Jealousy isn’t a pretty trait. While movies and books make the jealous partner look endearing (usually the man, because, you know, a jealous woman is an entirely different specimen), it can actually be annoying, suffocating and, at times, scary. Healthy relationships shouldn’t have aspects of scary unless you’re snuggled up on the couch and accidentally flick past Keeping Up With The Kardashians. That shit is scary.
But being jealous means being human. It’s human to occasionally feel some jealousy over the successes of a friend, or to have an internal flame brew within your stomach as you watch your significant other get a bit flirty. If you can keep it under control, great! If you can’t, then you need help. Jealousy hurts.
If you happen to be in a relationship with someone who is the jealous kind, you can help. You may not be able to wipe the jealousy free from their brains or heart, but you can at least ease their pain.
In the words of Jay Gatsby, F. Scott Fitzgerald‘s iconic character who didn’t just embody opulence, but showed exactly what intense jealousy can both accomplish and drive someone to, “Just tell him the truth — that you never loved him — and it’s all wiped out forever.” That type of jealousy isn’t an easy one to shake, but it did make for a beautiful story. In real life, Jay probably would have had a restraining order out against him.
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