these girls holding themselves up to a higher standard? When she takes a image of herself and post it online, the internet is not responsible for how many times that picture gets reproduce or distributed. That is a legal president.

    In this case, I say she got what she deserved and was lucky it didn’t amount to a Steubenville or the other one with the suicide incident. The more these girls market themselves like sluts and whores the more they are going to be treated as such. That is not to say the guys are innocent, they are responsible for their final act. However, it still comes down to marketing…if you advertise a car as being able to drive down a snow covered street like it was bare, who is at fault for the accident? The idiot doing 70 on a highway covered in ice who totaled the car, or the manufacturer? I’ll give you a hint, as Ford and GM who was found at fault for similar incidents.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000428112118 Luke Solo

    So if she sent me a nude photo I should be suspended for sharing it? That being the case she could mail these photos to ANYONE she wants to get into trouble. SHE took the photo. She shared the photo. She started the problem. Her responsibility. One immature girl who didn’t get enough love from her daddy growing up destroys the the lives of the entire boys Lacrosse team. That’s not right. Ah, estrogen logic.

  • jason

    It’s not their fault she is a slut! Parents fail to teach a girl to be accountable for her actions and blame other people when their daughter’s pictures get spread. I for one am glad the victims of her sexting were not punished the way our misguided society normally does. She should receive the same treatment as anyone else: Be charged as a sex offender, be on the registry and be punished to the fullest extent of the law.

  • albaby2

    The girl is stupid. No further comments necessary.

  • Catholic School Graduate

    This isn’t about justice it’s about money. The catholic schools need to keep their student enrollment numbers. If they expelled any guilty lacrosse students (if any did forward the photo), they would lose standing and students. This costs them $$$ and that’s what the catholic church really wants.

  • AZ

    I am disturbed by the argument being made that the girl’s body isn’t her own to make her own decisions. If she choses to take a picture of herself-that is her right no matter what age she is. It is her body. We need to stop teaching girls that their bodies are not their own. She was probably coerced if not by the boy, then by the media portrayal of hypersexuality of minors in our culture. If we do not teach girls that their bodies is theirs we will continue the rape culture and the patriarchy that evades our culture still.

    • Joshua50

      There is no rape involved in this case whatsoever, so why do you insist on trying to deflect the conversation from one of personal accountability by this girl, to one of sex discrimination and abuse?

      She’s apparently very immature, gullible, and shouldn’t be permitted to have a phone for her own protection. These young men can’t help it if she decided to sext them an inappropriate photo of herself.

    • http://www.facebook.com/sherry.laclair.3 Sherry LaClair

      the boy she sent it to should know better and should be punished for treating private situations as if they were public…

    • Joshua50

      Your assuming he forwarded the picture, and that she herself didn’t mass mail it. Her phone records could easily verify which account is accurate. I wonder why she hasn’t made them public or at least available to the school officials..

    • Joshua50

      We don’t know for a fact that he sent it on.. We do know that she sent the photo however. People need to stop blaming these young men for her stupidity.

      Would you send a photo like that Sherry to some guy you hardly know? If not, why are you defending her?

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Robin-Lavender/1813764480 Robin Lavender

    To me this is just another example of how athletes receive deferential treatment in our schools. It has been this way for several decades. Just look at the outrageous sums of money spent on athletic facilities and teams while science classrooms go without supplies. For some reason (that I totally fail to understand) athletes are seen in a different light than other students, and are usually given the benefit of the doubt, often in spite of actual evidence.

    When we look at the top students in our schools as our local heroes instead of teh athletes then perhaps this “athletes can do no wrong” attitude will change, but I’m not holding my breath.

  • Joshua50

    Maybe we need a law requiring an IQ test before you can own a cell phone of other electronic device capable of sending text messages or photos.. Obviously this young lady would never of had access to one. LOL

  • DefendSanity

    Guys can’t mass text a photo that doesn’t exist. The guys couldn’t be a part of the so called “rape culture” if the girl wasn’t a part of the “dumbass culture.” She wasn’t raped. She did it to herself.

    • cjvg

      And of course guys should never be held responsible for making the voluntary and disrespectful decision to forward a private photo without the consent or knowledge of the girl involved

  • Critmon

    Talk about a bunch of idiots, all of the people in here thinking like adults. Teenage boys like to look at boobs, as do adult males. And if some girl sends me pictures of her boobs I’m going to look at them. Our whole female culture is based on women being proud of their boobs and showing them off for the most attention. The girl made a childish mistake and sent out a photo of them, a learning lesson. Don’t publish anything that can be resent to everyone. If it was a public school this would be a thing where she would be told not to do it again, but this is a Catholic school and they don’t tolerate these types of missteps. Lesson learned, if you don’t want men to enjoy the female form the race will die out.

  • Lisa

    Stupid bitch, what did she expect? She sent the picture, she should be expelled. She put those other idiots on the Lacrosse team in a situation where they themselves could have been arrested for possession of child pornography. Let this be a lesson to all the girls out there that want to act trashy. Same for the female teachers sleeping with their students and sending sext/text mesages…it is just a matter of time before you get caught so when you do don’t be looking here for sympathy and playing the victem card.

    • lenomdeplume

      I agree. As long as we are expecting responsible behavior (rightly so) that expectation should include both sides of the gender line. That female student created a “sexually charged atmosphere”. Read: Sexual Harassment.

    • cjvg

      But a male student initiating a dare of send me a topless picture did not?!

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Annie-Logan/100003592642609 Annie Logan

      I don’t think she or the boys expected anything to come of this. The real issue is that ONLY the girl was punished. The boy who forwarded the picture should have also been expelled. I don’t think that anyone can control what is texted to them, but the sure can control what they forward. I didn’t read where the girl was expecting anyone to see her as a victim, I got the impression that the issue is that the girl was punished and the boy was not. If what she did was worthy of getting her expelled, then the boy who did the same thing should also be expelled.

  • Clay Leslie

    I haven’t read all the comments but in browsing the list of them I haven’t seen suggestions as to how this might have been handled if the boy had sent a topless picture to the girl. According to the original story there was no sexual activity involved with the picture. Hence the photo was simply a photo not really pornography. Graphic representations of woman whose chests and breasts are visible have been a part of culture throughout history, including in the Catholic church.

    The girl gets punished because their was more fat on her chest than you would find on a young man? Would it be an issue if the roles were reversed? This is really between the girl and her parents, who, if they are not happy should take appropriate action, and the girl and the boy who passed the photo on, if she didn’t care for the distribution, and the boy’s parents if they felt passing it on was somehow dishonorable.

    The schools interest is rooted in the fact that unlike a public school, people send their children there for an education that involves a spiritual aspect, inappropriate in a publicly funded setting. That aspect extends to matters outside school hours and off property.

    In other words, this shouldn’t be about boobs.

  • http://twitter.com/GlenCubed Glen Hays

    The whole tape narrative loses. Especially.in reference to a boys lacrosse them. Cheap shot.

  • Papkin

    Where can i download the pikture?

  • bigdaveroni

    i think nasty dirty girls should be punished…..expel her….

    • lenomdeplume

      troll

  • bigdaveroni

    good thing Jason didn’t ask for something else…
    nasty girl
    probably has the morning after pill in her purse next to her free birth control….
    glad to see a school being equal if it was a boy he would have been dealt with….

    • cjvg

      Oh, but Jason is a fine upstanding boy that solicits naked pictures of girls when he is overcome by the devil!

  • bigdaveroni

    she must be a democrat

    • lenomdeplume

      Troll.

  • Scott

    I try to be objective when I read articles, but really. Did the “boys” make her take off her clothes and send the pic. You refer to boys that can’t help themselves but what about the girl who disrobes and send topless pics of herself for all to see. Your Rape Culture is created by people like you. Girls can act however they want and boys are just supposed to sit by and appreciated the girls individual acts of independence (send boob pics). Whatever, cuddle with your stuffed animals.

  • johnsmith9875

    I always thought male lacrosse players were gay, who knew!

  • SBUS

    THAT will teach you not to go to Catholic school. I’m surprised that everyone is so upset and amazed that an antiquated, out-of-touch and outdated institution would act,well, EXACTLY like we’d expect them to. Who could have guessed???

    • http://twitter.com/SkyeADG Joel

      Your argument really has little to do with it being a Catholic institution. History has shown that the majority of the schools who have made the news for acting in this manner have been public institutions. It’s more about the sports team getting a free pass than anything else. Though, again, remember that this isn’t a news story. It’s a blog – one with an agenda. Most bloggers have agendas and that’s not a bad thing. However, it would probably be a good idea to look for an unbiased source for the whole story before passing judgement on what happened here.

  • Goodknyght

    This entire thing is disgusting to me, at my core, I am appaled. I wont argue that this girl should not have been expelled(although that is my own personal opinion) I can not see where there is any reasonable justification for sheilding these boys who COULD HAVE and SHOULD HAVE been able to prove their innocence. To say that no parent would open their child up to trouble and embarrasment by giving the school phone records is absurd. If we are talking about teaching responsibilty and demanding that our kids act beyond their age without fail or fault, then it is the only logical option for the responsible parent. Not only that, I can tell you as a reformed teenage boy(now responsibly 33 years of age) the odds that this boy did indeed solicit the picture, are as about as close to 100 percent as anything could be. To those who make the arguement that it was only she, who said that the boys were responsible for the mass sending, while they were unified in their claim that she did it herself goes beyond my conception of the word” ridiculous”, if anything it would only strengthen the arguement for being made to provide the cell phone records, as the obviously implication on the boys part would be conspiracy, which would prove a far more dangerous trait to nuture, than youthful recklessness at a institution so concerned with responsible proper behavior. Also to say that because she opened the door to the possiblity that this could happen that excuses them from of their proper share of the responsiblity is like someone saying that because you opened your door to a person you thought you knew, from that point on they are not in any way responsible if they bring 10, 50, 100, 1000 people into your home and burn it to the ground. THAT particular idea is so far beyond stupid it boggles the mind. I might also be inclined to to say that a religous organization with a rather…………lets just say…….. “questionable” record in reguards to the response to reports of sexual misconduct, might want to be a bit more demanding of the truth from all parties involved. I dont have a horse in this race, as to who did what when where and how but I know enough to know this. Kids will be kids they will make stupid decisions THAT is their job it always has been and it is always will be. Our jobs as Parents especially and adults in general is to try use the lessons we learned making our own good AND bad decisions to steer these kids from the same. It isnt always easy, and it isnt always fun and NO ONE ever succeeds in stopping a child from never making one bad decision in life. This situation is not unique, original and is DEFINATELY not new although the means of dissemination is.

  • Driveserve

    That’s a big jump; sharing a photo is the same as rape. The other jump you make is your assumption that the young lady is question is being truthful. The only undisputed point I see is that she took a photo of herself, a minor, and sent it to one or many receipients. That’s a felony. Having that pic on our phone is as well, but I think receiving an unrequested photo carries a lesser burden of responsibility. The school saw fit to expell her. She’s lucky the the law hasn’t indicted her as well (as far as I know)

  • http://twitter.com/SkyeADG Joel

    A few things – First, in most states what she did (and what anyone on the team who forwarded the picture did) is a sex crime. Which is a stupid law, in my opinion (as everyone involved was around the age of the person in the picture and it was taken and sent willingly by that person). However, at this time, that’s the law.

    Second, the rule on the internet, as everyone should know, is that once you post it, you no longer control it. Once you send it to someone else, you no longer control it. Her punishment is justified under regulations the school district has about sexting.

    Third, anyone (male or female) who forwarded the picture on should have received the same punishment the first person (the girl) did. As was stated, it’s not that hard to determine if she sent it to the entire team, or to one guy.

    If she hadn’t sent it while at school, then I’d feel differently. She should not be punished at all if that were the case. Neither should the lacrosse players. However, since (taking it as a given as the article applies this throughout) that it did happen at school, all should be punished equally. Probably not expelled, however.

    I also agree with several other comments that you’re making a big jump equating this to something that leads to rape.. and that you seem to presume she is being honest. She may be lying. Teenagers do that, you know.

    However, she and the lacrosse player(s) who SENT the message on do deserve to be approached, examined, and (if needed) punished in the same way.

  • chris

    This is no harassment. The picture was requested. also The boys where not upset about getting a booby picture on there phone. Everyone involved should be held responible.

  • JC

    She was expelled for competing with the Priests for the boys attention.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001832859722 Mike Carter

    Go just a little bit overboard with the “even if she’s guilty it’s not her fault” theme? Everyone involved should be punished appropriately – but comparing them to a rape culture and claiming that they’re raising future rapists? Get a grip.

  • DontTrustAnyone

    Lesson to all underage kids dealing with school officials: Just like Police: Deny Everything and get a lawyer – School officials or Police Liasons can question children without parents present and then report to police… http://www.mequonnow.com/news/cninews/134906013.html

  • http://www.facebook.com/richardjwee Richard Wee

    I smell lawsuit, big time. There will be a payout to the girl, and nothing else will happen. Unless the parent demand that everyone gets suspended and kicked out of school.

  • steve vaughn

    This whole discussion is so depressing. Why are a woman’s breasts pornographic? If a MALE lacrosse player had sent an unsolicited bare chested shot of himself to a girl, nothing would have happened. The whole concept of punishing a woman for baring her chest is disgustingly medieval. I guess we should be thankful, they consider burning her at the stake?

  • stoney colburn

    im a thirty one year old male who still remembers his high school years. I remember the mardi gras bead craze. I remember when it was cool for a girl to flash her tits at a guy who had a camera/phone. it was never a big thing in my school and I grew up in the south. we relised that kids do stupid things. and the only problem I see here is that the administration found out and pitched a hissy fit. first thing if they (the administration) have a problem with the photo then punish all involved, not just the poor girl who was supposedly responding to a dare. the lacross players should be punished as well. and I personly don’t believe that it warrents expulsion. now I have an old scrapbook from when I was in high school. and I was looking through it after I read about this and I relised I have a few pics that a few girls might not be happy that I have. I have since destroyed those pictures in the essence that I wouldn’t want to cause anyone any problems in there adult lives. I want to point out to young girls that before they send someone a picture they need to make sure its someone they trust. kids are kids until proven otherwise. lol
    and remember these things tend to come back and haunt you

  • http://www.facebook.com/allan.jones.52 Allan Jones

    OK, the girl is an idiot!! That being said, THIS IS MESSED UP!!!!! Zero consequences for the boys who “distributed” her picture??? I’m betting the Lacrosse team is highly rated and we don’t want to take a chance on ruining their season of something…..

  • john walsh

    Lets put everybody involved, on the unconstitutional sex offender registry for possessing child pornography! Yes! That will teach them! Put them all on the list and destroy their lives forever including all of their families. How dare do they look at Gods creation of the human body that isn’t covered with some kind of cloth! Oh the horrors! The horrors!

  • David116

    Sry, disagree, expel the sl%t, and young boys will do what they always have.

  • NativeBornUSA

    anne logan evil incarnate bigot to the max